Yonke indlu, yonke intsapho inemithetho yayo engabhalwanga. Zenziwe ngezinto ezincinci, kodwa ziyazi kakuhle ukuba ngaphandle kwazo sesivele sizive sikhululekile kwaye singakhululeki. Mhlawumbi ekhaya senza yonke le miqhinga, ngaphandle kokucinga. Kodwa, xa umntu ezama ukutshintsha indlela echongiweyo, umntu uqala ukuthukuthela aze azame ukukhusela indlela yakhe yobomi nokuziphatha ubomi. Oku kubangela ukuxabana okuqala kumhlaba wasekhaya. Mhlawumbi ukuba umntu ngokukhawuleza wenqabe ukuhlala nawe, ngoko uyakoyika ukulahlekelwa uthando lwakho ngenxa yezinto ezincinci, ezinokuthi zibe yinqaba enkulu yeqhwa kunye nokutshabalalisa yonke into.
Wonke umntu uyakha ubomi bakhe ngendlela yakhe. Uhlamba iisitya ngokukhawuleza okanye adibanise kwisitya sokuhlambela ngeveki, ahlambe umgangatho ngombala okanye akenzi lutho ngaphandle kokucoca okumanzi, ulungise enye yokutya okanye upheke i-vat yonke iveki. Xa abantu ababini bewela kwindlu enye, bekhulile kwiimeko ezahlukileyo, kungekudala, indlu iyaqala ukuba ibe yinqaba. Mhlawumbi umfana wakho uyayiqonda oku kwaye akalungele ukujonga amandla olwalamano. Oku akuthethi ukuba akaze afune ukuqala ubomi obudibeneyo. Ngokulula, loo mntu uyaqonda ukuba kunokwenzeka kwaye kuyimfuneko ukulinda ixesha elithile. Kwindawo encinane edibeneyo, ingakumbi ukuba ifulethi igumbi elinye, kunzima ukufihla umsindo kunye nentlungu. Kukho uvakalelo lokuba uvaliwe, njenge mouse kwibhokisi. Awunanto yokuphuma kwaye uphonsa imvakalelo. Ewe, unokuhamba ngokuhamba emoyeni omtsha. Kodwa, ekugqibeleni, awuyi kuhlala ushiya indlu nangayiphi na ingxabano. Indlu yindawo apho, ngokufanayo, bafihla kuzo zonke iziphepho zeengxaki kunye neengxaki. Kwaye kutheni indlu enjalo, apho wonke umntu ezama ukusinda. Iingxaki zezindlu azikho ngaphantsi kobuxoki nokukhohlisa. Kwakhona kuthintela kakhulu ubudlelwane babantu. Kwakukho amacala amaninzi xa amaqabane athile afanelekileyo adibaniswa emva kokuba aqale ukuhlala kunye. Ngokulula, uthando kunye nentando phantsi kwezulu eneenkwenkwezi, oku, kunjalo, kulungile kakhulu, kodwa ukuze ube yintsapho eqinile, kuphela oku akunako. Kule meko, ufuna kwakhona umonde, ukunyamezela, ubulumko kunye nokukwazi ukuhlala ufumana indlela yokulahla. Ukuba abantu bayaqonda ukuba abafundile ukuba baziphathe njani ngale ndlela, kubhetele ukuba bahlehlise ubomi babo ngokubambisana.
Esinye isizathu sokungavumi ukuhlala kunye sinokuthi sibe ngecala lezemali. Mhlawumbi umfana uyaqonda ukuba unokuzinika yena kunye nendlela awayeza kuyifuna ngayo. Vumelana, ngenxa yokuba uhlala kunye kunye, kufuneka ube nemali eyaneleyo yokuhlawula indlu yokuhlala, ukutya, iimpahla, izixhobo kunye nokunye. Ukuba umbiza ukuba ahlale naye, loo nto inokuziva ikhululekile. Amanqweno angenalo avumelekile ukuba aphile kunye nentombazana kunye neakhawunti yakhe. Ngandlela-thile, oku kuhlanganiswa kwabo, zombini ngexesha elinye kunye nokunciphisa. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uqonde isikhundla sakhe. Sekunjalo, amadoda anzima kakhulu ukudibanisa nelokuba baqulethe ummeli wesini obuthathaka.
Enyanisweni, ngokuqhelekileyo icandelo lezinto eziphathekayo lidlala indima ebalulekileyo ekwenzeni inkwenkwe yokuhlala kunye. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba uthuthuke kwaye uphazamise, hlalutya imeko ngokwakho. Ukuba uqhubeka ufunda kwaye ungenayo imali eyimali, uza kuba negalelo lakho inxalenye yemali ekuhlawuleleni izindlu, ukuthengwa kweemveliso nezinye izinto ezininzi ezithintekayo ngezikhathi ezithile. Kubonakala nje, ukuba ubomi obuzimeleyo bulula kwaye bukhululekile. Enyanisweni, ngezinye iindlela, abantu banemithwalo eninzi kwaye banqatshelwe kunokuba siphila nabazali babo. Abazali, ngokwenene, banceda abantwana babo nangona baqala ubomi obuzimeleyo. Kodwa, ukuba uhlala kwintsapho, umntu unokuncika ekuncedeni ngoncedo oluqhubekayo, ngoko ke, xa abantu abatsha banquma ukuba abadala kunye nabazimeleyo, abazali, ngokomthetho, banike ithuba lokuzama isandla sabo ngokuzimela. Kungenxa yoko, ukuze uhlale wedwa, umntu kufuneka abe nomsebenzi ozinzileyo kunye nemfundo. Kunzima ukuhlanganisa iingxaki zemihla ngemihla, ukusebenza kunye nokufunda. Iiseshoni, idiploma, zibuyisele - zonke ezi zizinto ezinamandla ezithintela ingeniso yethu kwaye zenze iingxaki ezingekho mfuneko zekhaya. Kulungile, xa kubini ubuncinane ubuncinane umntu ongeyena umfundi kwaye uhlala ezinyaweni eziphathekayo. Kodwa ukuba intombazana kunye nentombazana isacinga, ukuhlala kunye kungaba luvavanyo olunzima kakhulu kubo. Kuloo meko, ngokuqhelekileyo iimbambano ezinkulu kunye nokungavumelani ziqala. Zigwebe wena, kwaye umfana kunye nentombazana kufuneka bathathe iseshoni, kwaye phezu kwabo sele bexhoma ityala lerenti, kunye ne mouse exotshiwe efrijini. Nangu kuwe isizathu esihle se-scandals.
Ukuba umntu ngokukhawuleza wenqaba ukuhlala nawe, mhlawumbi uyayiqonda yonke inkathazo yobomi obuzimeleyo kwaye akafuni ukukhawuleza. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ulwalamano lwakho alukadluli kwinqanaba xa ixesha lokucinga malunga nesinyathelo esinzima. Kakade ke, kukho iimeko xa abafana bebaneminyaka engakwazi ukukhula nokushiya iphiko lomzali. Kodwa, apha umbuzo, ngaba ufuna umntwana onjalo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ubomi obambeneyo isinyathelo esibalulekileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu wenqaba ukuya kuye ngoku, kuyafaneleka ukuqikelela. Ngaba nonke nikulungele ukuba ngumntu omdala kwaye ozimeleyo?