Yintoni okufanele ibe ngumntu ofezekileyo

Utata ngumntu oyintloko ebomini kwintombazana. Inxaxheba yakhe enomdla, uqala ukudlala nangona umntwana eqonda kuphela: Ubawo - umntu ongeyena umama nam. Impawu zakhe, ukuziphatha, isimo sengqondo kumntwana kunye nonina-konke oku kusisiseko somfanekiso wendoda leyo eya kuqala ukuyikhumbuza engqondweni.

Ngeminyaka emi-5-6, i-"ideal" sele isilungele i-90%. Oku kwenzeka ntoni? Intombazana iyawa thandana nopapa, ithandwa kuye. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kwenzekayo ngaphandle kokuqonda. Yile ndlela i-Electra complex, eyaziwa kwiingqondo, ibonakalisa. Intombazana iyakwazi ukuvakalisa esidlangalaleni: "Tata, nditshate!" Uqala ukumkhwele unina, ngelixa esenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuba abe njengaye. Ngenxa yoko uvavanyo olubuhlungu kunye neentombi zomlomo zamama kunye neenwele zesikhumba, i-coquetry. Yonke inenjongo enye: ukukhangela umntu obaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni - oyintanda oyintanda. I-subtitle yezocansi, eqinisweni, ikhona, kodwa ayifumanwanga ngumntwana. Yintoni okufanele ibe yindoda efanelekileyo - funda kwincwadi yethu.

Eyokuqala kwaye ebaluleke kakhulu

Ukuba abazali bafumana amagama afanelekileyo - isithwathwa semvakalelo sidlulayo, umntwana uyakhohlwa malunga nezicwangciso zakhe zomtshato, kodwa umfanekiso wesipapa njengomgangatho womntu uhleli. Kodwa ukuba uyise unxhomekeke ekuxhomekeke kotywala, unesiqhelo, uphakamise isandla sakhe kunina, akayiboni intombi yakhe - ngokubanzi, kude nenhloko efanelekileyo yentsapho - indoda iya kukhetha umntu ngokusemfanekisweni nomfanekiso. Inyaniso kukuba ukungazi nto ikwahlula izenzo kunye nokuziphatha kwipapa kwizinto ezilungileyo nezimbi. Ngokungafani nomama, intombazana yamkela njengokuba kunjalo. Ngokukodwa xa uyise enika umntwana konke okufunekayo ngonwabo. Ngoko, intloko yentsapho iyakwazi ukukhupha i-varenki ngosuku, kodwa iphuzile kakhulu kwaye ibuyele emva kokubuya emsebenzini. Okanye ube yindoda yamantombazana, uchitha ubusuku ngaphandle kwendlu, kodwa ngeveki iqala ngentombi yenyoka endizayo. Kwaye, kwaye kwezinye iimeko, umzekelo wepapa entloko yentsana ayixhomekeke kuyo nayiphi na into.

Kwaye ndiyabona ukuthandwa ngu ... Ivumba

Ekugqibeleni wadibana nalowo ayeliphuphayo-ikopi eyona yopapa okanye ayikho. Kodwa into ephosakeleyo. Mhlawumbi, awuvumelani nomsindo womzimba, izazinzulu zithi. Ubume bubonelele yonke into: le ngqungquthela engafanelekiyo iqukethe ulwazi olubalulekileyo lwezofuzo, oluya kuthi ingqondo, njengekhomputha, ifunde. Ngoko, ukuba iqabane lihambisana nefumba, ulwazi lwakhe lofuzo luhluke kakhulu kwakho. Oku kwandisa amathuba okufumana inzala enempilo, eqinile. Kodwa "ukuphendula kwamakhemikhali" akude nentsapho yolonwabo. I-Pheromones inokuvusa i-instincts, iphakamisa ukuba ubani olungele ukuzala, kodwa abacebisi ngokukhetha umlingane wokuphila.

Emfanekisweni nofana ...

