Kuze ndikhumbule, kubhaliwe kwiTestamente Endala ukuba nangona iqabane likulungele ukuxolela umthengi, akufanele enze oku, kuba umtshato usuphelile. Ngaba uqhawule umtshato emva kokuhlaselwa okanye akunjalo?
Ukususela ekufikeni kukaKristu, umbuzo ubeka ngokwahlukileyo, kwaye ukuxolelwa kuyamkeleka. Ukuba ukukrexeza kubangelwa yimpazamo elula, ubuthathaka obuncinci, bulandelwa nguquko, ngoko kukulungele ukuxolela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umzekelo, umfazi uyazi ukuba umyeni wakhe uyamkhohlisa kwaye uzimisele ukuqhubeka ukwenza njalo, ngoko ndicinga ukuba akukho sizathu sokugcina umtshato onjalo.
Ndiyakhumbula kwakukho intetho kunye nomfazi owayenomyeni. Xa yavulwa, wamxolela. Emva kwexesha elithile, inyaniso yavulwa kwakhona. Kwaye wayesenqume ukuba ahlukane naye. Omnye umntu owaziwayo naye, efunde ngale nto, wathi kuye: " Uqala ukucinga ngabantwana. Ngendlela, ufumana imali enhle. Kwaye wacinga, uya kuhlala phi? "Wandula wathi:" Kubonakala kum ukuba xa ndidibana nalo, kwaye ndiya kuqhubeka ndiphila njengale nto kwakhona, abantwana baya kucinga ukuba oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo kulwalamano. Kwaye xa baqala ubomi babo kwintsapho, abayi kucinga ukuba oku akunakwenzeka. Kungenxa yabantwana endihambayo. Makube nzima, kodwa abantwana baya kuqonda ukuba kukho izinto apho intsapho iphela iphelile . "
"Ngaba lo mfazi ulungile?" Ekubeni ukuba wayexolele umyeni wakhe, abantwana babembona bebuhlungu ngenxa yokungcatsha okwenzekile, kwaye oko bekuya kuba yinto engaphantsi kwesi sifundo kunokuba kungabikho ubaba. Nangona kunjalo, baya kuzuza isifundo ngomonde, ukuxolela uthando.
Oko kukuthi, kulo mzekelo, kunengqiqo ukuqhawula umtshato, kuba umoni owonayo akazisoli nakanjani, ukuba yena ... - kunzima ukufumana igama, ngoko ke masibizele izinto ngamagama abo-umququzeleli, nje u-scoundrel. Sonke sinokungafezekanga esiphila ngandlela-thile sizama ukulwa, siyaphenduka, kwaye ke - ayikho: i-scoundrel ngumntu obomi bakhe abaxhomekeke kwimilinganiselo ethile yokuziphatha, kodwa ngenxa yobugovu, inzuzo yakhe, kodwa Ukukhusela intsapho, abantwana. Andicingi ukuba sifanele sizame ukugcina umtshato onjalo, sifanele siqhawule umtshato emva kobugwenxa.
Umbuzo olukhuni ngakumbi xa lowo mntu wenza isono, waphenduka, uya kubuyela kwintsapho yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, iqabane lesibini liyabandezeleka kwaye alisekho ithemba kumntu owayengumthandi, akuyi kubuyisa loo mvakalelo eyayingaphambi kokungcatsha. Ngoku uthando luye lwafa ngenxa yokungcatsha komnye. Umntu akaqinisekanga ukuba uya kuba namandla aneleyo. Ngaba uya kuthanda kwakhona? Ngaba uya kuphinda kwakhona? Indlela yokwenza isigqibo esifanele - ukuxolela okanye ukuxolela? Ukuqhawula umtshato emva kobugqwetha okanye cha?
- Iimbono zam ezizithobayo: kufuneka uzame ukuxolela. Mhlawumbi, ngenxa yoko, uya kulawula ukunqoba oku.
Kule meko, ngokwenene ndifuna ukunqwenela into enye: ukuba unquma ukuxolela - uzame ukuyenza. Yaye ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo kubakho imeko enje: abantu njengokungathi baxolela, nangona kunjalo nasiphi na ukungavumelani naso ngcikivo, emva kokuba utshintsho luhlala lukhumbula le meko. Hayi, ukuba usenokwenza isigqibo sokuvuselela oko kwakubonakala kuphukile, kufuneka uzinqabise ngokuqinisekileyo, khumbula ngokunyaniseka. Kakade, awukwazi ukunqanda intliziyo yakho ukuba uyikhumbule oku, kodwa akufanele ibe ngaphandle ngaphandle.