Masiqwalasele ngokuthe ngqo: ngaba kukho nayiphi na inzuzo kwimfundo enzima yabantwana abanalo ibhanti, okanye ngaba yinto engafanelekanga ukuba abazali abafanelekanga ukuba baphumelele kuwo onke, okanye basebenzise kakhulu.
Abazali, okokuqala, kufuneka ukhumbule into enye: ibhinti awuyi kubulala inyaniso kumbongolo womntwana wakho. Ungamqinisekisa kwakhona ukuba kweli hlabathi kuphela amandla omzimba ayichaza imithetho.
Ngokomgaqo, ukuba sibheka imfundo enzima njengesiqhelo sokuziphatha kunye nezenzo zabazali - oku kuqhelekileyo. Yingakho ikhuliselwe ukuqondisa kunye nendawo ekukhokelela kuyo, ukunyusa abantwana babo kwinto elungileyo, eyimfuneko.
Nangona, ukuba ucinga ngako, sonke, abazali, sifuna ukukhulisa abantwana babo ukuze bafana nathi. Lo mnqweno usuke ungacacanga, ubeka kwindawo ethile kwi-subcortex kwaye yinto esichazela ukuba sikhulise umntwana.
Zonke iingcamango zethu nezenzo zethu zivela ebuntwaneni. Omnye-kubazali, kwabanye-ukusuka kootatomkhulu, kwaye abanye baxhamla abalinganiswa kunye nemigca yokuziphatha kwamanye amaqhawe, mhlawumbi nantoni. Ukukhethwa kwabantwana malunga nabani abafuna ukulidla, abafuna ukuxelisa, kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwizinga legunya lalo okanye lo mntu. Kwaye ukuba ngaba umzali okhoyo nje wayecaphukile kakhulu ebuntwaneni bakhe obunzulu, wamgxotha waza wajezisa ngokugqithiseleyo, ngoko uya kuthwala ingqondo engqondweni engqondweni ukuba into yokuba ukukhulisa okunjalo kuyinto efanelekileyo, nokuba kunzima kwaye kungenabubele.
Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba xa abantwana besondelene kakhulu kwaye baqhelana kakuhle ne-strap, oku kuyichaphazela kakhulu i-psyche yabo kwaye iqhube ngakumbi ifana nesimo sabo sengqondo malunga nobugwenxa nobudlova. Kwaye bahlala bebona ukuba le nkohlakalo ivela kubazali, abantu abasondeleyo nabathandekayo, kulula ukuba aphelise naye. Inkcenkcesha iba yinto ebalulekileyo yobomi babo, ithwala imbewu yayo ibe ngumntu omdala, kwaye ngoku oku kubakho abanye abantu bahlupheka kamva.
Ngoko-ke, machaze indlela ukukhulisana okukrakra kunye nokuqinileyo kunokuchaphazela ubunjani bomntwana wakho.
Enye indlela, enobudlova
Abantwana bahluke. Ezinye zazo zidilize ngokukhawuleza zonke izikhalazo kunye nezohlwayo, zime ekhoneni, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa, kwaye zikhangele nje njengezinyembezi xa zibetha ngebhanti. Kwaye abanye banobundlobongela kwaye banomdla, abavumelani nezohlwayo, baqhankqalaza baze bazame, njengokuba kunjalo, ukuziphindisela kubazali ababajezisa. Umzekelo, ugijime uze uthinte ukuba kukho umchamo. Njengoko ubona, sele sele ubuntwaneni babonakalisa ubugwenxa - kwaye le mpawu iya kukhula ngokukhawuleza kwiminyaka ukuba uqhubeka nenkolo yakho yobundlobongela rhoqo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ulwaphulo lwaba bantwana ludluliselwa kwabanye abantwana. Kunzima kakhulu kwi-kindergarten kunye nesikolo, basabela ngokukhawuleza kula maxesha xa kukho into engalunganga, njengoko befuna. Izala zomzali zivuswa apha. Ukuba umntwana, umzekelo, wayenqatshelwe ukuba achukumise isethi seethuluzi, ngaphandle kokunika isizathu sokukhutshwa kwalo, kodwa ngokumgweba kakhulu ngebhanti ngenxa yokuphulwa kwakhe, ke umntwana uya kuhambisa le ndlela yokuziphatha ebomini bakhe. Kwaye xa naliphi na umntwana ezama ukuthabatha kuye into ethile yokudlala, uya kusabela ngokukhawuleza kwaye, mhlawumbi, uya kutshitshisa okanye aqhube umntwana.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ungumsekeli wemfundo enzima, ngaphambi kokuba uthathe ibhande kuzo zonke iimeko, jonga kuqala umntwana - mhlawumbi wayesele ebonakalisa iimpawu zobundlobongela ekuzalweni? Ukuba kunjalo-ungagxininisi, ungagxininisi le mpawu, njengokuba kuya kuthintela umntwana wakho ekulandeleni ubomi.
