Indoda eneminyaka ehloniphekileyo ifanele iholide ehlelwe ngokuhlonipha. Ingaba ngumhla wokuzalwa, usuku olukhunjulwayo okanye umcimbi wokuzalwa - kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiyiphi isizathu sokubakho iholide. Into ephambili kukuba utata oyintandane uba ngumntu oyintloko wokubhiyozela, kwaye ngoko ke le holide ekhunjulwayo iya kuba yinto ekhethekileyo, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuyilungiselela ngokukodwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, uhlobo oludumileyo lokubhiyozela ngumhlangano wenani elikhulu leendwendwe etafileni, ubuninzi bokutya okumnandi kunye nohlobo oluhlukeneyo, ukutya okungaqhelekanga kunye nezifiso ezingapheliyo zempilo enhle. Nangona kunjalo, iholide enjalo akunakwenzeka ukumangalisa utata, kuba ngaphezu kweminyaka wayetyenziselwa iziganeko ezinjalo kwaye ubona njengesiqhelo. Ngaphandle kweminqweno engafunekiyo, utatomkhulu uyazi ukuba uvuyo olukhulu ngabantwana kunye nabazukulwana, kwaye ukubonga kwabo ubudala bakhe buqhayiya kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngokukhawuleza kuya kuba buhlungu, kwaye phakathi kwesi sigubhi umntu okhulile unokuziva ekhathele kwaye uya kujongela phambili ekupheleni kwamkelekileyo.
Ngako oko, kuya kuba ngcono ukuhlela umcimbi othakazelisayo, ocacileyo kunye onamandla, oya kwenza uyise omkhulu azive eselula kwaye enamandla. Yonke iminithi yeholide kufuneka ivelise into emangalisayo, ngoko ke, ngaphandle kokumangaliswa, utata akayi kuba nexesha lokuziva elele.
Eyona nto inokwenzeka, ebomini boomkhulu wayekho abantu abaninzi abanomdla okwangoku bathandekayo kuye kwaye beza kuye. Icandelo lalaba baziyo ngenxa yezizathu ezithile lilahleka ngexesha, zishiya izikhumbuzo ezilungileyo kuphela. Ingaba ngabasebenzi abasebenzisana nabo, oogxa, oomakhelwane bangaphambili - kukufanelekile ukuphulaphula ngokucophelela kwaye ukhumbule onke amabali ka-utata ngeminyaka yakhe yangaphambili. Mhlawumbi ngabazukulu abasebenzisa ngokuphumelelayo iimpumelelo zanamhlanje, akuyi kuba yinto enkulu yokubuyisela abo bantu. Yaye iholide yomkhulu-sikhulu sihlandlo esihle kakhulu sokumema abantu abangabonanga nabo kwiminyaka emininzi. Ukuba nabo baneminyaka ephakathi, kubalulekile ukuba bancede bafike kwindawo yokubhiyozela. Ukukhumbula abantu abadlulileyo, abakhulileyo bayakwazi ukuva kwakhona amandla abo ahamba nabo kwixesha elidlulileyo lobomi. Ngenxa yesipho esinjalo, utatomkhulu uya kubaxabisa ngabazukulwana bakhe.
Ukuthetha ngezipho, kubalulekile ukuphawula kwakhona inani elithile leempazamo ezisisiseko abaninzi abazukulwana abazenzayo, befuna ukukholisa uyise omkhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, izinto ezixabisekileyo ezinendleko ephakamileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ziya kuxelela uyise omkhulu ukuba wakhulisa umzukulu onomusa nonomdla. Nangona kunjalo, ukulinganiswa akuyi kuba isipho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yixabiso lini, kodwa ingqalelo ehlawulwa kumntu osekhulile. Yaye unonophelo awunako ukulingana kwemali, ngoko ke isipho kufuneka sibe ngowokuqala kokukhethiweyo kungekhona ngokubhekiselele kwixabiso elithandwayo njengamanje kunye nemilinganiselo ehambelana nayo, kodwa ngokusekelwe kwintlobo, inzondelelo kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kumkhulu.