Intsapho kaAlena ingabizwa isiqingatha sigqibeleleyo: Utata wam umhlobo wayekude kwada phakathi kobomi bakhe-ukuya kwiminyaka eyi-10. Emva koko waya kwenye intsapho. Kodwa u-Alena ngokwenene kamva umntakwabo ongu-stepfather wavela-enhle kwaye enenkathalo. Yintoni eyamangalisa u-Alena Mama, xa uGosh, intombi ekhethiweyo, wayefana noyise. Kwakungenakukwazi ukucinga ngobomi ngaphandle kokuzingela kwaye wayesebenzayo ebusika. "Ndimthanda nje, kwaye ubawo akanalo nto," umhlobo wakhe wanxusa unina. "Kwaye malunga nePapin yokuzihlamba e-ice hole, ndingazi." Akunakwenzeka ukuba u-Alain wahlutha abagibeli bemigodi ngokubhekiselele kumgaqo ofanayo - akafani noyise. Kodwa ukhetho olwenzelwe uGoshi alukwazi ukubizwa ngengozi. Ingqondo yengqondo yomntwana ifana "nokufotoza" upapa, ilenga iilebula "efanelekileyo" emfanekisweni, kwaye uyithumele ekujuleni kwayo. Intombazana ikhula, kunye nomfanekiso wexesha elizayo ukhetho luqala ukwakha ngaphandle kokuqonda. I-Electra ubunzima ayikwazi ukukhula. Ukuba akavunyelwe ngexesha, ubomi bomntu bufana nohamba ejikelezweni esihogweni. Uyayiqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba akayithandi abantu abagciniweyo, ukuba ukuhaha kuyisicebo, kwaye kuya kuba ngcono ukuba intanda yakhe inemfundo ephakamileyo kunye neendlu kunomfundi ohluphekileyo. Le ntombazana yenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukukhetha amadoda angumzekelo, kodwa engazi kakuhle kwaye imtsalane ngokwenene nalabo ababukeka ngathi nguyise kunye nomlingiswa. Kwaye uyazama ukufezekisa lolo thando kunye nokufudumala awayenalo ekubuntwaneni kwakhe. Kufana nokutshintshwa kweengcamango. Kwimeko apho wonke umntu esithi: "Ungumlwalwa opheleleyo, umfazi, unokuhlala njani naye?" Intombazana ngokwayo ibonakala iyayiqonda le nto, kodwa ayikwazi ukuzinceda.

Ukususela ekuchasene ...

Ubomi bukaKatyya, uPata wayehlala ehlala. Akayena umntu ombi, kodwa akazange abe yintloko kwiintsapho zawo. Kwakukho ixesha apho wayethanda ukusela, ngoko wayeya kushiya enye inkazana, kwaye kwenzeka, walala ebomini kwiiveki ezimbalwa. Yithandana noCatherine - ngokuchasene ngqo noyise: akayaphuzi, akabheki, uyabakho ishishini, unogogo. Kwenzeka ntoni, kungekudala kamva indoda iya kuba njengoyise? Akunjalo. Kule meko, ingqondo ivuliwe. Njengomntwana oselula, intombazana iyaqonda ukuba ngubani ongayifuni ukuyibona kunye naye, kwaye ufuna indoda yakhe "isuka". Kodwa, ngokungaqhelekanga njengoko kubonakala ngathi, imitshato enjalo ishatyalaliswa kaninzi kunemibutho yothando. Into leyo ukungabikho kokwaneliseka. Indoda efanelekileyo, ngokungafani noyise, "ayibambe". Ngexesha elithile, konke kulungile, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe umfazi uya kuqalisa ukuxubha kwiintlungu. Ngexesha elifanayo, kubonakala ngathi lixhaswa ngamandla ama-scandals. Umyeni uyayeka ukuqonda umfazi wakhe aze athathe umtshato. Ngenxa yokuba le ntombazana inika ingqwalasela into echasene noyise, kukho ukufaneleka komama. Ukuze ndilumkise umntwana weempazamo, umama uthi: "Khangela, yintoni uyihlo - waphinda wagijima." Emva kwala mazwi, khetha indoda kumntu ofana nalowo owenza intlungu, ayifuni.

