Phantse ngaphandle ngaphandle, amantombazana abathanda xa amadoda abalulekileyo ukuba ahlawule ngqalelo kubo, kwaye nangaphezulu koko konke oku kunika nokuncoma okulungileyo. Kwaye oku kuqondakalayo, kuba ibhinqa sele likwazi ukuba likwazi ukuyiqonda kwaye lixelele ngokuchanekileyo into enqwenela ukuyithetha kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, eninzi kwezi zihlandlo ziphantse zenzeke kwezinye izinto ezingenakuqonda, ezingenakuqondakala. Kwaye abantu bafuna ukuva ntoni kubafazi?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukusukela kwithuba elide elidlulileyo, bekukho udidi oluthile lokuba ukuba phantse bonke abafazi bathanda ngeendlebe zabo, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo indlela eya entliziyweni yendoda yabo iyakwazi ukulala emlonyeni wakhe wesisu. Nangona oku kungenzeka, kwaye mhlawumbi oku kunjalo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ethu afuna, njengamantombazana ukuva indumiso evela kwintombi yabo ethandekayo. Nangona kuyaqondakala ukuba ngokwemvelo, banqandwa ngakumbi, ukuba abazange bathethe nantoni na. Ewe, zonke iintombazana ezinjalo, ukuze zilondoloze, zigcine ubudlelwane phakathi kobudlelwane babo obunzulu, kuya kufuneka zenze umsebenzi omningi kunye nomgudu. Oku konke ukwenzela ukuba ukwazi ukucaca kumntu wakho othandekayo ukuba akukho namnye amanyathelo akhe awashiye ngaphandle kokuqwalasela. Yingakho apha kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba ukwazi ukuba amadoda avela kwabasetyhini afuna ukuva indumiso ngakumbi kwiimeko zonke zobomi. Emva kwakho konke, kusengumuntu wakho obalulekileyo.
Inzala enomdla . Kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele ukuba isibambiso sakho sempumelelo kwimpumelelo ekunxibelelaneni, ubomi kunye nomntu buya kubandakanya inyani, ukunyaniseka kwamazwi, okuza kuhamba, ngokwemvelo, okokuqala, kwintliziyo yakho. Emva kwakho konke, umfana wakho unokuhlala ebona ukunyamekela okunjalo, kunye nenkathalo yakhe. Kodwa nangona oku mhlawumbi kunjalo kuphela kwimeko yokuba akuphazamisi inkululeko yakhe. Ukongezelela, isondo esomeleleyo sinokuzivelela ngokugqibeleleyo zonke iimbono. Kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba isondo esomeleleyo kakhulu asiyithandi xa bethetha naye ngethoni yokunyusa. Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, phatha njengomntwana omncinci, kwaye ngandlela-thile umama zonke zigqiba ukuba yintoni enye indoda eya kuba ngcono. Emva koko, kucacile ukuba indoda imdala, kwaye ngokusemgangathweni uya kuba nako ukugqiba isigqibo, ukuqonda oko kuya kuba bhetele kuye. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba kubalulekile ukuba loo ntokazi ikwazi ukuqonda, isimo somntu kuyo nayiphi na imeko kwaye, eqinisweni, bafuna ukuva indumiso kwidilesi yabo, amadoda aya kusadingeka ave la mazwi ngamaxesha athile. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kwimeko enjalo kukuba ivela kuphela entliziyweni yakho. Yintoni eya kuba mnandi kakhulu kuye.
Iingcamango zesifazana. Kakade kukho iimeko, ngathi phantse nawuphi na umfazi, kunye nawo onke amadoda xa kufuneka, into yokukhansela. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ngelixa phantse bonke abantu babhekisela kwiimeko ezifanayo, ezingalindelekanga zeziganeko ngokuzinzileyo, ngokwaneleyo nangokuqhelekileyo. Ngethuba lixesha elifanayo bonke abafazi baqala ukuqonda yonke into, kakhulu imvakalelo, nangengqiqo. Ngethuba elifanayo, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, baqala ukuqoqa zonke iintlobo zokuhlambalaza, ngokungezelela ukubetha iinyawo zabo, okanye ukubethelela imilomo yabo, baze bafune inkcazelo. Emva kwakho konke, phantse kwangoko, abafazi abanjalo banokufumana ubuninzi beembalo, iingcamango, ukuqikelela, ukuba yintoni isizathu sokuba intanda zabo zithandwe zikhutshwe ngokukhawuleza, okanye ziphazamise iintlanganiso zabo. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akubona onke amantombazana, kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo abafuni ukuqonda indlela abahlaziyileyo ngayo, ukunyaniseka kwezi ziqonga zabo. Emva kokuva kwabesetyhini abahlaziyileyo, ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka kunzima. Kwaye kaninzi banokuba nezizathu ezinzima zokuxabana. Ukongezelela, njengokuba kunjalo, kubakho ukukhokelela ekungalindelekanga kuba besetyhini abaninzi bahlukana nolwalamano lwabo oluqinileyo.
