Mhlawumbi yayingokwemvelo - ukulinganisela amathuba amadoda nabasetyhini kunye nokudibanisana kwabo ngokubambisana ngamabini. Okanye mhlawumbi sisiqhamo sesahlulelo esenziwa kuluntu ngeenkohlo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, kwaye umfazi ongenaso isizathu esicinga ukuba "intamo", yindoda-entloko "ekhokelo elungileyo. Enyanisweni, ngokuchanekileyo ezi zenzo ezilindele kuye.
Ukuziphatha kwendoda ebudlelwaneni buzele ubunzima bezenzo ezenzelwe ukuqinisekiswa kokuhlala kwezi zidibaniselwano zabanye abathathi-nxaxheba. Abakhuthazayo abakhulu kuye kwendima yomlingane wakhe ngumnqweno wokungabonakali ukuphumelela kwabanye, kodwa ukuba ube ngumdlali othe ngqo kuye. Yiyo ibhinqa ebonisa ukuba yintoni eya kuba yindlela yokuziphatha ngayo iqabane lakhe kwiqela labo. Kwaye kuxhomekeke kuyo, ixesha elide ulwalamano lwabo luya kuhlala liphela kangakanani.
Amaxesha atshintsha, abantu bayatshintsha kwakhona.
Kwaye ngoku ukulingana kwezesondo, njengobomi bobufilosofi, bakhawuleza bazinze iingqondo zabaninzi. Kodwa oku akukho ndlela yatshintsha isiseko sendlela yokuziphatha ngesini kwisondo. Indoda isadinga ukuqaphela, inkxaso, ukunakekelwa nokunyamekela. Yaye loo ntokazi ayizange ibe namandla kakhulu ekujonganeni nomsebenzi ofuna umthwalo wokusebenza. Ngandlela-thile, ukuziphatha kwamadoda ebuhlotsheni isicwangciso esitsha sokungqubana kweenkcaso, ngokuqinisekileyo, sitshintshile: waba phantsi kancinci kwisidlo sasekuseni esiphekiweyo kwaye wafunda ukuhlamba iikhati zakhe okanye ukuhlamba iibhedi. Kodwa isicwangciso esipheleleyo sezenzo zangexesha elide sisigxina: indoda esecaleni kwintombazana ikhangele i-caresses, imfudumalo, uxolo, ithembisa ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo iya kufumana yonke into kunye nokholo olungenakunqotshwa ngamandla akhe. Kwaye ufuna ukunikela - njengaphambili - yonke into ayenako ukuyifumana ecaleni kwayo kunye naye (ubuncinane, loo mntu uyaqiniseka ngayo).
Ubungqina bobukhulu bokwenyama.
Oku kungavumi, kungapheliyo, rhoqo kunye nokubulela okunzulu, apho umfazi onqwenela ukubona kwaye yintoni indoda ebudlelwane nayo yokufihla ngokucokisekileyo. Uvakalelo oluphezulu entliziyweni yakhe aluzange luye ludlulile ngeenkulungwane. Njengoko kwakungabikho ukuvuleka kwintetho yakhe. Mhlawumbi, le ngenye yezo zinto ezingekho phantsi kweengxaki zobudlelwane phakathi kwesondo: indoda kumfazi wayo ihlala ibulela ngokwaneleyo ukubonisa ukubonga kwakhe nje ayikwazi. Kodwa kulula ukwabelana ngala mazwi nabazali bakho okanye ngabahlobo bakho.
Yintoni enye iyalawula ukuziphatha komntu olungileyo kubuhlobo?
Okokuqala, umnqweno wokuthuthuzela. Umntu uqala ukuzingca nokuzingca ngaphezu kobhinqa. Ngenxa yoko, ukuthembela kumlingane othile, umxelela kakhulu ngaye kunye nemvakalelo yakhe yokuba akanalo ixesha lokumamela iingcamango zakhe. Ngokwemvelo, njengalowo nawuphi umntu, uxhalabele kakhulu ngaye, indoda ixhomekeke kwintuthuzelo yengqondo kwintsebenziswano. Ngoko ke, kuxhomekeke kule mgangatho kunye nokuziphatha kwayo.
