Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomthandi womfazi

Xa umfazi eshada, uyazikholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba umthandayo nguye kuphela onobomi, ukuba uya kuthembeka kuye kwaye angacingi ngandlela-thile na. Kodwa ke ixesha lidlulayo, into ebomini ayifumanekanga: akukho nelisa kwintlalo yesini, okanye umyeni uyamhlonela, okanye uhamba uhambo lwezorhwebo ixesha elide, kwaye akukho zizathu ezaneleyo zokungcatsha kowesifazane. Ukhangela umthandi ukuba abuyisele uxhulumano lwakhe olungokomoya kunye nomyeni wakhe, okanye ufumane ukwaneliseka ngesini, okanye, kubalulekile ukuba umfazi, azimelele ekuziphatheni kwakhe, ezithonywe ngumyeni wakhe. Zininzi izizathu zokubonakala komthandi kwintombi. Olu budlelwane, ngokuqinisekileyo, umfazi uzama ukufihla ngokucophelela, kodwa akusoloko kuvela. Emva koko umyeni uyafumanisa ukuba umfazi unomthandi. Ubuhlobo bomyeni bukhula njani kunye nomthandi wakhe womfazi? Kwaye abamelwane bayakuvuyela ukuxelela umyeni wakhe apho babona umfazi ongathembekanga, xa, kunye nobani, ukugcina ubuhlobo bomyeni wakhe kumthandi wakhe umfazi.

1. Amadoda axabisa kakhulu intsapho yabo, bathande kakhulu umfazi wabo, baqale ukukhusela amalungelo abo kwintsapho, bahlangabezane nomthandi wabo womfazi, bafumane ubudlelwane babo kunye namandla okanye ezinye iindlela zokuqinisekisa ukuba lo mntu akasondelene nomfazi wakhe, kodwa nakwiindawo ezinikezelweyo. Emva koko, abafazi banombulelo kakhulu kubayeni abaye bakwazi ukugcina intsapho kunye nabantwana nabazukulu.

2. Olunye udidi lwabayeni, ukufunda ngokungcatsha komfazi wakhe, ukholelwa ukuba wayehlazisa umyeni wakhe. Ngabo bafana, ubudlelwane nomthandi womfazi wakhe bubonakala ngokucacileyo-ukumbulala. Kwaye ezinye zazo zifezekisa le njongo. Kule meko, intsapho ihlala idibanisa. Indoda iphelela entolongweni, umfazi wakhe ufumana enye indoda.

3. Kukho namadoda enza konke ukuze angalokothi ahlangabezane nomthandi womfazi wakhe, kodwa ufumene ubudlelwane nomfazi wakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo ngeentonga zakhe, usebenzisa amagama angcolileyo, umlingane. Ubudlelwane nomyeni kwintsapho enjalo ekugqibeleni, kodwa akusoloko kugqiba ekuphumeni, ngenxa yokwesaba indoda, umfazi wakhe, phantsi kweentsongelo zakhe, uqala ukwesaba ukufa kwakhe kwaye ngokuthobeka uyaqhubeka ehudula ebukhosini obuthathekayo, ecinga ukuba yena akayithandi kakhulu ngabafazi. Ukuqhekeka phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kule meko akuthandanga.

4. Udidi lwesine lwabayeni, ngokufunda ngokungcatshiswa komfazi (ingakumbi ukuba ichongiwe ngumcebisi-bucala), akukhatyathwa nantoni nomfazi okanye nomthandi wakhe, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uxoxwa ngokuqhawula umtshato, ukulahla umfazi wezinto eziphathekayo, ngakumbi ngakumbi ngokuthatha umfazi ongafanelekanga bantwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umfazi uzama ukubiza umnqweno wothando kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane obude kunye naye. Kodwa umthandi womfazi akathanga, njengomgaqo, ukudala intsapho. Ibhinqa lihlala "kwindawo ephukileyo"

5. Kwimeko yokuthandana nothando kunye nomnye umntu, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kungcono ukuba indoda ayiyazi malunga nayo, ukuze ayiva intlungu kunye nokukhathazeka kwimbono yokuba umfazi ayithandi.

6. Ngobudlelwane nomthandi, umfazi kufanele azi ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo xa ehlukanisa nomyeni wakhe, lo mthandi uya kupheka ngokukhawuleza ebomini bakhe, kuba engenaso injongo yokuthatha iimbopheleleko ezinzulu, ufuna kuphela ukuzithoba, ukuthanda nobudlelwane obulula.

7. Umyeni emva kokuqhawula umtshato kumfazi wakhe, ingakumbi ukuba intsapho inabantwana, ayisoloko ikwazi ukudala intsapho entsha, kodwa ukuba ithe yaphumelela, umtshato omtsha awuyi kuba bhetele kuneyona yangaphambili.

8. Amaxesha amaninzi ngaphezu komyeni akakwazi ukudala umtshato omtsha, kwaye uhlala enesizungu aze azisole oko kwenzeka.

9. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kamva, isimo sengqondo somfazi kumyeni wakhe owayengumyeni, oye wahlala yedwa iminyaka emininzi, utshintsho olungcono, uyaqonda ukuba wenza iphutha, angathanda ukubuyela kuye, kodwa, ngelanga, ngokuqhelekileyo akunakwenzeka, ngoko unakekele ubuhlobo omnye nomnye ukususela kumncinane.