Umyeni ngumntu othembekileyo nonokwethenjelwa, lowo umfazi owaziyo ixesha elide kwaye uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kuye. Umthandi, naye, uhlala ephulaphule kwaye akanakulinganiswa ngesondo. Ngubani oza kukhetha? Indlela yokwenza ukhetho phakathi kwendoda nomthandi, ukuze ungabi yilahleko?
Xa umnqweno onomdla phakathi kwendoda nomfazi udlulayo kunye nezikhukhula ezikhawulezayo ziphendulela kwiindawo ezizinzile. Indoda inokuhamba ngaphandle kokungabaza kwiintambo zezemidlalo, kwaye umfazi uhamba ngokuzungezile ngeenxa zonke ngeenwele zeekhanda kunye nekhukhamba-imaski yobusi ebusweni bakhe. Imvakalelo yangaphambili yajika yaba yinto entsha, ubuhlobo buba luzinzile kwaye buqhenqelekile, kwaye i-down-down down yaba, nakuba yayinokulungileyo, incwadi yokufunda ende. Kulo mzuzwana ubomi bubambisana nomnye umntu kwaye uthanda.
Ukuqonda kunye nengqiqo inqaba ukusebenza. Intliziyo yam iyaphula. Ekuqaleni uqinisekile ukuba ufuna ukuba nomnye, kwaye ngosuku olulandelayo uya kutsalwa ngenye indlela. Njengomntwana osemtsha, umfazi omdala unokubamba ngaphandle kokuphazamisa kwisitalato, kwaye ebusuku ubhala iintloni zeentloni: kuthekani ukuba umyeni wakhe uyazibona? Ngaba unokushiya yonke into? Okanye kungcono ukuphosa umtshato ongathandabuyo entloko yakho kwaye ulondoloze intsapho yendlu? Ugijimela echibini kunye nentloko kwaye ube nomthandi wakhe? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuthathwe isigqibo, uxanduva lwesigqibo sakho luya kuthathwa.
Ewe, into yokuqala ukuyenza kukuba uziqonde ngokwakho, kwiimvakalelo zakho. Kubalulekile ukucacisa oko kulahlekileyo ebomini, oko ufuna ukutshintsha. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zaphawula ukuba uthando lupholisa malunga neminyaka emibini kwaye abantu baqala ukulangazelela ubudlelwane kunye neemvakalelo ezazisekuqaleni. Emphefumlweni akukho nto, kwaye ufuna ukuzalisa ukungabikho. Kubonakala ukuba, intombazana ekuqaleni yayiye ifuna umyeni wakhe, ngenxa yoko, kubonakala ngathi le ndoda ayizange iphile ngokwethemba lakhe. Isizathu, okokuqala, kukujonga ngokwakho, emva kwayo yonke into, mhlawumbi, umyeni akabi njengokuba kubonakala ngathi.
Emva kokuba iimpendulo zale mibuzo zifunyenwe, kuyimfuneko ukuphendula umbuzo oyintloko - kutheni enye indoda ibonakala ebomini? Impendulo yalo mbuzo inokuba yinto emnandi kakhulu, kodwa kufuneka ukuba yinyani, yindlela kuphela yokwenza isigqibo kule meko. Mhlawumbi umthandi wayekwazi ukuvusa ngokupheleleyo ukuziphatha ngokwesini, mhlawumbi kunye nentombazana inokuyinto engokwemvelo. Mhlawumbi yindlela nje yokwandisa ukuzithemba okanye ukuphindezela "inzuzo" yomyeni wakhe? Kubalulekile ukuqonda oko kukusilela ngokukodwa ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe kunye nento engenakho ukuthetha nomthandi wakhe.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba akufanelekile ukwabelana ngale ngxaki kunye nabahlobo okanye izalamane. Akunjalo ukuba baya kugcina imfihlelo, mhlawumbi bangachaza ngengozi ngemicimbi yomyeni wakhe. Udinga ukuphulaphula intliziyo yakho, iya kukuxelela indlela yokwenza ukhetho phakathi komthandi wakho nomlingane wakho. Musa ukunyamekela ukugwetywa ukusuka kwicala, ubuchule bentlalo yomntu omnye, njl njl. - Umphefumlo kufuneka ukhethe. Ngaphandle koko, unokuqhagamshelana neengcali - isazi sengqondo.
Ukuba ukungcatsha akuniki ukuphumla, kungcono ukuvuma kumyeni wakhe. Ukuba uyakwazi, ngoko uya kuxolela kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyafaneleka ukuhlala naye, njengoko ethanda, engakhange abhekisise nayiphi na imeko.
Khetha ukulungelelanisa, onokuziva uthuthuzela ngokunyanisekileyo, ngubani onokuvula ngokupheleleyo kwaye akhulume nangayiphi na isihloko. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ubudlelwane.
Kodwa nangona kunjalo, zonke iingcebiso ziyingcamango, ngokwenza oko kukhethwa yintombazana-eyona ibiza kakhulu. Emva koko, indoda isele isithandwa kakhulu kwaye ifunde, kwaye umthandi, nangona umntu onomdla, onomtsalane, kodwa usentsha. Ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokugqibela, umntu kufuneka akhumbule ukuba kwakunjani umyeni wakhe ekuqaleni kobudlelwane.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho iintyatyambo, ukuncoma, kunye nokuqhuba. Kuyafaneleka ukukhumbuza ukuba kunye nomthandi, mhlawumbi, kunye nexesha, iimvakalelo ziya kupholisa. Umyeni akafihla iimvakalelo zakhe ezimbi, uthi yonke into enjalo, kwaye umthandi uzama ukuba ngcono kunokuba uyenaye.
Ukuba ukhetho luye lwawela kumthandi, ngoko ke isigqibo kufuneka sichazwe. Mhlawumbi umthandi ngokwakhe akalungele ulwalamano olunzulu kwaye unelisekile ngolu hlobo. Kufuneka ulinganise yonke into, ukuze ungagqiba nekhefu eliphukileyo.