Ntandane ...

Ewe, ukuba uyise ungumntu osapho ococekileyo kwaye uba ngumhle kwintombi yakhe. Kodwa utitshala onomzekelo ngamanye amaxesha ngomlilo awuyi kufumana - kuvela, inhlanhla kulabo abakhulela ngaphandle kwakhe? Akunjalo. Kule meko, amadoda akakwazi ukuphuma kwindawo yokubeka uphawu. Indlela eya kuxhomekeka ngayo kumama, oko kukuthi, kwisimo sakhe sengqondo kubantu, ngokukodwa kwintombi yentombazana. Ukuba unina akanakho ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo ukuzikhusela kumagama angenangqondo ngaye, ingqondo yomntwana ingavuthisa imbono: "Abantu bazisa kuphela ukuhlupheka!". Ngenxa yoko-ukungathinteka kwesini esahlukileyo kunye nokuxilongwa kwechungechunge "isithsaba se-celibacy". Kodwa, ukuba le ntombazana ingenayo uyise, umzekelo wendoda efanelekileyo kuye ingaba ngumntu onobubele-ntliziyo onika ingqalelo kumntwana. Utata uninzi, kodwa kungekhona. Kakade, kubalulekile ukuba intombazana ibonakale njengomntwana njengowesifazane onobuqili, omhle kunye neyona nto ibhetele. Kwaye kufuneka ukuba ezi ziqendu zivela kubaba. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba ngumntwana oselula, intombazana isoloko iqala ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa "kokulungileyo" kwayo kwamanye amadoda. Njengomthetho, ukukhangela kwayo kusebenzayo: amadoda ahlala ephumelelana, kwaye onke ahlukeneyo kangangokuba akunakwenzeka ukuqonda ukuba ngubani ontle. Yena ngokwakhe akazi. Uthanda nje abo bamthanda. Umsebenzi oyintloko kukuhlawulela ukungabikho kwengqalelo kubantwana ebuntwaneni. Kodwa akunakutsholwa ukuba upapa wadibana nokukhanya. Ukukhethwa kwendoda kuxhomekeke kwiimpawu zobomi, i-genotype, imfundo, ukuzithemba kunye nokunye. Ngako oko, inkathazo ye-Electra, njengomthetho, unobuthathaka kubantu abathintekayo abathanda ukuchazela ukungakwazi ukutshintsha ubomi ngokuthi "Ndingowesifazane, yingako ndiyinyamezela yonke ..."

Ungubani, indoda yakho efanelekileyo?

Ukuze udibana nomntu ofanelekileyo, akudingeki ukuba ulindele ukuba avele, ehleli embhedeni, okanye ngokuxhalabisa-uzama ukuzama ukujonga kwinqanaba ngalinye. Kufuneka uhambe ngenye indlela. Yenza umfanekiso womntu ofanelekileyo - kungekhona entloko, kodwa ephepheni. Bhala phantsi iimpawu ezifunekayo, kwaye uchaze ngokucacileyo ukubonakala kwakhe. Nquma ngesimo sakhe sengqondo kuwe. Ukuba akufanele akuthande akuxutywanga. Kodwa bhala iimeko zobomi kunye nokuphendula kwayo, okuyiyo, ngombono wakho, iya kuba yona nto ilungileyo kuwe. Uhlobo luni lomntu wena kunye nomntu wakho? Chaza yonke into ngokucacileyo: oko uvakalelwa, oko ufuna, into ophupha kuyo. Emva kokuba uzenzele umfanekiso onjalo wothando, uyazi ukuba ubani onalo ithuba lokuba ngumlingane wakho, kwaye ngubani ongafanelanga ukuchitha ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo.