Ukuze uzincede uphendule lo mbuzo, okokuqala kufuneka uqonde isizathu saloo mbuzo. Ayenzeki ukuba intombazana ayithandanga nantoni na. Kukho umthengi kuyo yonke imveliso. Umbuzo, ngaba lo mthengi ufanelekile?
Cinga, yiyiphi imilinganiselo obeka phambili kuyo kukhethiweyo? Ewe, wonke umfazi unelungelo lakhe. Kumntu, lo mkhonto ngaphandle kokwesaba nokuhlambalaza, kwaye umntu uphupha umntu ombi onomphefumlo ococekileyo kunye nobuthathaka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakungubani, wonke umntu uyazi oko bafuna. Kodwa akusiyo yonke intombazana eqonda ukuba abantu abalungileyo abakho. Andikwazi ukufumana indoda, kutheni ibubi kangaka? - Abanye abafazi bacela. Ngaba akufanelekile ukucinga ukuba yonke into ehlabathini ihambelana. Ukuba indoda iphosa iisokisi zayo malunga nendlu yayo kwaye iyamncoma, kodwa isagqoba izandla zayo, ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ikhangele i-ideal okanye ingcono ukuthanda okwenene?
Iikhomishana ziphela kwiintetho zeendlovu kunye nee-melodramas ezilila. Ubomi bwenene, wonke umntu unesiphako, njengokuba, ngendlela, kunye nabesifazane bonke. Kodwa kaninzi asiqapheli iingxaki zethu, kodwa kwabanye sibona into encinane, yonke impazamo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akufanele ugijime kwi-cross-cross, kodwa akunangqiqo ukwenza imigangatho ephakamileyo. Ungaphupha malunga nokulungelelanisa ubomi bakho bonke kwaye uhlale wedwa, ngokudlula abantu abafanelekileyo abathembekileyo.
Icala eliphambili xa umfazi ekulungele ukuba nabani na ukuxolela yonke into. Amadoda ayidingi i-rag eguqa ngamadolo. Ezi ntombi azivusisi izilwanyana zomzingeli, kwaye inzala iyaphela. Yingakho, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ulungele ukwenza yonke into enokuthi ngayo indoda, ngokukhawuleza uqale usebenze ngokwakho, ngaphandle koko uya kusetyenziswa kuphela kwaye uyasigxina.
Sekunjalo kukho uluhlu lwabasetyhini abanqwenela ukuba "isoka labo" kunye "nomzalwana". La mabhinqa anamahlobo amaninzi abathanda nothando lwabo. Kodwa nje ngomhlobo. Inyani kukuba ubudlelwane bobudlelwane kunye namadoda bayibala ukuba uyintombazana.
Ewe, unako ukusela ubhiya ukusuka emqaleni wakho kwaye uhambe ngesantya sezemidlalo esondeleyo kunye nabahlobo bakho abasondeleyo, kodwa akukho mfuneko ukuba uziphathe ngale ndlela phambi komntu ongenakho. Ukuba uqala ukuzibeka njengomhlobo, akunakwenzeka ukuba into echaphazela lo mbono wokuqala. Yingakho, fundisa ukuba ngumfazi. Ukuba uhamba ngomhla okanye kwinkampani apho into yakho ingqalelo, yifake izicathulo ngezithende, uthathe izambatho ezintle kwaye ungazami ukuthetha malunga nendlela ohamba ngayo ngeveki kunye nabafana ukuba baye ukuloba kwaye balwe namaqabane angamaqhina. Nangona oko kuyinto yakho evamile, eqhelekileyo, ubomi obuqhelekileyo, indoda ayifanele yazi malunga nayo. Uyakwazi ukubona kuwe kuphela inentyantyambo enobuntshwankqisayo, enobulunga obuhle, kwaye akusiyo i-cactus ekwazi ukuqinisekisa ngokukhawuleza nabani na ngoncedo lweebitshi. Amadoda kufuneka akhusele aze akhusele inenekazi. Abasetyhini badalwa izilumko, emva koko. Kungenxa yoko, sinokukwazi ukudibanisa nentombazana encinane kunye ne-madam, sifanele sizame kancane.
