Ukwahlula kunzima kumzuzu wokuphila. Ihlala ixinezelekile, iinyembezi, ukuxhalabisa, kunye namaxesha athile kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwexeshana. Kodwa, into enzima kakhulu xa lo mzuzu obalulekileyo uhamba ngokungalindelekanga, okwenzisayo. Intombazana, loo ntokazi, ngenxa yesipho "sesipho" seso senyuke intuition, kwaye ngokungafani nesondo esomeleleyo sinokuziva xa umfana efuna ukuthetha. Kodwa, akwanele ukuba uzive nje, kuyimfuneko ukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo, xa kufike ixesha elinjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuqonda "into enokucinga ngayo".
Ngamanye amaxesha, isondo esilungileyo sicinga, kodwa kuyafaneleka ukufumanisa ukuba umfana ufuna ukuhlukana nawe? Impendulo yeengqondo zeengqondo, ngokuqinisekileyo ewe! Ewe, kuyafaneleka! Kubalulekile ukuzigcineka ngokuqhubekayo kwiinkathazo zokungabaza, kwiinkxalabo zetyala kunye nobunzima be "idini elingunaphakade". Ukuqhathaniswa kukusoloko kukuvuyisa kwaye kuyabuhlungu, kodwa ukwazi ukuba umfana ufuna ukuhlukana nawe, kuququzelela ubomi bakho besikhathi esizayo.
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufumana into yokuba umfana ufuna ukuhlukana nawe. Okokuqala, kuyisisiseko, kuya kunika ingqalelo. Iimvakalelo zakhe zipholile. Ukuhamba okunqwenelekayo kunye nokuhamba rhoqo njengoko kungayi kuba. Okwesibini, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe, uya kukuxelela ukuba akayi kubuva ngathi. Mamela amazwi akhe, kwaye ungaphoswa. Ukuba uqala ukuthetha, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, malunga nokusilela kwakho, ke oku kungumqondiso wokuqala wentlekele ezayo. Ngoko kukho "ukuthandana" ukuba xa umfana esithandana naye, ngokuqinisekileyo akabonanga iimpazamo zowesifazane. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe ziphelile, uqala ukuphawula zonke iintsilelo ebusweni bentombazana, yonke inqaku lomlingisi. Okwesithathu, unokuhlala ufunda ezininzi ngokuthetha nabanye abahlobo. Hayi, ewe, awubukeli kwaye "uphonye", kodwa unokuhlala ufunda ngokungaqhelekanga kubahlobo abasondeleyo ukuba inkwenkwe yakho ichitha ixesha xa ingekho kunye nawe. Ngaloo ndlela, unokufumana umfanekiso ocacileyo, ukwenzela ukuba uhlalutye ukwenza isigqibo sokuba ngubani okanye "ukuthintana" kuwe. Kwaye, okwesine, singakwazi ukukhetha enye indlela. Kulula ukuthetha naye ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Akuyimfuneko ukuxubha umsindo kunye neentlanzi, ukuba umntu uthe wagqiba kwelokuba athathe inxaxheba, oko kungenjalo ngokungahambelani. Ngako oko, kungcono ukudala imimandla emnandi nezolile, kwaye uzama ukuthetha njengabahlobo. Ukunyaniseka kweemvakalelo zakho nezizathu zakho, kuya kunceda umntu ukuba avume kanye, njengoko kunjalo.
Indlela yokufumanisa ukuba umntu ufuna ukuhlukana nawe okanye cha, oku mhlawumbi enye yeyona mibuzo eqhelekileyo. Ewe, kunzima ukwazi, kwaye kunzima ukuthatha. Kodwa, njengoko besithi, "kungcono ukuba ulungele yonke into" ukuze "utshaba" aluthabathi. Akukaze kube nzima ukwazi, kufuneka nje ukukwazi nokubona konke oku. Ubuthathaka kwaye ngoko kungabikho kwamantombazana kukuthi isondo esilungileyo sikhohliwe kakhulu, ngeli xesha lokuwela othandweni. Ukunyameka kulala, kodwa ngelo xesha, ingqalelo ilahlekile, okukuvumela ukuba uhlolisise oko kwenzekayo. Ngexesha apho abantu babini bephelelwe yintlango, ubomi kunye nengqondo yengqondo yomntu, thumela impawu ezininzi ezithetha ngaye malunga nokupheliswa kobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphulaphula nokujonga le miqondiso, kwaye mhlawumbi kukho elinye ithuba lokuthintela ukuphela kwexesha elizayo.
Ukuqhathaniswa akukaze kube lula, kodwa kwenzeka, kwaye amanani abonisa rhoqo.