Ukuba ngokukhawuleza umfazi wakho ushiye

Indoda eshiywe yileyo ihleli kwi-stupor okanye isesimweni sokuvuya. Izikratshi, ukusola omnye ngazo zonke izono kunye nezitsha zokutshaya zizinto ezidlulileyo. Abathembekileyo bakho babuthana izinto zakhe baza bakushiya, baqhawula umnyango. Ifulethi inomxholo wengxoxo yakho yokugqibela kunye neqholi elincinane leqhumiso layo. Ngokukhawuleza, iingqungquthela zizola, kwaye ukufuna uphendlo oluninzi kunayo yonke iimpendulo zemibuzo engapheliyo kuqala: "Ngubani na onokusola?" Kwaye "Yintoni oyenzayo ngoku ukuba ngokukhawuleza umfazi wakho washiya wena?" Kwaye ngokwenene uqala njani yonke into ukususela ekuqaleni?

Kuyaziwa ukuba i-psychology yamadoda nabasetyhini idla ngokufanayo. Abameli bobulili obufanelekileyo kwimitshato bayaqonda, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuzinza kwengqondo. Umtshato kubo uthando lomlingane nabantwana, ukuzimela okukhulu kwiimali, kwaye, ke, ithuba lokuthembela kwintendelezo enamandla yendoda. Indoda ibheka umtshato njengendlela yokufumana induduzo. Ngokwemvelo, iimvakalelo zentsapho zikhoyo, indoda iyayithanda kabini umfazi kunye nabantwana, kodwa ... ihlaziye iikhati, iisokisi ezicocekileyo kwi-chiffonier, ukucoceka kunye nokuhlelwa, isidlo esihlwabusayo emva komsebenzi onzima kosuku, ikhaya elihle. Kwakunjalo, kukho kwaye iya kuba. Ngelishwa, ukuzaliseka kwale mihla encinci, ebonakalayo imihla ngemihla ngokuqhelekileyo kuza kwiiveki ezimbalwa - emva kokuba umfazi uthe "xolele, hlekani ..." kwaye washiya umyeni wakhe.

Ekuqaleni, ukukhukhumala kukuxhamla phezulu kwezwi lakhe kunye namabango okuhlawula umonakalo. Ubunzima obukhulu xa umntu engenakubuhlungu aqonda ukuba uyashiywe. Ngokukhawuleza xa umbuzo ubonakala engqondweni: "Unjani ngaphandle kwam?" Ngokugqithiseleyo kunokuba, umntu, ngokuvunywa ngokukratshi kwakhe, uzama ukuqonda ukuba ngubani owathabathe umfazi kuye, ngenxa yokuba wamshiya, ulungile kwaye uyimfuneko. Ukuzibonakalisa ngokuzibandakanya ngokukhawuleza kweengcamango kwakha ngokucacileyo imbono yokuba le ndoda ngokwayo yaxosha umfazi wayo wangaphambili, ukuba uya kuphumelela ngokukodwa ngaphandle kwayo, kwaye ngokubanzi ubeka ityala.

Ngalo "inqwelo" idla ngokuthumela inkxaso yokuziphatha kumnye wabahlobo. Ngokwemvelo, kwimeko enjalo ndifuna ukuthetha, ndikhumbule ngamathuba amnandi ebomini bam ndawonye, ​​ngcikiva "into engalunganga" endikukhathalelayo. Kwaye ngenye indlela, akakwazi ukuwuthintela inyaniso. Yintoni, njani kwaye kwenzeka ntoni eqinisweni. Bayihlobo oluhle, baya kuba novelwano, kwaye baya kuqonda kwaye banikele uncedo, kwaye okokuqala baya kunceda ukuphilisa izisongo ngoncedo lweVodka.

Kwaye niphumo-abahlobo baya kwiintsapho zabo, kodwa i-vodka isala. Ewe, unganiki umkhiqizo ofanayo ukuba uchithe? Kubalulekile ukuqedela ukusela, kwaye uye esitolo esiseduze kwenye ibhotile. Kwaye enye enye ... njalo njalo. Kuzo zonke iimpawu zengxube yeklasi.

Nangona imeko ehlukile. Zikhuphe wena emsebenzini ukuze xa ufika ekhaya ukuba udibane phantsi emkhombeni uze ungaphumi naye kusasa phantsi kwee-alamu ezinkulu zewashi ye-alamu. Ukuqala ngokunyanisekileyo ukuthatha ixesha elidlulileyo, oogxa kunye nabasemagunyeni, ukuba babe ngumsebenzi osebenza ngokwenene, nangona kukho "kodwa" apha. Ukuba oogxa bakho abaqapheli ngezizathu zentshiseko esemthethweni, banokuzama ukusinda kwindawo yakho yokusebenzela. Yaye ngubani ofuna ukubonakala ephaphathekile emehlweni abo magunya?

Kukho enye ingqungquthela, apho amadoda ashiyweyo awela ngokuvuyisa. Kunokwenzeka ukutshintshela iindibano eziliqela kanye kunye nenjongo engenakuqonda ukuba ndizibonakalisa mna kunye nehlabathi lonke (umfazi oshiyayo) othi "Ndiyayithanda indoda, ukuba ndiyifunayo njani!" Ngelishwa, abo bakhetha umgca wokuziphatha abaqondi ukuba baxhamla kwiinjongo zabo. Ukuba iveli leyo ayifuniyo ngobusuku obunye, kungekhona kuye, okanye kumfazi obalulekileyo. Ulwalamano olude ngokukhawuleza emva kokuhlukana nomntu onohlala naye phantsi kwephahla elilodwa kungekudala into engenakwenzeka.

Ukuba umfazi wakho ushiye enye, into engcono kukuba unokwenza ngentloko ebandayo kwaye, ngaphandle kokuphosa amehlo akho, uqonde ukuba kutheni umfazi wakho ekushiye. Ungabonisana nengcali yezengqondo, oku kuyindlela enhle. Kwaye zama ukukulungisa. Kungenxa yokuba wonke umntu kufuneka axabise isigxina sakhe. Yena, nantoni na ukuba wahamba nayo, akulula.