Ngaba kukho ubomi emva komtshato?

Yonke into idlulileyo kweli hlabathi, uthando oluvuthayo luphela, kunye kanye. Akukho nto enokuyenza - wonke umntu unesiphelo sakhe. Kuboniswa ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumqalisi womtshato, bobabini abatshatileyo babeziva benetyala. Ngaba kukho ubomi emva komtshato? Ikhula njani kubayeni nabasetyhini? Emva koko, kuyacaca ukuba amadoda namabhinqa bakhathazekile ngale nto. Musa ukucinga ukuba abantu bazolile ngale nto, bathi, yonke into-ngoku ndikhululekile!
Emva kokuqhuba izifundo ezininzi kunye nokuqwalasela, izazinzulu ziye zafumanisa ukuba emva kokuqhawula umtshato, inani elininzi lamadoda linokuxinezeleka kunye nokudakumba, becinga ukuba ukwahlukaniswa ngumtshato kukungcatshiswa kwi-half half. Amanye amadoda athile acinga nokuzibulala, enye inxalenye izimisele ukuphindisela kumfazi owayengumfazi wokuphelisa ubuhlobo. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba amaphesenti angamashumi amathathu anesibhozo samadoda emva kweminyaka emibili ukususela kumhla wokuqhawula umtshato aqala ukuziva ukhululekile, kwaye iipesenti ezingamashumi amabini anesibini zalabo bahlolisisiwe bavuya ukuba baqala ukukhokela ngobomi be-bachelor.

Ukongezelela, amadoda ahlukanisile kwiimeko ezininzi azikhawulezi ukuseka ubudlelwane kunye nabadala abaqabane, abo babuyisela ubuhlobo obudala kuphela ngamashumi amathathu nesibhozo ekhulwini. Nazi iinkcukacha ezibonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba amadoda ahamba ngokuqhawula umtshato: enye yesithathu, ibe ngamashumi amathathu anesithathu ekhulwini labayeni basekuqaleni, emva kokuba bodwa, baqala ukukhukula intlungu yabo ngotywala kwaye banxila ngokukhawuleza; Amashumi amabini anesithathu ekhulwini aphazanyiswa ngokuxhamla; Ipesenti ezilishumi elinesithathu zizama ukubuyela kwixesha langaphambi komtshato kwaye zidibana nabasetyhini ababeziwa ngaphambi komtshato.

Kwaye kukho ubomi emva kokuqhawulwa kwabasetyhini? Emva kokuba kuqhutywe uphando kunye nophando olufanelekileyo, izazi zengqondo zifumene ukuba abafazi abaqhawulekileyo abaxhalabele ngokulahlekelwa lulwalamano nomntu owayengumthandi. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abafazi abaqhawulekileyo abaphuculanga kuphela impilo yabo, kodwa imeko yomphefumlo iya kuqhelekileyo. Kufuneka kuthathelwe ukuba abanye abameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka basesidlangalaleni sonyaka, okanye ngaphezulu, ukususela ngokuqhawula umtshato.

Ukuba malunga neyesithathu samadoda ahlukanisiweyo bazama ukutshata ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, baze batyelele iinkonzo ezibonelelwe ngamagosa omtshato, ngoko ke, abasetyhini, kwiimeko ezininzi, abasandelanga ukutshata, baqala ukucinga ngale ndlela ngamanye amaxesha emva kweminyaka yokuqhawula umtshato.

Oku kuziphatha kwamadoda nabasetyhini emva kokuqhawula umtshato, iingcali zentsapho zengcali zinika inkcazelo elula. Ngenxa yokukhululeka kwimbopheleleko ephathekayo yasekhaya, indoda engumtshutshisi okanye indoda engalunganga, umfazi angaphila njengoko ethanda, nandiphe inkululeko kwaye ahlawule ngakumbi. Inani elikhulu labameli be-half half of humanity bavuselela izibophelelo ezindala, banxibelelana nabahlobo, bathabathe ngokujonge ukubonakala kwabo nempilo yabo, hamba uhambo.

Inxalenye yindoda, emva kokuhlukana kwintsapho eyaziwayo, ivakalelwa kukuba ididekile kwiingxaki kunye neengxaki eziye zavela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda awaxhomekeke kwiinguqu ezizodwa zokutshintsha ubomi, ezi ziyimpawu zengqondo yabantu. Kungenxa yoko, njengommiselo, ubomi emva kokuqhawula umtshato kubantu buba ngumxininiso obunzulu, oya kuba namandla ngakumbi xa iqela lomtshato lichazwe ngumlingane.

Kuyacaca ukuba, umtshato ngamnye ubangelwa zizizathu ezithile, ezahlukeneyo kwibini nganye. Ukuqwalasela umlinganiselo wokuxinzelela, umtshato usuqala kuqala ngokubhekiselele kwimpembelelo yengqondo yomntu. Umntu kufuneka azenzele isigqibo sokuba ngaba kukho ubomi emva kokuqhawula umtshato okanye cha.

UJulia Sobolevskaya , ngokukhethekileyo kwisiza