Ubuninzi bobuchule abuyena. Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, inkqubo ye-nervous does not react negative to the sensibility. Umntu, eneentliziyo ezinamandla, uhlangabezana nobunzima obuninzi, obonakalayo nabanye.
Ukuqonda, xa kuphuculwe, kunokuthabatha abantu abadala kubantu abanomdla. Umntu onjalo unokuthelekiswa ne-antenna ethatha isimo sengqondo kubantu abakujikelezile. Uba novelwano, uxhaphaza, uyazi indlela yokudibanisa ngayo iimvakalelo zomntu odibanisa naye kwaye oku kubangele ukuba ahlangane naye.
Ukususela ebuntwaneni, ulala kakhulu kakhulu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuzincama xa ekhala. Emva kokuba akhule, umntwana onzima ukunyamezela - angakwazi ukuphulaphula amathoyizi akhe aze angene kwiimpawu zokungcebeleka ukuba kukho into engasebenzi. Isizathu salo konke kukunyusa ukwanda, kudluliselwa emzimbeni nasemphefumlweni.
Abantwana, abanomdla wokuhlambalaza, abasayi kukunyamezela intlungu. Ngoko, ukutyelela ugqirha kuyisihogo sangempela kubazali bakhe. I-hysteria ingaqala kuphela ngenxa yokuba kucetywayo ukuya kwi-polyclinic. Ewe, ukuba kufike kwiigonyana, ke kulo mzekelo akuhambi kuphela kubazali, kodwa nakwabasebenzi bezonyango. Umntwana ukhalela kuye nawuphi na uqale okanye utyumle, ungavumeli ukuzichaphazela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iimpendulo zakhe kuzo zonke izinto ezincinci ziqhwithi, omnye unokuthi, akahambelani nesizathu soburhalarhume.
Abantwana abanomdla babonakaliswa ngokukrokra. Kufanelekile ukubuza umntwana onjalo ngendlela avakalelwa ngayo, ngoko uya kuphendula ukuba kubi kakhulu ukuba unentloko, intlungu yesisu kunye nomqala. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuhambelani nento yokwenene, kuphela ishushu esiqhelekileyo.
URebbenokochen ulungile kakhulu ekusebenziseni ukwanda kwakhe kwimiba enomdla xa efuna ukwenza okuthile, umzekelo, ukuba angayi esikolweni okanye angagqibekanga isabelo esithile. Kodwa, ngokweengcali zeengqondo, intlungu enjalo yabantwana inamandla kakhulu, kwaye imeko exinzelelekileyo ibuhlungu kakhulu impilo yabo kunabanye abantwana.
Kukhona enye into ebonisa ukubahlula kwabanye, oku kukhanga ukucaphuka. Ukuba umntu uqalekisa, ngokukhawuleza uqala ukukhala. Ngako oko, umntu makakhumbule ukuba phantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko kuyimfuneko ukuyeka ukukhwaza kwidilesi yesana. Musa ukumxelela ukuba akudingeki uloyike, akunakunceda, kuba uloyiko loloyiko lwakhe lusezingeni elifanayo kunye neengcambu zentlungu. Kuya kuba ngcono ukuba umntwana enjalo ejwayele kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neemeko ngokuthe ngcembe, ngaphandle kwengcinezelo.
Engacacanga, kunokwenzeka ukuqinisa umntwana kumgangatho onjalo, njengokrokrela. U-Nestoit usoloko ezisola, ngelixa esithi uyinto ephosakeleyo, into ephosakeleyo, ukuba uwele kwaye aphumele onke amaxesha. Ngaloo ndlela, yena, nangona ufuna, akanakujamelana noloyiko lwakhe naluphi na ukukrakra kunye nemivimbo.
