Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa, ngokweziphumo zemivo, ngokwenene bonke abantu bathi "ingqondo" yinto abantu abayithandayo kakhulu kumfazi.
Kodwa, bangakanani amadoda athetha ngokunyanisekileyo kwizimpendulo zabo. Ngokomxholo wechungechunge oludumileyo lweTV, umlingiswa oyintloko yintombazana eyayingenayo idatha yangaphandle, kodwa yayisilumko. Yeka indlela engaqhelekanga ngayo, nangombulelo engqondweni yakhe, akazange adibane nomthando wakhe, kwaye izihlwele zama-abalandeli azizange zilungele izicaka phambi kwakhe. Kodwa, ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukubonakala kwakhe kwagqitywa - nantsi ke, ulonwabo lwentombi-ingqalelo yabantu.Yintoni intombazana ehlakaniphile ithetha kubantu? Mhlawumbi uyayiphulaphula aze ayiqonde kakuhle? I-Smart-ke ukuxolela, xa kuyimfuneko? Ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva indlela amadoda athi ngayo intombazana inokucingwa ukuba ihlakaniphile xa ivumela indoda ukuba ivelele.
Oku kulandela ukuba amadoda ayawaxabisa kakhulu kumfazi ukuba akwazi ukuziva ontle ngaphezu kwakhe.
Kuthiwani ngokubonakala. Enyanisweni, amadoda ayenjengekhetho njengoko sizicingayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana amnandi asele yodwa, kwaye yonke into yokuba ubuhle babo bubukisa abantu. Buza ukuba kutheni? Ibhinqa elihle lifuna ukunakekelwa kakuhle. Ngelishwa, akusiyo yonke into ethembekileyo ngamandla akhe.
Amadoda kakhulu axabisa ukuzithemba komfazi. Emehlweni akhe, unokufunda: "Ndiyintle, ndiphelele kwaye ndizithemba." Kwindoda enjalo, amadoda atyathwa njengememori.
Ndikholelwe, amantombazana, amadoda ngokuqinisekileyo ahlawule ingqalelo encinane kulo mfanekiso. Kulo mbuzo wesibalo, kubo into eyona nto kukubaluleka. Ngokuthethelekileyo, umlinganiselo wakho kufuneka ubuncinane ngandlela-thile ifane ne-hourglass.
Yaye yonke ingqungquthela ejikeleze ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuhlala kwiidlo ezinobuthakathaka ukwenzela ukufezekiswa kwendlela yokubonakala kunye nokuqala ukuthanda amadoda yintembeko ebonakalayo yoshishino lobuhle.
Amancinci amancinci kubo bonke bayawaxabisa kumfazi njengempawu ezifana nobubele, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela. Amadoda athetha i-bitch. Nangona, indoda endala iba ngumntu, unobundlobongela ngakumbi baqala ukukhangela abahlobo abanomdla, abanononophelo nabanyanisekileyo ebomini babo.
Kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuba kufuneka uzinakekele.
Kwakhona, uninzi lwawo onke amadoda aluxabisa umfazi onenkcazo. Yintoni enokuba yinto enhle kakhulu kumntu kunokuba ubuhlobo kunye nomfazi ovuyoleyo onethemba lokuphila kunye naziphi na izimo zobomi ziya kuphuma ngobuso ebusweni bakhe.
Kwaye ke, kubalulekile ukuba umntu uhlekise amahlaya akhe.
Amadoda axabisa ukunyaniseka. Ngelo xesha, balinde iimpendulo ezinyanisekileyo kwimibandela engathembekiyo, emva kokuba bafumene iimpendulo apho, banokuthukuthela baze badumale kule nto.
Ngoko, amantombazana abathandekayo, musa ukubeka zonke iimfihlelo zakho, nangona umntu wakho ebuza kuwe ngezinyembezi emehlweni akhe.
Kubantu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba le ntokazi ihlambuluke kakuhle. Kodwa ngokwenene abayithandi loo mantombazana angenayo ingcamango yokulinganisa.
Amadoda ayawaxabisa amantombazana aphila ngendlela enempilo: musa ukutshaya, musa ukusela, musa ukufungela amagama. Nangona, bona ngokwabo banako ukwenza iphutha. Kodwa, le nto kuphela imbono yabantu.
Kunzima ukuphendula ngokucacileyo umbuzo amadoda awamxabisa kakhulu kumfazi, kuba ngamnye umntu umfanekiso wesifazane ococekileyo uhlukile. Ngoko ke, abafazi banokucetyiswa nje ukuba bathande ngokwabo, ukukholelwa ekungabikho kwabo, ukukhanga kunye namandla.
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba wena ukholelwa ukuba ungumfazi owadalwa ukuba ahlonishwe. Awuyi kuba nexesha lokujonga emva, njengoko uza kuba ngukumkanikazi weentliziyo zabantu.