Ayikwazi ukuyitshintsha, utshintshe wena. Indoda iziphatha ngendlela oyivumela ngayo. Nika amandla akho ukuphucula iimpawu zakho. Oku kuya kukunceda ukuba uqulunqe ulwalamano lwentsapho kuphela, kodwa kunye nezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho.
Funda ukuphatha ngokufanelekileyo nayiphi na imeko kunye nomyeni wakho, nokuba ngaba yinto engqubanayo. Lo mgangatho uza kukunceda ufumane ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye naye kwaye ujonge imeko ngenye indlela.
Ingxabano iyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bentsapho. Bangakwazi ukuthwala ulwazi oluncedo. Umyeni wakho akasemzini kuwe, ufunga nawe, mhlawumbi uzama ukukudlulisela into ebalulekileyo enokukunceda.
Ukuba ngaso sonke isikhathi ufumanisa nayiphi na inkcazo yendoda, njengento yokuhlambalaza, uhlale ukhubekile kwiqabane lakho, ngoko ukuphela kobudlelwane bakho buya kufika xa ungalindelanga.
Funda ukuqonda ngokufanelekileyo ukugxekwa.
Ukucaphuka ngaphandle kwesizathu sisisithakazelo kwaye le yintsiba yezilumko. Kodwa, ukuba indoda iyabuhlungu kwaye ikhubekise, ngokwenene, ayifanelekanga, ngoko yintoni? Kukulungele ukuthetha nokumchazela ukuba indlela yokuthetha nawe ayiyonto kwaye iyayichukumisa kwiimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba umntu uya kukuhlonipha, ngoko uya kuphulaphula izicelo zakho aze azame ukwenza njalo.
Kodwa, ukuba indoda icaphukisa into ehlala ikutshintshayo, ayikuthi into, ikuhlambalaze kwaye ihlazise isidima sakho. Emva koko, kukho ezimbini kuphela eziphuma.
Okanye, hlaziya ubuhlobo bakho kunye neqabane lakho, mhlawumbi uze kwi nyaniso yokuba awunayo ikamva. Xa umntu ethanda, ethanda ngokwenene, uya kubonisa ukukhathazeka, ukuhlonela umfazi wakhe. Ungaze uvumele ukuhlambalaza nokuhlaziswa kwidilesi yakho. Iqabane lakho kunye neqabane lakho libe yinkxaso nenkxaso. Ukuba, emva kokubuya ekhaya, emva komsebenzi, umyeni wakho udibana nohlazo kunye nokunganeliseki-kutheni ufuna? Nika ubomi obunjalo. Ngaba uyakuvuyela ukuphulaphula izitatimende ezingathandekiyo ezibhekiswe kuwe okanye ukufumana izenzo ezininzi ezingamnandi kwixesha lakhe?
Indlela yesibini yokusombulula ingxaki. Mhlawumbi ukuba indoda yakho iholele ngale ndlela - iyakucasula - kungekhona nje. Kwaye unetyala le nto! Ngamanye amaxesha, ubuthathaka kunye nokungaziphathi kakuhle kwebhinqa kususa izandla zakhe, kwaye kunika ilungelo lomntu ukuba aziphathe ngale ndlela.
Ndiyaphinda, indoda iyaziphatha njengowesifazane. Ukuxolela kanye, nangona kunjalo, ukuze loo mntu engayiqondi kwaye engaphenduki kwiphulo lakhe, umnika ilungelo lokuphinda isenzo kwaye uzijonga ukuba akahlawulwanga kwikamva.
Cinga kwakhona indlela oziphatha ngayo. Kungenzeka ukuba unayo ingqiqo eyaneleyo yokuzithemba okanye mhlawumbi ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yile ndoda kwaye uhlale wedwa?
Xa ufunda ukuzithanda kwaye uhloniphe, ke abanye, kunye nongowokuqala kwindoda yakho yonke, khangela kuwe ngendlela entsha.
Ungesabi ukuba ngumntu onzima kunye nomyeni wakho, ungesabi ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakho kunye nokungazinzi. Ukuxhatshazwa, ukukhathazeka, unokubeka umntu endaweni. Ndikholelwe, ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko kubo, nangona bengayiqondi le nto.
Fumana umfazi ohlala kuyo ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba unelungelo lokonwaba, uthando kunye nentlonipho. Ufanelwe ukuthwala ezandleni zakho.
Yonke intokazi ihlala i-bitch, zama ukuyifumana yona. Ngokuziguqula, uya kujongela utshintsho olulindele kuwe.
Umntu wakho uya kuqonda yonke into aze ahlaziye indlela yakhe yokuziphatha. Xa ebona ukuba umfazi ungumntu oqinileyo kwaye oqinisekileyo ongafuni ukugwinya zonke izikhalazo zakhe - uya kukhula emehlweni akhe. Kwaye, kunye nomlingani olinganayo, umntu akayi kuvumela ukuziphatha ngokuzidla.