Emva koko, ukuzola. Lapha akukho nto ishintshile - njengokuba ku-Middle Ages okanye ngethuba lamaxesha emifumba abantu babeziva isidingo somntu endlwini yakhe, apho iintshaba zakhe kunye nokubonakaliswa okungekho kwemvelo kwakungeke kuphule uxolo nonokhuseleko-kwaye uyayidinga namhlanje. Ngako oko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukudibana nendoda ngokumomotheka kunye nesidlo esishushu okanye isitya sokuhlambela. Naliphi ilungu lezesondo eziqinileyo yindoda yokuqala kunye nengxelo yokugqibela. Kwaye ukuba ezi zinto zikhunjulwa kuye njengento emnandi, ngoko yonke into eyayingathandekiyo phakathi kwabo, iya kunciphisa kwaye ibalekele ngokukhuselekileyo.
Kakade, umntu akafanele akhohlwe ngento ebalulekileyo ebonisa isimo sengqondo somntu kumfazi-lo nguye.
Ngokuchanekileyo, ukukwazi kwakhe ukubonakalisa ukunyaniseka kwakhe, ukunyaniseka nokuthanda umthandi wakhe. Ngenxa yeempawu ezilula, nawuphi na umfazi womntu nawuphi na ongasuka kumnqobi onobugqubutha kwaye onesithukuthezi kwi-kitten elawulwayo, efudumeleyo. Enyanisweni, ukuba ezi zibonakaliso zingabonakali kwaye umntu uyazifumana, ukuphindezela kwakhe kuya kuba ngonya. Amadoda athethelela ngakumbi kunabesifazane. Ukuxolela kunzima kakhulu kubo. Ezinye izazi zengqondo zidibanisa nokuziphatha okufana nomntu wokuziphatha ngokubaluleka kwezesondo ezinamandla. Njengabantu abaqhubekayo bentsapho, abaxhamli kunye nabanqobileyo, amadoda anqatshelwe amandla okulibala into ebalulekileyo. Ngoko ke, nangokuba uxolele intanda, akayi kuphinda ahlambulule ngephutha lakhe elide, elilihlungu kumbomi wakhe. Nangona ibhinqa lihamba kunye nolunye uthando luya kwindawo yakhe, akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukulibala iindoda ezidlulileyo.
Kukho uluvo lokuba umntu olwalamano oluqala kuqala ufuna ukuzonwabisa ngokwenyama kwaye kuphela-ulwalamano lwamavakalelo. Kwaye kudla njalo. Ngaphandle kwesizathu sabantu abazizilumko bathetha ukuba naluphi na ulwalamano olwakhiwe kwizigaba ezintathu. Okokuqala, kukho ukuthandana nomzimba, ngoko-uvelwano lomphefumlo kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuvisisana kokuqhotyoshelweyo kwenyama kunye nemvakalelo. Kubantu, olu luchungechunge lophuhliso lolwalamano lubaluleke ngokukodwa. Emva kwayo yonke into, ngokungafani nalabo abathandayo amazwi amnandi abesetyhini, bathande kuqala ngamehlo abo kuphela kunye neendlebe zabo. Yiyiphi, ngokuqinisekileyo, ingabonakali inyaniso eyaziwayo malunga nokuba unokuthi uzuze umnqweno wendoda ngokuthokoza kwe-gastronomic.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, bangaphi amadoda, izicwangciso ezininzi zokuziphatha kwabo kulwalamano. Omnye uthanda ukuqhubela phambili kwiimvakalelo kwaye kwindlela enokwenzeka ivuselela izihlazo kunye nezinye izinto ezithintekisayo. Omnye, ngokuchaseneyo, ulangazelela ukuthula nozinzo kwaye ulungele ukuzenza ngathi uyimpumputhe kwaye uyisithulu kubo, ungaqapheli ukunyaniseka kwezinto zabo. Kanti abanye bahlala bethembekile kwinyaniso enye kunye nokungatshintshiyo kwaye besaba kakhulu ukuba bazikhohlise, ngoko ke basuka kwiintandane baze bangathandeki, basoloko bebakholelwa ukuba babuyela eqinisweni. Kodwa into enye malunga nawo onke amadoda aseplanethi angatsho ngokuqinisekileyo. Ngamnye wabo ukhetha isicwangciso sokuziphatha ngobudlelwane kuye kuxhomekeke ezintweni ezintathu. Iyokuqala yinjongo aqhubela kuyo inxulumano ethile nomfazi. Okwesibini kukuba iimvakalelo azijonga ngayo umfazi wakhe. Okwesithathu yinqanaba le-bestowal, eliyibona kumthandi wakhe.