Imfihlelo yokulala. Ngesizathu esithile, abaninzi abasetyhini bakholelwa ukuba phantse bonke abantu bathanda abafazi abalungileyo ngamaso abo kuphela. Emva kwakho konke, bona, kunye nabo bonke abameli abancinci bezesondo ezibuthathaka, baninzi ukuthanda ukuvavanya ngokwabo indlela yokuphononongwa ngokuphangaleleyo. Ngokukodwa, ukuba into enjalo iya kuba neengxaki zesini kunye nesondlo. Emva koko, phantse wonke umntu uyazi, phantse wonke umntu othethile mhlawumbi wokuqala kunye nomzingeli othile othanda kakhulu umxhwele woluhlobo olunomdla kakhulu, oluthatywayo. Ngoko ke ngokwemvelo kungcono ukuba ukhethiweyo wakhe unako ukukhululeka ngokusemandleni akho, ukuzithemba kuye ebhedini. Ukongezelela, akukho nto inokwandisa ukuzithemba kwakhe, njengamagama amaninzi ekunconyweni kwakhe kobulili. Akumangalisi ukuba phantse wonke umntu ufuna ukuva, kwaye uyazi ukuba nguye lowo, oza kumlingane wakhe, oza kuba ngumthandi ongcono, ongenakuphandle. Kwaye umlingane onokuvakalelwa njengomphathi othile wekamelo lakho lokulala, kwaye ngexesha elizayo uya kuba nomdla kakhulu ukukholisa, uthathe i-half half-beloved.
Ukuqwalaselwa kwishishini. Phantse umfazi osekrekre ulindele ukuba umntu omthandayo, umntu oyintanda uya kukwazi ukuyiqonda isidlo esiphekiweyo, okanye iikhati eneenkwenkwezi, okanye iisoksi ezifunyenwe. Ukongezelela, amaxesha amaninzi abafazi bayakhohlwa ukuba amadoda abo, nabo, kubaluleke kakhulu baya kuqonda i-half half-heel, okanye i-bulb light light. Emva kwakho konke, akuyi kuba yintoni na into eyenziwa yindoda yakho, kwaye yonke into yavela ngayo. Into eyona nto kukukucacisa, ukuqonda ngokuchanekileyo, amagama achanekileyo, ukuqonda ukuba umsebenzi wakhe uxabiseke kakhulu.
Ukuncoma okulula. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba, njengabasetyhini, kunye nabangabantu bonke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bachitha ixesha elingakanani kunye-iintsuku ezingama-7 okanye iminyaka engama-7, baya kuhlala befuna ukwazi ukuba iqabane lakhe elithandekayo liyaqhubeka, ngokutsho -iyo eyona nto ayifumanekanga kuphela, kodwa nayo iyinto enhle kakhulu. Ingxaki kukuba uyeka ukuva, uzive ukhangeleka kwaye unqweneleka. Apha, ukugwenxa kungabakho uhlobo lendlela, isinyathelo sokuzalisa ukungafani okufanayo. Ngoko musa ukuzisola ngeenkomfa zakho.
Iingcebiso zomntu. Kuya kubaluleka ukuba umntu omncinci azi ukuba uluvo lwakhe alufunanga nje, kwaye mhlawumbi luqwalaselwa ngokuthe ngqo naye. Nangona kunokwenzeka, le ntombazana ayisebenzisi kakuhle ngcebiso yendoda yakhe, kodwa kuya kuba ngcono ukuba nomdla kwimbono yakhe yindoda efunayo.
Funda ukuva intanda yakho, mamele kwaye umphulaphule. Kule meko, akayi kuba nethuba lokujika ulwahlulo lwakhe.