Indlela yokulungelelanisa iholide ngokufanelekileyo, yintoni enye icandelo layo eliphambili? Itafile ephathekayo isoloko inomxholo wokubhiyozela kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, kwiholide apho kuninzi abantu asebekhulile, ukutya kufuneka kube, okokuqala, okuphilileyo. Emva kwakho konke, kule minyaka, izithako zokutyela ezithandwayo zingonakalisa impilo yakho. Ukongezelela, kunokwenzeka ukuba, ubomi obude, utata usele wazama izitya ezininzi. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukupheka izidlo zakhe ezithandayo, kwaye inxalenye enkulu yemenyu yenziwe izithelo, imifuno kunye nokutya okulula. Unonophelo kufuneka unikezwe ekukhethweni kotywala - ukuba kuthengiswa kumkhulu-ntloko, ukubonelelwa kweziphuzo kwitheyibhile kufuneka kuthinteke kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ukuba utomkhulu nogogo bahlala ndawonye - kufanelekile ukukhumbula oku kwitheyibhile kwaye, mhlawumbi, bavumele ukudansa kumculo ozithandayo wobutsha. Kodwa ukuba nangasiphi na isizathu umkhulu-holo uhlala emtshatweni, abafazi abakhethiweyo kufuneka babekhona phakathi kweendwendwe, abakwazi ukwenza ipati kumdaniso kwi-cavalier enamandla. Ukuba umdaniso wesikhulu-ntloko ngenxa yezizathu zeminyaka ayinakwenzeka, akufanele ulahle ingcamango yokuphula umculo wakho owuthandayo - emva koko, mhlawumbi, utata uya kujonga ngokumnandi iingoma zomdaniso wakhe kumdaniso wabantwana bakhe nabazukulu.
Kubuphi na ubudala, ukuhamba kwindalo kulungile kwimpilo, ngoko kwimoya yemvelo efanelekileyo iya kuzisa uvuyo ekutyeleleni iindawo zasemaphandleni. Ingaba i-dacha yangasese, ifa elihle okanye ukunyuka kweklasi ukuya ehlathini - konke kuxhomekeke kumandla omzimba ka-utatomkhulu. Ukuba kukho abantwana abancinci kwintsapho, uya kuvuya ukubona i-kite ehamba esibhakabhakeni, kwaye mhlawumbi iya kuthatha inxaxheba kweso siganeko.
Ukuzonwabisa okwemveli kubantu asebekhulile iindidi zebhodi zebhodi. Nangona kunjalo, kunye nemidlalo eqhelekileyo inokukhenktshwa ngeprogram yokhuphiswano ngamaphuso kunye nezipho kwabaphumeleleyo-ngoko iholide iya kuba yiphila, ikhuthele kwaye ibonakale!
Ukuba uyise omkhulu sele ebenomzukulu okanye abatsha abangabantwana, into yokuqala yokumenywa kwimibhiyozo iyabo. Abantu abakhulileyo bathanda abantwana, kwaye akukho mnye uvuyo ngakumbi kunxibelelwano nabantwana. Ngokungafani nabazali, oogogo nomkhulu, abajwayele ukukhulisa abantwana, bancitshiswa kakhulu ukuba baneliseke ngamazwi angenasiphelo kunye nokuhamba ngeenxa zonke zezingane. Emva koko, konke oku kubanika uvuyo!
Kulo mbhiyozo utatomkhulu kufuneka abe ngumlingisi obalaseleyo kwaye akukho nawuphi ummeli ohloniphekileyo. Ukuthatha inxaxheba kuphela kuya kumnika umva wokonwaba. Iholide enomkhulu kababa iya kukhunjulwa ngonaphakade, kwaye uya kuvuyela kuyo!