Ngenxa yoko, ukususela ebuntwaneni, abafazi baphupha ngokutshata, bafumana umntu wabo. Emva koko, ubudlelwane nomntu babengazithembeli ngekamva labo kuphela, kodwa nokuqatshelwa kuluntu, ukufumana indawo ethile. Abasetyhini bebanomlinganiselo othile wokubanjwa kwexesha kwaye bafuna indoda. Amaxesha adlule. Ukuqhawula iingcamango, imithetho kunye nezithethe. Ukuphuhliswa kokukhululwa, kunye nokuguqulwa kwindlela abacinga ngayo abafazi abaye bafezekisa, babonise kwaye baqinisekisa ukuba abafazi banokuqina. Ngoku a mabhinqa ahlala phantsi kwezikhundla zabantu, angathathi izigqibo ezilula, ukudala imbali. Basenokuhlangabezana ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kwamadoda. Umbuzo uvela: kutheni, ngaphandle kokuzala, umntu unokunceda?
Ngoku a mabhinqa benza izinto ezininzi ngokwabo, baye bazimeleyo, bafumana imali kwaye baqwalasele ngoluvo lwamadoda. Kuvela ukuba ukuba umfazi angakwazi ukuzibonelela ngokuzikhusela, akayidingi indoda eya kumnakekela kwaye imgcine, ifune iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zezipho. Oku kukhokelela kwisigqibo sokuba indoda inokuyenza kuphela indima yakhe yemvelo. Indoda ikwazi ukuqhubeka yintsapho yakhe, ubukhosi bakhe, okanye ukudala abalahlekiyo abangenalo. Ewe, ukuba ayenzi oku, okanye iimfuno zomzimba zithatyathwa ngumthwalo womsebenzi, izinto ezithandwayo kunye nezinye iintlobo zokuzonwabisa, ngoko sonke sitshatyalaliswa, siyafa njengama-mammoths. Emva koko kuyafaneleka ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni, ngaphandle kokuvelisa, umntu unokunceda.
Indoda idinga kuphela ngesondo, nantoni na isiphi isinikazi esiya kuthetha. Umfazi onelisayo akayidingi umthwalo owongezelelweyo, kuba unokuzidela kwizinto azithandayo. Kodwa yinyaniso, ngenxa yeenqweno kunye nezimpumelelo azilibalayo malunga neemfuno zomzimba zomzimba. Kulungile, susa kwisihloko sesini, kodwa sinokuthetha njani, umzekelo? Intombi zamantombazana, kodwa kuthekani ngombono womntu? Amantombazana angenza icebo, athethe kakubi umntu, axoxe, okanye axhaswe. Kodwa ahluke kumntu. Umoya ohlukeneyo wencoko, kwaye isihloko sihluke ngokupheleleyo. Yintoni ongayithetha ngayo xa uhleli nje kunye nendoda, xubusha inani leenkwenkwezi esibhakabhakeni, isakhiwo senkqubo ngelixa uphethe izandla, okanye uvumelane ngesibindi. Kwaye kumnandi gqitha xa uxolo, ngexesha lokutshitshiswa kwezwi, uqala ukudibanisa ekuphefumuleni kwakho. Kwaye makubekho ubuncinane omnye umfazi ongathandiyo kwaye ongenqwenela loo meko. Kwaye ke umbuzo: yintoni, ngaphandle kokuzalisa, umntu angena ngokukhawuleza, alahleke ngokwayo, ngokubhekiselele kuyo, ukufudumala nokuthandana. Ukuze owesifazane oqinileyo abe buthathaka kwiingalo zesindoda esomeleleyo nesibindi.
Abanye abafazi baya kuthetha ukuba indoda, ngaphandle kokuzalisa, ingaba luncedo kumsebenzi, usele ndlu njengoko kungenakulungele ukuqonda kwaye ngoko kuyimfuneko. Yintoni ongayenza xa ufuna i-chandelier entsha okanye amakhethini ukuxhoma. Ukuba i-bulb yokukhanya e-corridor ayikho emlilweni, akudingeki ukuba siyitshintshe, ngenxa yoko, amadoda adalwe, ngubani oza kukwazi ukujamelana nalo msebenzi, kuba sele asebenza nawe kwizithuthi zikagesi. Ukulungiswa, kuphi ngaphandle kokulungiswa okutsha kwindlu? Kuba yintoni, ngaphandle kokuzaliswa, indoda ingayinceda, ngoko kulungele ukulungiswa. Makuphefumule apho kunye nesi sixokelelo sakhiwo, sithwale amasaka esentsimbi, sidibe phantsi uze upende iindonga. Kwaye siza kubaxelela kuphela umbala ofuna ukuwunamathisela iphepha lodonga, okanye zeziphi izinto ezintsha ezifunekayo ukuthenga kwigumbi lokuhlala elitsha.
Kutheni, ngaphandle kokuzalisa, umntu angene ngokufanelekileyo? Ewe, nangona kuphela ukusikhusela kuzo zonke iingozi kunye nama-phobias ethu. Kungaba njani kukuhle xa, xa ubona isikhalaso esikhulu, ugxuma esihlalweni ngokukrokra kwaye njengentombazana encinci kwaye uyayifaka umnwe wakho kwaye imemeza "yikhuphe, isuse!". Ewe, kwimeko enjalo ngaphandle komntu nangayiphi indlela. Nguye kuphela, ebusweni obungapheliyo, oza kubamba esi silo esinyamekayo ngezandla zakhe aze asilahle ngaphandle kwefestile, okanye ngokuhamba nje kwesandla sakhe uya kudlala itompu yesigcawu, i-cockroach nezinye izidalwa ezimbi. Kwaye nguyena wethu msindisi.
Ukongeza kwisondo kumntu kunengqondo kwintsapho. Ngubani omnye ngaphandle kwendoda eya kuxela unyana wakhe ukuba akafanele akhale xa ekhubekile, kodwa unike utshintsho, ubonise ngubani ophetheyo. Ngubani omnye ngaphandle komntu oza kuba nomntwana ukuqokelela umzila wendlela yokudlala, udlale amathoyizi emfazwe, uqoke iimoto. Akusiyo kuthi ukuxelela abafazi bethu oonyana ukuba baziphatha njani umntu, xa sinomntu onokubonakala ngaye.
Kuba yintoni, ngaphandle kokuzala, umntu unokunceda, ukuba lo mntu ungumhlobo. Ngethuba elihle, le nto inokukhetha, uhlala ehleli nawe, xa ufuna ukubukeka kwindoda kunye nokuvavanya xa uthengela ingubo entsha, uya kuhlala ephulaphule oko umlingani wakho osebenzayo kunye nendlela ajikila umsila wakhe phambi komphathi. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu umgangatho, indoda ayiyi kuhola wakho umthandayo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngaphandle kweemeko ezinqabileyo, ezona zikhethiweyo, ezingaphezulu kwexesha.
Kunokwenzeka ukubala amanqaku amaninzi kwinto eyenziwe ngabantu, yiyiphi indima eya kuba yinto efanelekileyo ebomini bethu. Ngako oko, zibuze ukuba kutheni, ngaphandle kokuvelisa, umntu unokuncedisa, ucebile. Kungcono ukufumana loo mizuzu apho amadoda kunye nesondo abanakukwazi ukwenza.