Njengoko kuvela, indoda ilahlekelwa yithemba ngexesha lexesha. Ubomi bakhe bobulili abuyithandeki kuye, kwaye akanakumangalisa umfazi wakhe oyintanda, kuba sele esazi konke. Kwaye ngeli thuba uqala inkosikazi, ulunge ngakumbi kuyo, kuba unokuyithatha, uyamthabatha, kwaye uthanda nje. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa umtshato uqhawula, inkosikazi iba yintokazi elula. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, uyayiphonsa kwaye iqalise intsapho entsha, ephumelelayo neyomeleleyo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuqonda indoda yakho kwaye uyibambe, khumbula, kufuneka umangalise rhoqo, unomdla kwimicimbi yakhe, ujabule ngaye, kufuneka wenze konke ukuze unomdla omnye nomnye. Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oko, ungamangalisi ukuba wakhetha omnye.
Ngamanye amaxesha umele ube nomona kumntu wakho. Emva koko, ngokukhawuleza xa indoda ibona ngokugqithiseleyo komchasi wayo, uqala ukubonisa ngakumbi. Ukuba uyaphawula nayiphi na inxaxheba, jongana nalo mzuzu, kwaye uya kuphumelela. Emva kwakho konke, amadoda ayesakuba ngamaxesha okuqala okubhekwa njengabavukuzi nabazingeli.
Khumbula ukuba ufuna ukugcina indoda yakho ethandekayo kwaye ukuba ungumfazi okhaliphile, awuyi kuze uhlale ekhaya uze uqhubeke umpheka. Kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, uya kuhamba ngokuzenzekelayo uze utshintshe ngokwakho kwikalini kumphathi wezakhono. Ngaloo ndlela, unokugcina indoda yakho kwaye ubuyisele intsapho yakho injabulo.
Ngoko kutheni amadoda ehamba kwaye ndiwaqonda njani? Uninzi lwenguqu lwenziwa ngenxa yokuba amadoda kufuneka azinze ngokwabelana ngesondo.
Kufuneka uqonde ukuba indoda kufuneka ihlale iyanqoba, nceda, ukuba uqaphele umfazi. Kufuneka uhlale uyimfihlakalo kuye. Hlalani niluhluke, nge-twist yakho. Kufuneka ube yinyango, phezulu kunye neenkwenkwezi eziqaqambileyo. Yimvelo kwaye yenzeke.
Kwakhona, unokuba ngumntwana omncinci, umnike ilungelo lokunyamekela, kuba umntu uthanda ukuziva unamandla.
Siyathemba ukuba kule nqaku usitshele ngokuziphatha kakuhle, indlela yokugcina umntu kwaye uyayiqonda.