Ukuvuthwa ngubani ochanekileyo, kwaye ngubani omele uxanduva, akuyi kubakho nantoni na. Uhlala kwindawo, kwaye bobabini bebagweba oko kwenzekayo. Xa imini ngemihla ebomini bentsapho kwenzeka into efanayo, iimvakalelo zodwa ziqala ukupholisa. Umfazi, ehlala ehlala endlini kunye nabantwana, ngokuthe ngcembe uyasuka kumyeni wakhe. Yena, engaboni kwaye engazange azizwele ngokwakhe, uqala ukukhangela "into" ecaleni. Ngaloo ndlela, amadoda atshintsha abafazi abalungileyo nababi. Konke ngobudlelwane bakho, kuba ekhaya kukho isimiso apho angakwazi ukuphumla khona.
Le ndoda iqala ukukhangela umntu oyiqondayo nokumxhasa ngokuziphatha, eziva ngayo njengendoda yangempela. Kukho olunye uluhlu olukhethekileyo lwamadoda, aba ngamadoda amabhinqa. Xa ungakatshatanga, awukwazi ukukunceda ekuboneni kule ndawo. Kodwa, ukuba "uvale amehlo akho" kwiintetho zakhe, qaphela ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha umntu! Emtshatweni, akahlali, yena ngokwawo unjalo, kwaye nokuba uthatha othandekayo emva kokunyelisa - kufike kuwe.
Uninzi lwazo, ubudlelwane obunjalo buphela ekuhlukaneni, kwaye le ndlela yindlela engcono yokunyamezela, ukukhathazeka nokuhlupheka. Ukuba ugqiba ukugcina umtshato, cinga ngokucokisekileyo, uza kuhlala njani nalo mntu emva kokugwenxa? Mhlawumbi oku kubuthathaka okwethutyana, usuke udinwe omnye komnye, kwaye wanquma ukwenza njalo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu ufihla ukudibanisa kwakhe kwicala, kuba wena nentsapho zixabiseke kuye. Mhlawumbi oku kwenzeka okokuqala, uphenduka kwaye uzama ukulungiswa. Ngenxa yabantwana, nawe unako ukuxolela, kuba bekhula kangcono kwintsapho epheleleyo, kodwa ukuba oko kwenzeka ntoni lonke ixesha, kuyafaneleka? Akuyimfuneko ukutshabalalisa yonke into kanye, cinga kunye nendlela yokuphuma kwimeko leyo, unokufuneka uhlale ngokwahlukileyo kwithuba elithile. Kodwa ukuba akayikhathaleli, ngokuqinisekileyo uyabulawule ubuhlobo kwaye uqale ubomi obonwabileyo ngaphandle kwakhe nangaphandle kokungcatsha kwakhe. Oku kulula ukwenza, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, akufanele uzive ngathi uxhoba!
Ukhohlakele kukungcatshwa kweemvakalelo zakho, zivele ziwela. Yamkela othandekayo emva kokunye ukungcatsha okanye ukuhlala, ujabulele ubomi, nokuba yedwa, kufike kuwe. Xa uzenzele izigqibo ezithile, ngekamva awuyi kumvumela umntu onjalo ebomini bakho. Nangona utshintshe umntu kanye kuphela, unomuzwa wokungathembeki kuye, kwaye uya kuphazamisa umphefumlo wakho, ungaphumuli. Ungaze uzame ukufumana kuye ukuba kutheni akwenzayo. Iinkcukacha zongeza kwintloni kwaye zongeze kuwe iinkimbinkimbi.
Unokuzama ukusinda ekungcatshiseni kwamadoda, kodwa umbuzo uza kuvela: "indlela yokulala naye emva komnye umfazi?" Emva kokumthabatha umntu omthandayo emva kokungcatsha, ungazami ukubonisa nantoni na embhedeni kuyo nayiphi na indlela! Musa ukukhawuleza ukukholisa i-whims, unokusasazeka, kwaye xa engenayo igciwane, unokuba ngumthwali wezifo zabesetyhini. Njengomthetho, umfazi kunye nenkosikazi bafumana iingxaki ezifanayo zabesetyhini kunye nesizathu - indoda enye kubini. Ukuba khona "okwesithathu" ngexeshana akuyi kukunika ithuba lokuphumla, kodwa ukuba usagqiba ukulwa "ekupheleni", thetha ngale nto kunye nomyeni wakho, kodwa akukho mzekelo ungenzi ixhoba leemeko. Zama ukuqalisa "ukuhlala ngokutsha", uhlale kunye, ulungiselele iiholide zentsapho ezincinci, uthetha nje! Ubomi obudibeneyo akuyinto enzima kangaka. Kusuka naziphi na imeko unokufumana indlela yokuphuma, ukuba uyayithanda kwaye uyazihlonela!