Zikhululeke kunoma yiphina imeko kwaye uthathe uvelwano oluphakamileyo njengento ebalulekileyo. Ngale nto uya kumnceda ukuba anqobe iimvakalelo zakhe. Emva koko, umntwana onjalo unamandla ngakumbi kunabanye, kungekhona nje ubuhlungu benyama, kodwa uphendula kwisiphakamiso sabanye abaninzi. Ukuba kuye into enqabelayo, unokuwela emkhatsheni aze atshabalalise yonke into, eya kuba phantsi kwesandla. Kwaye ukuchithwa kancinane komnye umntwana akuyi kuba neentloni kuzo zonke.
Abantwana abaxhamlileyo banzima ukuphendula nakwezinye iintsilelo ezincinci, bahlala bekhala besinde. Oku kubonakaliswe kokubili ukuvavanya kwabanye kunye nokuzithemba. Loo nto umntwana uhlala enombono obi. Kufuneka enze into ethile, umonde wakhe uphela ngokukhawuleza kwaye ugqiba ukuba akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na. U-Noi akhawulezi ukuba asebenze ngokwakhe, ngenxa yokuba akakholelwa ngamandla akhe kwaye akenzi imizamo yokunqoba ubunzima. Ngenxa yoko, inzala kuyo yonke into iyakhawuleza.
Indlela yokuziphatha kubazali
Abazali bafanele bazi ukuba sele beqaphele ukuziphatha komntwana ngokukhawuleza, kunokwenzeka ukuba ugweme ukuqhubela phambili kwesi simo. Ukuqwalasela ukukhungatheka nokunganeliseki kwengane ukwenzela ukuphepha iingxaki ezinzulu. Kuphela ngenkxaso yayo, kungekhona ngemfundiso yokuziphatha, uya kunceda umntwana ukuba azibonele ngokuqinisekileyo aze akholelwe kuye, ukufunda ukuzithobela kunye nabanye ngokuhlonela. Ngaloo ndlela, unokukwazi ukuthoba ngokulula ukunyaniseka kwakhe. Mfundise ukuba athathe ngesandla, nangona ukuba le netak kulula, njengoko kubonakala ngathi.
Nazi ezinye iinqununu iingcali zengqondo zinike:
- Musa ukuqhagamshelana nomntwana xa wena ulungelelanise-oku kuya kumnika isimo esingenasiphelo, kuba umntwana usenokuzibona yakho imeko.
- Ungaphenduli kwinto yokuba umntwana uyakhala kwaye akhenkce. Ungazami ukwenza iimvakalelo zakhe ngokumemeza okanye ukunyengisa - kwiimeko ezinjalo akayi kukuva.
- Futhi musa ukulila xa ebona ukuba uyaphule idolo. Kuya kuba ngcono ukuba uthe wagqiba isilonda.
- Musa ukunciphisa iingxaki zomntwana kwaye ungatsho ukuba akukho nto yenzekile. Musa ukundiqinisekisa ukuba esikolweni uya kuhlala engowokuqala kuyo yonke into.
- Kuzo zonke iimeko, gcina uxolo xa umntwana wakho esondele. Mthabathe isandla, mkhumbule phantsi, kodwa xa engakhange akhumbule, kuba kukho abantwana abangathandi ukuxinezeleka xa bachukumiseka.
- Ukuthintela kuyadingeka xa uxhulumana nomntwana. Nangona kunjalo, i-weasel ayiyi kuba ngaphezulu. Sombulula ingxaki ngelixa umntwana ehlazileyo, akukho ndawo. Hlela oku eceleni, emva kokuba imeko ikhutshwe.
- Kuba ukubonakalisa isibindi ekunqobeni ubuthathaka bethu kubalulekile ukudumisa nokuxhasa.
- Yamkela iimpumelelo zakhe kuzo zonke iinjongo. Ukuba umntwana ukholelwa kuye, unokukwazi ukunqoba ngokukhawuleza iimvakalelo zakhe ezintle. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba nguwe kuphela onokukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba akwazi ukujamelana nobukhulu obuninzi.