Akunakwenzeka ukuba nayiphi na yabazali bangathanda ukuba umntwana angene kwiingubo ezingcolileyo, ahlakaze izinto naphi na aze ashiye izitya emva kwakhe. Kodwa kunye ne-nerked "nerd" engabonakali kunye namakhwenkwe, okokuba, uThixo makwenqabe, kungekhona ukuba ahlambe ihembe, ayikho inketho. Kuphi igolide ithetha ntoni? Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba ahambe aze aqeqeshe? Kwaye into ephambili akuyikuyidlula ...?
Okokuqala, makhe sibone isizathu sokuba sifuna ukufundisa abantwana bethu ntoni? Ekugqibeleni, bonke abantu bahluke, kukho iindawo ezipheleleyo, zihlala, zinelisekile ngokwazo. "Hayi apha!" - iingcali zengqondo. Kukho izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba kutheni kubalulekile ukuba ufunde umntwana ngokuchaneka. Okokuqala, INKQUBO YOPHUHLISO. Ingcinga yomntwana ihlelwe ngendlela enokuthi ukuphuhliswa kwayo kwenzeka ngokuyalela yonke into ebonayo. Ukuba uhlala ebona ingxabano phambi kwakhe, ngoko uphuhliso lwakhe luyehla. Okwesibini, kufuneka ufunde ukuhlala nabantu. Ngexesha lobomi bakho, umntwana wakho uya kubakho amaxesha amaninzi kwiimeko apho kuyimfuneko ukuba abekho ngapha nangapha nabanye abantu. Ukuze ukungacaciseki ukuba ungayithinteli umntwana wakho ekuhlaleni ubudlelwane nabo, kubalulekile ukulungiselela ubomi bentsapho yakho ngokuchanekileyo. Iingcali zengqondo zichonga imigaqo emininzi ekufuneka ilandelwe ukuze yonke intsapho ifunde imigaqo yehostele.
INQUNUNU 1: Phila uze uphile
Imithetho ilula: ukuba uthathe into - uyibuyisele endaweni, ukuba uvula into - vala, kwaye xa
endlwini umntu olele - musa ukwenza ingxolo ... Kusukela ebuntwaneni, kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba azikhathalele.
INQUNUNU 2: Imvakalelo emihle kuphela
Ungalokothi ujezise umntwana ngenxa yokungabi nentshiseko enkulu yokucoca. Kuya kuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo ukuba wayethanda ukutshiza phantsi okanye ukuhlamba izitya.
Musa ukumphoqa umntwana ukuba ahlambulule, kufuneka avule oku: "Ndicocekile, kuba ndiyayithanda xa ihlambulukile."
Yiza ngeemeko ezahlukeneyo zokucoca amathoyizi (umzekelo, amathoyizi athambileyo athunyelwa "kwenye iplanethi" - ebhokisini).
Hlela ukhuphiswano (ngubani obeka amathoyizi ebhokisini ngokukhawuleza).
Musa ukuyikhathaza ukuze uthuthuke. Naliphi na umntwana usebenza kwendalo: iqulethe umzenzeli wokulingisa abantu abadala. Yingakho ukhawuleza ukusinceda okanye ukukopisha izenzo zethu. Ukuba ngaloo mzuzu uva "Musa ukunyuka!", "Usencinci" okanye "Awuyi kuphumelela", le mvakalelo iya kukhishwa kwingcambu. Kwaye uyamangalisa: kutheni uceceke kangaka? Kungenxa yokuba kwakumfuneko ukubamba umzuzu ngaphambili, xa ekunikezela ngoncedo olungenakulungele.
INQUNUNU 3: Yonke into idinga ukucaciswa
Akufanele unike umntwana umzekelo omhle wokusingatha izinto, kodwa uchaze nokuba kutheni ukwenza. Kuphela ke umntwana uya kugcina i-oda engaqhelekanga, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo.
• Tshela umntwana ngothuli: inobungozi (othulini bukhokho obuphilayo obangela ukunyuka komzimba).
• Chaza ukuba kutheni kufuneka ubeke izinto kwindawo yawo: kuba ngenye indlela ungazukufumana.
• Kutheni sifanele sigcine yonke into efana nayo (ivala iingcango, ungaphosa i-tube ye-toothpaste)? Kungenxa yokuba omnye umntu ufuna ukuzisebenzisela oku, kwaye akanako ukukhathazeka.
INQUNUNU 4: Ukugcina umyalelo kufuneka kube lula
Kakade ke, akudingeki ukuba umntu ahlaziye ngokungabalulekanga inkqubo yokudala ikhaya kunye nokucoceka komzimba: izinto ziqhelekileyo kwaye akunakulungele ukubeka ubomi babo. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uzame ukuqinisekisa ukuba le nxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi ibakho ebomini ubuncinane. Namhlanje, ngenhlanhla, kukho iindlela ezininzi ezi. Gcoba indlu yakho ukwenzela ukuba ukuyigcina ngendlela elula kwaye kuyamnandi:
• Ungasebenzisi izimbobo kunye nokugqiba ukuqokelela uthuli (iimaphephethi, iipatethi, imida);
• Gcina izinto ezincinci kwiindawo zokuvala okanye kwiishalafu zeglasi;
• Susa izakhiwo ezingezantsi ezifuna ukucinywa rhoqo ngothuli;
• fumana ezininzi iibhokisi kunye neebhotile zezinto ezincinci;
• Musa ukugcina zonke imidlalo zamathoyizi ebantwini: ezinye zazo zimele zifihlwe kwii-shelves eziphezulu, kwaye xa umntwana sele esele azilibale, tshintsha "ukuchazwa";
• kwindawo yokuhlambela, faka izitya ezininzi zokuhlamba impahla engcolileyo: umhlophe, omnyama kunye nombala - kwaye uchaze kuyo yonke imizi apho ungayifaka khona (ngokukhawuleza ufundise umntwana ukuba atshintshe i-panties, iisokisi kunye nezinye iimpahla xa ziba zintlaka) .
