1. Amadoda abeke umgomo wokutshata nomfazi ontle kwaye onengqondo. Xa umntu eqala ukhetha umfazi wakhe wesikhathi esizayo, uqala ukuzimisela ngokwenani inani leempawu. Ngokwale miqathango, iqabane elizayo kufuneka lihambisane ngokupheleleyo njengomfazi kwaye njengomama. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba amadoda athande intombazana enye, kodwa angaboni kuye umfanekiso womfazi ofanelekileyo, kuba engazi ukupheka okanye angathandi ukususa uthuli imihla ngemihla.
Kwaye apha ngeli thuba, baqala ukucinga ukuba kuya kuba kuhle ukuthatha uKhat Simonina, kuba uyazi ukupheka, unokunyamekela iintyatyambo zikamama, kwaye banokuthandeka kwicala, njengoko bacinga. Abazali abaninzi kakhulu baxelele abantwana babo ukuba bayamthanda omnye, kodwa bahlala nomnye umntu kwaye kubhekwe njengento eqhelekileyo. Ngale ndlela baxelela abantwana babo ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngale nto.
2. Abantu bahlala befuna ukulungelelanisa. Kwaye njengokuba kuqinisekiswe yenzululwazi, akukho bantu abalungileyo ngokusemgangathweni, kodwa abayeki. Kwenzeka ukuba umntu akafumani kakuhle. Kwaye kwenzeka, nangona kunjalo, udibana naye, kodwa kamva udidekile aze enze izenzo zokukhawuleza.
3. Kuyenzeka kwaye le nto xa amadoda atshada ngokubalwa. Emva koko, amadoda anesidingo esikhulu kwixesha elizayo. Emva koko, kungekhona wonke umntu onokumelana nale meko kuluntu, ukukhula komsebenzi, amandla, udumo, konke oku kuqhotyoshelwe kumfazi wakhe. Abaninzi bakha imitshato kunye ngenxa yokubala bekulungele ukutshata nomfazi omdala onoyika.
4. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba abantu bacinge ukuba abantu abatshatileyo baphila ixesha elide. Nawuphi na umntu oqhelekileyo amaphupha endlu. Abanye abantu baphupha nje ngolu lonwabo, kuba ebusheni bethu siphupha, kwaye xa sikhulile siqala ukukhangela indawo esilungileyo kwaye sijonge ngenyameko ukuba singenzi iimpazamo. Kwaye ekupheleni, akukho nto asinakuyenza isigqibo. Kwaye siqala ukuphawula ukuba yonke into isele idale intsapho yayo, kodwa awunayo. Kwaye kukho izihlobo ezithi ufuna ukutshata. Kwaye le ndoda ibambelela kwilizwi kwaye kufuneka ishade ngaphandle kwothando.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba amadoda atshade nabanye. Kodwa ngokukodwa imitshato enjalo iya kulahlwa. Emva koko, ubudlelwane beentsapho banakho ukuqonda, ukuhlonipha kunye kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo, iimvakalelo.