Enye into ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba abantu abaqhelekileyo bafana nabasetyhini abahlakaniphile. Yaye ukuba unako ukuxelela iMonet ukusuka eManet, kuya kunceda ukunceda. Kusoloko ufuna ukuba ufundise kwaye uphuhlise ngokomoya. Akukho nawuphi na umfazi okhutshelwe ukuba azi iincwadi, umculo, ubugcisa kunye nobugcisa. Umfana ofanelekileyo unokuhlala eqala ingxoxo ngento enje, kwaye uya kumangaliswa ukuba unokumxhasa ngokulula.
Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba awunayo inkwenkwe, kuba ukubonakala akuphelelanga njengoko ufuna. Enye enye impazamo enkulu yabasetyhini. Indoda ayisoze yamthanda umntu odelela. Baziva zethu iingxaki, njengezinja ziyesaba. Kungoko, nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukubonisa ukungakuthandi xa uyingumfana. Esikhundleni sokuxelela bonke abantu ukuba unobungozi bunjani, kungcono ukuba uzinyamekele. Ngoko wena kunye nokuzithemba kuya kwanda kwaye iingaphumeleli ziya kutshabalala.
Intombazana nganye inokuba yinto ekhangayo. Ukuba awuyithandi isibalo - yenza i-aerobics uze ufumane impilo. Musa ukulungelelanisa iinwele - buyisela indawo ye-shampoo, yenza iimaski, utshintshe izinwele, ulungise kwakhona. Ucinga ukuba lo mntu akazange aphume - uzame ukuzenzela kwaye ukhethe enye eya kugxininisa ngokucacileyo isidima sakho kwaye ifihle imiphumo.
Ufuna nje ukufumana indawo yakho kwaye ufunde indlela yokuyisebenzisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka uchithe ixesha kunye nemali kuyo, kodwa kuyafaneleka. Kanti noKatya Pushkareva wenza intombazana enhle, kodwa ungcono kunalesi heroine. Ngoko kutheni ungazami kancinci, kwaye ungabi yi-swan epheleleyo. Khumbula ukuba i-destiny yakho ihlale isezandleni zakho kuphela, kwaye nguwe kuphela ongayitshintsha ibe yindawo engcono okanye embi.
Ukuze ukwandise ukuzithemba, unokuzibandakanya ekuqeqesheni ngokuzenzekelayo. Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukongezelela, uqeqesho luya kuvela ngokwawo. Ufuna nje ukuzixelela oko unokukwazi kwaye kufuneka ukholwe. Ubuhle obungaphandle - oku akusisitshixo sokuphumelela kwamadoda. Ukongeza kuyo, kufuneka ube nokholo kuwe kwaye uzithande njengelizwe lakho. Ukuba uhlala uzichukumisa ukuba ufanelwe uthando, ngolunye usuku uya kukwazi ukukholelwa kuyo, kwaye ngoko ubomi buya kuqala ukuphucula. Into eyona nto ayikuze ilahlekelwe kwaye ayiyikuyeka. Impumelelo ayifiki ngosuku olunye. Kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho, ukuze, ekugqibeleni, ukufezekisa umphumo ofunwayo.
Yonke intokazi inokuthanda umfana, kodwa kungekhona wonke umntu owaziyo ukusebenzisa ubufazi bakhe kwaye azilungiselele ngokufanelekileyo. Kungenxa yoko oku kuvela iingxaki ebusweni.
Zithande ngokwakho, ziqonde ngokwakho, wazi ukuba ugxininisa ubuhle kwaye emva koko ebomini bakho kuya kuba soloko kubekho kunye kunye kuphela oya kuba uyavuya. Kwaye ukutsho nje ukuba andinakufumana umntu oya kumxabisa, awela emthandweni, athathwe kwizandla zam, njalo njalo-le yimiba yabanina ababuthathaka nabakhuselekanga abalindele ulonwabo oluvela ezulwini. Nguwuphi olunye usuku oluwela entloko. Kwaye izulu alisoloko linikela ngezipho ezinjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha ulonwabo lwakho kufuneka ulwele ixesha elide.