INQUNUNU 5: Musa ukukhawuleza
Umnqweno wolawulo, ubonakale usemncinci, uguquka zonke iintlobo zeenguqu kunye nemitramorphoses. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana njengoko bekhulela ngaphandle kwe-chistyul bajika baba ngamanqatha okanye ngokulandelana. Oku kunokutshintshwa kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zengqondo. Kodwa intsingiselo ihlala enye: ngokupheleleyo imfuneko yokucoceka kunye nokuhlelwa kwenziwa kumntu kunokuba ifike emva - ngexesha lokuzaliswa okupheleleyo komntu (malunga neminyaka engama-25). Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza ("Akucaci ukuba kuphi - sihlambulukile"), ayikho imikhwa emihle kakhulu, ungakhathazeki kwaye uyibethe zonke iintsimbi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba ebuntwaneni umntwana wayebekwe imimiselo enempilo yokucoceka nokuchaneka, ngoko, ekubeni ngumdala, uya kubuyela kubo. Yonke into inexesha layo. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu ufuna "ukuphuma" kwexesha elithile elinzima: ininzi idla ngokukodwa ekamelweni lentombazana luhlobo lwezinto eziphathekayo zokudideka eziqhubekayo emphefumlweni wakhe.
Le tafile iya kukuxelela indlela yokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba alandele kwaye aqeqeshe kakuhle.
Ubudala | Oko umntwana angakwenza | Ungamnceda njani |
Ukususela kumnyaka wokuqala | ? qo kelela ii-toy ? udibanisa iincwadi kunye neemagazini ? ukuzibhenela ngokubhekiselele kwindlu yokuhlambela ? ukukhulula umatshini wokuhlamba (faka uhlamba kwindawo yesitya) ? ukuxhoma ibhatyi kwi-hook emva kokuhamba | Zonke izenzo ukuzama ukuvelisa kunye nomntwana, bonise yonke into uze uyichaze kaninzi |
Ukususela kwiminyaka emi-2 ubudala | ? uncedo olubekwe etafileni (cwangcisa izitya, iifolokhwe kunye neepuni) ? uncedo ekhitshini (ugxobhoze inhlama yee-pancakes, i-peel litate in uniform, njl.) ? hlamba isitya kunye nendebe emva kwakho ? ukusula uthuli ngendwangu ekhethekileyo ? amanzi amanzi ? kuthwala ibhodwe | Kubalulekile ukuxhobisa indawo yendawo yomntwana. Igumbi (okanye ikona kuyo) kufuneka ilungiselelwe ngendlela enokuthi into nganye inendawo yayo kuyo, ifumaneke kumntwana |
Ukususela kwiminyaka engama-4 | ? ukubeka kwiimathoyizi zabantwana ngendlela ayithandayo kwaye ubonakale entle (ungamphazamisi kwaye ungammangaleli ukuthanda kwakhe) ? hlamba kwizinto zabo ezincinci izinto: i-handkerchief, iisokisi, i-panties ? Gcoba kwaye ululaze umgangatho nge-mop | Umntwana uvuka evakalelwa kukuba: kulona nyaka kubaluleke kakhulu kuye ukuba yintoni indawo ejikelezayo. Jonga indlu yakho. |
Ukususela kwiminyaka engama-7 | ? unomsebenzi wendlu osisigxina (umzekelo, jonga izityalo zangaphakathi, usule uthuli egumbini lakho, uhlambe isanti kwindawo yokuhlambela) ? ukuzijonga ngokuzimeleyo ukubonakala kwazo (gcina iimpahla ezihlambulukileyo, thumela kwindawo yohlamba engcolileyo) ? uyakwazi ukupheka ukutya okulula (amaqanda ahlambulukileyo, isaladi) | Musa ukumgxeka umntwana ukuba wenza into engalunganga. Mnike ukuzimela. Ukugcinwa komyalelo kufuneka kubonwe njengomsebenzi onzima. |
Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-12 | ? ukugcina umyalelo kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo (indawo yokuhlambela, indlu yangasese, i-corridor, igumbi lokuhlala) ? hlambulula igumbi lakho | Kukulungele ukulungelelanisa ngaphakathi kwaye uthenge ubuchule obuhle. |
IINTSHA EZINYE.
Mkhuphe umntwana kumsebenzi ocebileyo wokuhlambulula indlu yodwa, kungcono ukwenza konke oku kunye: omnye ucocekile, omnye uhlamba umgangatho, wesithathu uyasula uthuli, njl. Kwenzeka kokubili ngokukhawuleza kwaye kumnandi ngakumbi. Ngendlela, kukwabanceda abantu abadala ukuba bamkele esi siko esihle kwaye bangabi nkunkuma yonke imicimbi yasekhaya kwindlovukazi yendlu.
Ukuze uzame isandla sabo ukuze bakwazi ukuhlala nabanye abantu kwaye bangaziphazamisi, kubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana oneminyaka eyi-10-12 ukutyelela inkampu yabantwana. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo abantwana babuya apho bekhulile kwaye banembile ngakumbi.
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