Bonke abasetyhini baphupha ngenkosana yangempela. Okanye ubuncinane malunga nendoda yangempela. Ngoko ke yintoni na, le ndoda yinyani ukusuka kwimbono yowesifazane, yintoni umntu onyanisekileyo kufuneka abe nayo, ngaba amaqhinga ebhinqa ayenendima apha? Unokwenzela njani umnikelo kwisihlwele? Siza kufumana namhlanje!
Yena, ke, kufuneka abe nesimo esiqinileyo (angagxininisi), abe namandla, isibindi, uxanduva kunye nomoya wokuhlambalaza, kungekhona ukuzala. Ukongezelela, zimelele ekwenzeni izigqibo ezinzulu, kwaye uhlale uhamba (ukuhlala esihlalweni esingaphambi kweTV kuyinto engathandekiyo).
Indoda yokwenene ngumntu othandekayo kwaye kulula ukunyuka. Lowo uqondayo umfazi wakhe kwaye uyazi indlela yokuxolela ubuthakathaka bethu obuthathaka. Uyamthanda umfazi, uyamthanda. Akayithandi i-scandals, akafuni nayiphi na imisebenzi yabasetyhini. Uhlala unomusa. Ukuzimelela kwimiba yasekhaya, umxhasi. Ngaba uyakwazi ukulungiselela amashishini kunye neeholide. Ukuhlonipha nokuthanda umntwana wakhe. Nika ikhofi, uhlalise umntwana.
Ukusuka emsebenzini uvela, udiniwe, kodwa akacaphukisi. Akasoze avumele ukuba intanda yakhe ithwale iimbokhwe ezinzima. Ukuphulaphula ngokucophelela, ukuhlaziya iingxaki zakho. Ubaba omhle.
Ekubhedini ukhozi . Ngokwesini, indoda yangempela iyasebenza, ayikwazi ukukhathala, ize ibone yonke into. Ukuba kunjalo, ke zonke izinto ezikhankanywe ngasentla zingabalulekanga. Kwaye ukuba isondo asiyinto yakhe yokuzilibazisa, kuyadingeka ebomini. Kodwa phantsi kwalo mqathango, omnye umntu unokuba "yindoda yangempela".
Ebomini, siye saqhelana nesincoko esithi "indoda yangempela ...", kodwa akukho mfazi onokubonisa ngokuzithemba indoda eyinyani. Ngenxa yokuba akukho namnye umntu onokuyifumana ngokupheleleyo phantsi kwenkcazo. Umfanekiso wendoda yinyani yiphupha lomfazi, elifanelekileyo, elifuna ukufumana ubomi bakhe bonke. Kodwa oku akunjalo kwaye ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka. Kwaye isizathu sokuba kulo mfanekiso thina, bafazi, sidibanisa ngokucacileyo ezo zixhobo kunye neempawu esizicingayo ukuba ziyona zilungileyo. Umntu akafezekanga. Kwaye kwindoda nganye ihlala ikhona into ephuma kuyo, kodwa yonke into ayikwazi ukulandelana. Ngoko kutheni thina, bafazi, sifuna umfanekiso womntu ofanelekileyo. Kufuneka nje ukuthelekisa into ethile nomntu ovela endleleni yethu. Kwaye ke onke amabhinqa, eqonda ukuba akukho nto, kodwa enzulwini yomphefumlo wakhe ulindele ukuba uya kudibana "nendoda efanelekileyo".
Ngoko, ngamehlo amabhinqa, yonke into iyacaca - siya kuyifumanisa, ukuthanda, ukunika iintyatyambo, ukunika umvuzo kunye noninazala kumama, njengengoma eyaziwayo. Kodwa kunomdla ukubona oko abantu bacinga ngamaphupha a mabhinqa.
Ibhinqa lifuna umntu oqinileyo, kungekhona i-gangster-efanelekileyo, lo mgangatho wenkokheli, kwaye wonke umntu emphefumlweni ungumkhokeli.
Sidinga isisigxina , sikhulu, sithandekayo-kodwa ukuba indalo ikhohlisile, ke ayisoyikiyo, kukho ininzi yabasetyhini kwaye umntu uya kuluma. Yaye iya kuba ngumfazi okwaneleyo, ekholelwa ukuba umntu akanalo sidima.
