Iminyaka emininzi awunandaba nantoni na. Unandipha ubomi bakho bentsapho, uyayithanda kwaye uyayithanda yakho ethembekileyo. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza ngelinye ilanga lungekho kakuhle kakhulu. Umyeni wakhe waqala ukulibaziseka emsebenzini ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa kunye nezizathu zokuba ngumgcini wokuqala. Ukufika ekhaya waxoshwa, akayikukuxelela okuncoma ngakumbi kwaye akunjalo.
Ukuba umlingani wabonakala endleleni. Ekuqaleni kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba ngubani umlingani. Unokuba ngumnye osebenza naye, incwadana eyona nto, okanye ibhinqa elidlulileyo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, musa ukukhupha umkhuhlane uze unyule umyeni wakhe ngeemfakekisi esitrato. Umlingani ulindele nje oku. Kumele uqaphele intshaba yakho ngomntu, oko kukuthi, jonga kuyo ukusuka kude, ukuze uqale uqale "isenzo somkhosi."
Buza ngokucophelela iqabane lakho ngobomi bakhe ngaphandle kwentsapho. Kwenzeka ntoni kwindawo yakhe yokusebenzela. Kunokuba uhlala kwaye uphefumula ngaphandle kwendlu. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kufunda izinto ezininzi ezithakazelisayo, ngaphandle kokuba kunjalo unobulumko obaneleyo nomonde ukuphendula imibuzo kunye nezimpendulo.
Ewe kunzima kakhulu ukunyuka kwezinye iipokethi zabantu, kwaye ngokukodwa sifunda iileta zabanye abantu. Oku siye safundiswa ukususela ebuntwaneni, kodwa njengoko imfazwe ithi, zonke iindlela zibalulekile. Khangela idayari yakhe, okanye incwadana kwifowuni. Kukho apho unokufumana izinto ezininzi ezithakazelisayo kuwe, ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukwazi yonke into ngomyeni wakho. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba uyayilumkisa, kwaye ixhobile.
Ukubala ukuthanda komlingane wakho, ungamboni ngombono obalulekileyo, kodwa i-philistine elula. Unokukhetha icebo lokubuyisela iqabane kwindawo yalo yokuqala. Uze uqale ukulwa nokuthanda kwakhe.
Ukuba ujika usebenza naye, intombazana enjalo. Yiyiphi nje eya kuza ukusebenza. Emva koko unokuhlaziya, awuyi kukwazi ukunqoba. Uyisiphukuphuku kwaye uyisidenge, kodwa uyayilumko kwaye uyisilumko. Ubulumko bakho bunokulwa nokulwa nobuhlungu. Jonga ngokwakho kwisibuko uze usebenze. Yisebenzise imali ukuze ubuyisele ukubukeka kwakho kwasekudala, ungagcini imali, umlingane wakho akayi kuzisola ngoku (uziva unetyala phambi kwakho kwaye uya kukukhohlisa ngemali).
Ukuba uya ekhaya kwikhonkco yokugqoka, yiphonsa. Ngoku ishishini lefashishini linikeza uluhlu olukhulu lweengubo zasekhaya. Indwangu yokugqoka, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayiyi kubuhlungu, kodwa ingabi flannel ne calico, kodwa i-silk. Xa ulala, ungagqoki i-T-shirt, kodwa ugqoke i-nice dressown night. Oku kuya kutsala umdla wakho.
Ngandlela-thile, musa ukuvakalisa oko uyayazi malunga nenkosikazi yakhe kunye nento oyaziyo ngaye. Kungcono ukuvuselela iimvakalelo zakho ebhedini nangaphezulu. Cinga ngento entsha, udibanise umdlalo wakho wesondo. Kuyakwenza okulungileyo. Ukuba unomfazi olula kakhulu, ubonise "amahlumela" wakho, kodwa ungathathi. Ukuba wawunzima kakhulu, yiba yinto echaseneyo, inomdla kwaye inothando. Kuya kumangaliswa lakho iqabane kwaye ngexesha elifanayo likhuthaze ngeemvakalelo ezintsha kuwe.
Yiya kwi-salon enobuhle utshintshe umfanekiso wakho, umbala weenwele, ukunqumla izinwele. Sitshintsha isitala kwiingubo, qalisa ukugqoka kungekhona njengowesifazane osemdala, kodwa ulutsha olungakumbi, kodwa lungahambi. Zama ukudala isitala senkosikazi enjalo, ke indoda yakho iya kuba nemilenze yakho emihle kuphela.
Khawujonge ngakumbi umdlali wakho, ukuze abe nomdla kuye. Mhlawumbi awuzange uyihlambele iqabane lakho ixesha elide, akazange amxelele amazwi omusa. Emva koko, kungekhona nje abafazi abanjengeendlebe, kodwa nabantu. Dumisani umfazi wakho nayiphi na umsebenzi ayenzile. Ngenxa yobungqina bakhe, ukuzinikezela, thetha kwaye umxelele ukuba uyamncoma, kodwa kuphela kwimida efanelekileyo.
Ukuze iqabane lakho licinge ngawe nganye yesibini, uvela into enomdla imihla ngemihla. Kwaye ubumnandi ubusuku bonke buzisa umyeni wakho ukuba ajabulise ngokumangalisayo, kwaye ukuphumelela kuyaqinisekiswa kuwe. Umlingani wakho akayi kukwazi ukucinga ngomntu ongaphezu kwakho. Emva kwakho konke, ungoye yodwa imfihlelo.
Ukuba le nto iyinveli yendalo, ngoko iyakwazi ukumiswa ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Ekhaya zama ukuba ungavumeli umyeni wakho kwikhompyutheni, eze ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Enye indlela yokuphuma, ungabhalisa kwisayithi, apho umyeni wakho ekhuluma phantsi kwegama lobuxoki nesithombe somnye. Ukuthetha naye ngokukhawuleza, yilapho ungayiqonda kakuhle iqabane lakho. Funda zonke iingcinga zakhe kunye neengxaki zakho. Kwi-intanethi, umntu uzibonakalisa ngokupheleleyo, oku kufana nomlingane wesitimela. Yaye uyayiqonda yonke into ecinga ngayo, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe, ukuze akrokrele. Ngoko uxazulula le ngxaki.
Eyona nto ingathandekiyo, ukuba umngane wakho ngumyeni wakho wangaphambili. Oko kuvele ngokukhawuleza ekugqibeleni. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda afihla ukudibanisa kunye neengcinga zangaphambili, kuba bahlala bengaboni njengongongelo kwimpilo yenu. Kodwa kusekho imfuneko ukuyijonga.
Buza umyeni wakhe isizathu sokuba baqhekeza, ngubani owayengumceli womtshato. Ngokusekelwe kulo, khetha icebo, kodwa awukwazi ukuxhathisa uxhulumaniso lwabo. Ngaphandle koko baya kuqalisa ukuthetha ngaphandle kolwazi lwakho. Ucele umlingane ukuba azibeke endaweni yakho, kuya kuba mnandi kuye ukuba uxoxe nomntu owayesemdala. Ukuba akukho nto isebenzayo, kufuneka nje ukuba wenze ubungane nomyeni wakho wokuqala. Kwaye ukumazi ngakumbi kwaye umthabathe ekhaya. Xa ufunde utshaba olukufutshane, ungayifumana indlela yokuyiqhubela phambili, ubulumko obuqhelekileyo besetyhini.