Amantombazana achitha ixesha elininzi, amandla kunye nemali ukuba bajonge njengekhava lephephancwadi. Iifom yeeFundo, iiwebhusayithi kunye namaphephancwadi amafashini ukuze wazi indlela yokuzifundisa kunye nezinto ezifunwa ngamadoda kumfazi. Kukhona ingcamango eyodwa kwintloko yam: Ndifuna ukutshata!
Kodwa, amadoda akhuliswa nezinye izimo zengqondo. Indoda kufuneka ikwazi ukondla intsapho yayo kwaye inikwe umfazi wayo nabantwana konke okusemgangathweni.
Ngethuba lethu, ukuba ubuza nawuphi na umbuzo umbuzo: kutheni ungafuni ukutshata? Impendulo yakhe iya kuba yinto enje: kufuneka ufumane imfundo, ufumane umsebenzi ohlawulelwayo kakuhle, uthenge imoto kunye nehostela. Ngamafutshane, wonke umntu uphupha amaphupha okuqala ukudala isiseko esiqinileyo, uze ucinge ngomtshato kunye nabantwana.
Kwaye, ndiyakwazi ukuthetha ukuba lo mzekelo wabantu abancinci ebomini ungaphezu kokunconywa. Emva koko, ibinzana elithi "thando yiparadesi kunye nasendlini" ayinakuthandabuza ngokupheleleyo kwixesha lethu. Kwixesha lamaSoviet, iintsapho ezincinci zancedwa ngamaziko aphantsi komhlaba, amaxabiso. Ngexesha lethu, idemokhrasi iyachuma. Ngaloo ndlela, sijongene nekamva lethu kunye nokufezekiswa. Ukuba intsapho ayinayo imali eyaneleyo, ngoko, i-priori, uya kuhlala uxabana, ufunge. Kwaye intsapho yakho eselula kakhulu isatshatyalaliswa ngenxa yeengxaki zezinto eziphathekayo, nangona ngaphandle kokuba nexesha lokunambitha zonke iintlobo zokuhlala kunye kunye.
Wonke umntu, nokuba yindoda okanye ibhinqa, amaphupha enye into - inwabe. Amantombazana kuphela afuna yonke into kanye, kwaye amadoda enza ngokucwangcisa isicwangciso-esokuqala sakha isiseko, kwaye kuphela ukuba atshate.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, intombazana kunye nentombazana, idibene ixesha elide, idibanisa kuphela ngenxa yokuba ingakulungele ukutshata, kwaye intombazana isele ivele isingene ukuze ishade. Kule meko, intombazana icinga nje ngomnqweno wakhe, akayikucinga ukuba ukungafuni ukutshata komntu kubangelwa kukuba uloyiko lobomi kunye neengxaki eziphathekayo ukutshabalalisa konke okulungileyo phakathi kwabo.
Ngenxa yokuba loo mntu akafuni ukutshata naye intombi, uyazigqiba: mhlawumbi ulinde de kube yimpembelelo yomntu ukuba aphuculwe, okanye ufuna ukwahlukana.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, waqhekeza ubudlelwane, ngoko siyakwazi ukusho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba loo mntu wayenethamsanqa kakhulu. Emva kwakho konke, awukwazi ukuthetha ukuba intombazana yayithanda umfana wayo. Ndingathanda, ndibe naye kwaye ndamnceda, kodwa andizange ndibethe indawo ebuhlungu kakhulu.
Indoda, xa ifuna ulwalamano oluqinileyo, ayilungele ukuhamba naye kwithsaba. Ufuna ukumazi kakuhle umlingani wakhe wobomi, ukuze ugweme kwixesha elizayo loo mzuzu ukuba ubaleke kuyo, apho amehlo akhe ekhangele khona.
Amantombazana, ukuba umntu ngoku angacwangcanga umtshato, qonda ukuba emva kwexesha akayi kuhlakulela i-phobia okungekho mntu uya kumtshata naye.
Thina amantombazana anqwenela kakhulu ukutshata. Amantombazana abathandekayo, baqonde into enye ukuba ukuba umntu wakho uyakuthanda kwaye uyayiva; ukuba unzima; Ukuba kwizicwangciso zakhe ngexesha elizayo uhlala ukhona. Emva koko, ungafaki uxinzelelo kuye uze umtshate ngaphambi kokukhetha.
Cinga ngento oya kuyenzela ngayo ngokuziphatha okunjalo? Ukulahlekelwa ngumthandayo kunye nomntu ongowomthonyama kuphela ngenxa yokuba unengqondo yokuzingca okanye ngenxa yombono woluntu ochaphazela kakhulu?
Hlala kwaye ujabule lonwabo, kuba isitywina kwi-passport yakho ayiyi kukuvuyisa. Phonsa, zonke iintetho ezivela entloko oyifake kuluntu nabazali, phila kwaye ujabulele ubomi!