Abasetyhini banjengamadoda anesibindi , kwaye bacinga isibindi isidima sesinhla yefowuni. Uyinkokheli, kwaye oku kuyilumkiso, kucamngca kunye nokuhlonela iminqweno yakhe. Umntu onesibindi uhlelwa phantsi. Kufana nejoni ngokubanzi.
Ukuzimela kunye noxanduva luyimpawu zenkokeli, kwaye kunye nale nto isondo esomeleleyo iyavumelana ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa malunga nokuhleka kweentloni kunye nokunyaniseka, amadoda akavumelani. Zienkokheli, kwaye azikhathazeki. Emva kwakho konke, ukuphakama kwezinga, kulunge ngakumbi umonakalo kunye nokungabikho okuthe tye.
Isondo esifaneleko sifuna umntu, ngaphandle kokungabaza, kwisicelo sokuqala ukuzalisekisa nayiphi na iminqweno. Awufanelanga, kuba le migaqo ayikho inkokheli.
Akukho namnye amadoda aya kuvuma nale meko ukuqonda umfazi engazi ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa umfazi ufuna ukuhlala engummangaliso, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ukufumana ukuqonda kumntu. Kwaye kukho ukuphikisana okupheleleyo, njengento yonke kumfazi. Kwaye oku kubalulekileyo kwimiba yabasetyhini.
Indoda ayivumelani nomnqweno womfazi ukuba abe ngumntu kuphela, inkokheli. Ikumvumela ukuba uphumelele kwabanye, kodwa ufuna ukuba unamathiselwe kuye.
Ukuziqhenya kukuphela kwesigxina somntu onqabileyo. Ukongezelela, kulula ukulawula. Le yilisi efanelekileyo yokulawula. Uhlobo lomntu imoto inamandla kunawe, kunye nokunye okunjalo. Kodwa indoda enjalo ayikho inkokheli. Njengabantu abanobudlova ebomini, kodwa kungekhona kumfazi. Nezobukrakra abangabambisani nendima yenkokheli.
Uyamthanda kwaye uyamxabisa umfazi wakhe. Ukuzimelela, kungekhona umntu onothando-ngelizwi elinye inkokheli. Ezi zihlazo azifanelanga, kwaye aziphenduli kwiingcwenga zabesetyhini.
Ibhinqa lifuna ukupha , kodwa oku akusikho nkokeli. Inkokeli yendoda - ilumkile kwimicimbi yezemali kwaye isebenzisa njengenqatha yokulawula. Kodwa umnqweno ukuba, ngaphandle kokungafuni ukwenza umsebenzi wesifazane, indoda ibona ukubonakaliswa kweempawu zendoda enomkhuhlane. Ukuba ibhinqa icinga ukuba indoda ifanele ixazulule imicimbi yakhe yendlu (ukuhlamba iimpahla, i-sock) yedwa, ngoko ke unelungelo lokukholelwa ukuba akayithandi, kodwa uyayisebenzisa-kwaye iya kulungile. Ukuba ibhinqa ayifuni ukucanda kwiingxaki zakho emsebenzini, ngoko indoda ayikhathalele kwaye isebenzisa njengeATM.
Amaholide, ukuxhalabisa, ukuma kwisitofu - oku akusikho nkokheli. Ekubeni uququzelela inkqubo, kwaye akayithathi. Ukuthatha ubunzima bomi (ukuba kuyimfuneko) nguwe, kodwa inkokheli ayikwazi ukuba nomona.
Ngoko, yintoni isiphelo? Indoda yokwenene yamfazi isoloko ilula ukulawula ngokudibanisa iimpawu ezincedo kuye. Ewe, ngaphandle kwempawu ezimbi. Ukongeza, kwiminqweno yakhe umfazi uhlala ephikisana naye. Yingakho sinokuthi sifake umphumo othile. Umfanekiso womntu ofanelekileyo ngumlenze othile wokunyanzeliswa okwenziwe ngumfazi. Ibinzana elithi "umntu wokwenene" livela kuwo onke macala. Ebomini, umntu onjalo akanako ukudibana, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo, ekubeni izinto ezininzi zinxamnye nomntu wesintu. Ngoku uyazi ukuba abaninzi abafazi bacinga isigxina sesibini kunye noko kufanele ukuba yintoni, indoda eyinyani, uhlobo lwesondo oluthathaka, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kwaye umze umfanekiso walo.