Uthandane nomntu othile

Iingcamango zakho zididekile, iinyawo zakho azigcinwa phantsi, kwaye ingqondo yakho idibene? Kulungile, ngoko ngoku unomntu oye waxhaphaza amaphupha akho ixesha elide. Kodwa ungayithetha njani naye?

Unokuqiniseka ukuba nayiphi na intombazana eplanethi yafikelela kule meko. Kwaye ngamnye kuthi, ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bam, wacinga malunga nendlela onokuwela ngayo indoda ethile. Ngokombono wam, yonke into inokwenzeka, kwaye nangona kunjalo, leyo yesoqingatha esomeleleyo sobuntu. Into yokuqala yokwenza ukukholelwa kuwe, kwaye abanye, njengoko bethethayo, ngumcimbi wendlela kunye nexesha.

Njengoko uyazi, zonke iintombazana ezisuka kuVenus, kunye nabafana abavela eMars, kwaye ngenxa yesi sizathu, ukuba bathandane nentombazana kufuneka baqaphele kwaye bahlale bekhululekile, kuba ngamaxesha amaninzi amadoda ayesaba uxinzelelo oluqinileyo, kuba ngamnye wabo uzibheka njengomhlaseli ongenakulinganiswa. Kwaye ngoku ndiya kunika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuphucula amaphupha akho.

Okokuqala , ukuba uqala ukumbona umntu ongekho othandweni, ngoko kufuneka uguqule umfanekiso wakho nesitayela, ukuze i-100% ibeke ingqalelo kuwe. Ngenxa yokuba akuyiyo imfihlo kubani na amantombazana abathanda indlebe, kodwa abafana - ngamehlo abo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, nangona isimbolo sakho sokugqoka sihlambulukile, ngoko unako ukunikela ngokukhawuleza kunye nenkululeko ukuba unqamle amaqhosha ambalwa angaphezulu kwi-blouse yakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyayichaza isitayela sakho njenge "bhinqa-vamp", kufuneka uguqule ezi ziqhosha. Khumbula, ukuba uthandane nomntu othile, akufuneki ukuba kube ngumngeni.

Okwesibini , kufuneka uhlale uthetha naye, kwaye kungekhona nje ngamazwi, kuya kukwanelisa nje ukumomotheka ngokumomotheka, kodwa ukumangalisa, ukuze abe nomdla kuwe. Ungakulibali ukuba sele ibonakaliswe ukuba ukunyamezela ngokunyanisekileyo kunokulungisa utshintshi ngendlela enobungane ngaphezu kweqela lonke lamagama afudumeleyo. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba uthandane nomntu, kufuneka wenze izihlobo naye.

Okwesithathu , musa ukulibala malunga noqhagamshelwano "ngamehlo". Zama ukuchitha ixesha elide engqondweni yakhe, ngokumomotheka emlonyeni wakhe, kodwa oku kufuneka kukumangalise, kungekhona ukunyaniseka. Awunakuze ufune ukuthetha igama elithi "ulo", kuya kukwanela ukuba ukhangele ngenyameko okanye ugqithise.


Ngoko ke , ukuba kunokwenzeka, kufuneka ufumane malunga neminqweno yakhe, izinto ezithandwayo, imisebenzi ngexesha lakhe elincinane. Ukuba uyazi ngezinto ezithandwayo, unokuhlala uxhasa ingxoxo enomdla. Ukuba ulwimi oluqhelekileyo lento enomdla lufunyenwe, ke kuyimfuneko ukuthatha isinyathelo esincinane. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, mcele ukuba ancede, nokuba ngaba kunjalo, mcele uncedo. Musa ukulibala ukuba abafana banamantombazana angenakukhuseleka kunye nabanomdla, ngokuzenzekelayo baqala ukusebenza emasikweni omkhuseli. Amadoda ayavuya ukuba azimelele kwaye anamandla, ngoko ke, ukuze ahlale emthandweni nomntu othile, umntu makabe usengozini phambi kwakhe. Akufanele uzame ukuba ngunkosikazi wakhe, okokuqala, ube ngumhlobo oya kukuhlonela, kwaye ngubani othembekileyo. Xa unxibelelana ngakumbi nomntu, uya kukwazi ngakumbi amandla akhe kunye nobuthathaka, kwaye ekugqibeleni uyakwazi ukudlala kakuhle.


Okokuqala kukho konke okufuneka ufunde ukuphulaphula nokuva umdibaniselwano ukwenzela ukuba uthandane naye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ibhokisi lakho lokungcebeleka eliyintandokazi, thanda nje ukuba unomdla kwincoko yakhe kwaye ufaka "yee", "yeah" kwindawo ezifanelekileyo kwaye udibanise ngentsingiselo kwisiginco senkulumo yakhe.

Khumbula ukuba abazalwana abanamakhwenyana abakhulu banamadoda amaninzi kunye nabo kuphela ngenxa yokuba banelisekisa umnqweno wabo wesini, kodwa ngenxa yokuba banokuphulaphula intanda yabo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, zama ukuba ngumcebisi wakhe omhle, ngokukodwa kwimicimbi yabasetyhini.

Njalo khumbula ukuba intombazana iyimfihlelo, ngoko ke ngethuba le ngxoxo elula, khuluma okufutshane malunga nawe kunye nobomi bakho, mhlawumbi uya kuba ngumhlobo onomnye, ongenamdla kwaye engathandekiyo. Yonke imbonakalo yakho kufuneka ugqithise inzondo, ukungaqiniseki, ukuze yonke imihla umntu wakho avule kuwe ubuso obuninzi obunomtsalane.

Indawo ekhethekileyo kufuneka inikelelwe kwinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa ibenzi ngothando lomfana. Ukuthandana ngothando kubangelwa ngongcolileyo, kodwa awuvunyelwe ukuwela lo mgca. Kule meko, yonke into iyangena kwizenzo: ukujonga okuthobekileyo nge-eyelashes, ukuchukumisa okukhawuleza, ngamanye amaxesha kunye ne-whisper endlebeni yakho. Ngamnye wethu uyazi ukuba wenzeni ukuze ahlale ethandana nendoda ethile.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akufuneki ukuphikisana nomntu onke (ngokukodwa ekuqaleni), kodwa unokulwa naye (kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, umenze anqobe) ukuze amenze abe ngumdlali ophumelelayo. Oku akuyi kukumxelisa nje i-ego yakhe, kodwa iya kukunika ingqwalasela.

Nawuphi na ummeli wesigqibo esihle sabantu, uyakwazi ukufumana nayiphi na indoda, into ephambili kukumenza aqonde ukuba nguwe kuphela. Inkomfa ngoku akusiyo ixesha, ngoko ukuzithemba kwizulu, kunye nokuzithemba ngokupheleleyo ukuba ukhetha amadoda, kwaye akunjalo. Ngale ndlela, abakhethiweyo bakho abayi kuba nelithuba. Into ephambili, ngokukhawulela, kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ngowona uninzi kakhulu. Uthando lwenza umntu abe bhetele, kwaye intombazana iyashukumisela kwaye iyenze ingenakunyaniseka kwaye imangalisa, kwaye yile nto okufuneka uyenze ngothando nomntu othile.

Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uqaphele kulo mzuzu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mntu unokuma phambi kweengqungquthela zakho, kodwa mhlawumbi uthando lwakho lwangempela lusondele kakhulu, kwaye awuyikunyamekela kwaye ufuna ukubamba i-crane esibhakabhakeni?