Option ezimbini, ukuphindezela
Oku, mhlawumbi, yimeko enzima kakhulu kwimpembelelo yezohlwayiso zabantwana abaselula. Ukuba ngaba ngowokuqala ukuhlukana komntwana kubonisa ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi kwabazali bakhe kunobuthakathaka okanye ubuncinane balingana naye - oko kukuthi, oontanga bakhe, ngoko ke kukho konke kunzima kakhulu.
Kubi kakhulu kwaye kuyingozi xa umsindo wengane udla rhoqo kwaye, ngokucinga kwakhe, ukuhlawuliswa ngaphandle kokungenasisiseko, idluliselwa kubaxhaphazi, oko kukuthi, ngqo kubazali ngokwabo. Oku kunokubangela ukuqhuma komsindo okungalawulwa ngumsindo kumzali okanye kumama, okanye zombini kanye. Yonke into yokuba ukususela ebuntwaneni umbono wengane uwakhiwa ukuba intsapho yakhe iintshaba ezama ukuzama ukumazaza nokumthobela (kwaye ezi ntlungu zibuhlungu kakhulu kubantwana).
Kwaye ngolunye usuku, ngelinye ilanga, kuya kuza ixesha apho umntwana ephakamisa isandla sakhe kulabo bamvusa kakhulu. Iphakamisa ukuphindiselela zonke iintlondi, njengoko wayecinga ngayo yonke impilo yakhe, abazali bakhe bamenza. Unokuziphindezela ngokwenene, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kutyhafisa kangakanani. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba izihlobo zakhe zamsondeza kwiimeko zokuhlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zisesigxina.
Inketho yesithathu, ukuqonda
Nangona kunjalo phakathi kwabantwana kukho abo, nangona baxhatshazwa ngabazali babo, basoloko bekwazi ukuphatha ubunzima buntwaneni becinga ukuba bonke ubundlobongela bubi. Kwaye bomeleza kule ngcamango ngenxa yobutshabalalo obungenasiphelo kubazali abangazange bazi indlela yerrotti kunye ne-kroti kwaye bakhupha kuphela amabhande, abaxhamla ngokukhawuleza nangona naluphi na u-prank wengane. Abantwana bayaqonda kamva kamva uMama noTata babengafuni ukubalimaza, ukuba bazama nje ukuzityhila inyaniso kubo, kwindlela enobungqina.
Baya kuhlalutya izenzo zabantu abadala kwaye bafike kwisigqibo sokuba abasayi kuze bavumele loo mpazamo. Yaye ubudlelwane nabazali asebekhulile baya kuhlala bebushelelekile kwaye befudumele, kuba abayi kubambalela ububi, baze bazame ukufumana isizathu kubo kwaye bazibonele bona ngokwabo imfundo eqinile eyenza abantu abaqinileyo.
Ewe, ezi zizinto ezikhethileyo zento enokuyenza nabantwana abanalo ibhanti, kwaye okwesithathu kubo kunqabile kakhulu. Kuye kwabonakaliswa ukuba abantwana abakhuliswa ngobundlobongela bodwa, bahlakulele kwaye baqhubezele lo bulugonyamelo ngakumbi ebomini, bawaqondise kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi babo. Kuphela abo bazali abangakhange bacinge ngekamva labantwana babo, malunga nokujikeleza kwabo kuluntu, bangayisebenzisa kakubi ibhande njengesijeziso kwaye bayisebenzise kunye nezinye iindlela zokusebenzisa amandla xa umntwana ephule uhlobo oluthile lomgaqo owenziwe ngabazali, umgaqo othile.
Khumbula, kuphela kuthi kuthi kuxhomekeke kubani bethu abantwana baya kuba sekusondele, kholwani mna, ikamva. Ngaba baya kuba ngabavuleli, abafuna ukunceda ummelwane wabo, okanye baya kukhangela ihlabathi ngobubi, kwalimala amehlo kwaye babhekwe njengobuntu kunye no-misanthrope? Ufuna ntoni kwikamva lakho?
Hayi, akunakutsholwa ukuba ibhande lihlala libi, kumanani amancinci kunye neemeko ezibalulekileyo ngokwenene, unokuzibamba ukuba sele sele uzame iindlela zonke zoxolo kunye neendlela zokusola umntwana. Kodwa kuyo yonke into ofuna ukuyiqonda umlinganiselo, yazi ukuba ungayikhupheli nje apho umntwana ekhubeka khona, kodwa nangomphefumlo ukuze amdumise apho ephakamileyo. Ukulingana okunjalo kunye nokunyamezela kuya kuqinisekisa kunye nemfundo ephezulu, kwaye ayiyi kunzima umntwana.