Kwintsapho, mhlawumbi, emva kwexesha elide, isimo sengqondo sosuku nosuku siqala. Amaqabane aqala ukuxubana nomnye, njengomphathi kumqeshi, njengesigqirha sengqondo kunye nesigulane, njl. Kukho uhlobo oluthile lokungaqondi, inxalenye yesantya, umqobo ongenakubonakali. Nangona izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato zihlukile kubo bonke abantu, abantu abaninzi bafuna ukuphumelela impumelelo enkulu, babe ngumntu ozimeleyo, baye kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuqeqesha, kodwa le nto iphela yodwa. Ngoko isibini esitshatileyo sifanele siphume iinjongo ezinjalo ebomini babo, ekubeni intsapho ibonisa izenzo ezenziwayo. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukulahla zonke iimbonelo ezithintela kwaye zikhokelela kwizenzo ezingalunganga. Izizathu zokunqanyulwa kobudlelwane zingabininzi, siya kuqwalasela ezinye zazo.
Uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali okanye umvuzo . Enye yezona zinto ezibangela ukuqhawula umtshato. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba ukuba umvuzo womtshato ungaphantsi komyinge, umngcipheko wesibambano somtshato uyancitshiswa ngo-30%. Xa kukho umntwana kwintsapho, kwaye ingeniso yaloo ntsapho iphakamileyo ngokwezinto eziphathekayo, umngcipheko wokuqhawula umtshato uyancitshiswa ngu-24%. Ngako oko, isizathu sokuba imitshato esele yatshatyalaliswa ngokubhekiselele kubasetyhini (emva kweminyaka engama-30) iyacaca, iphinda iphinde iqiniseke ngokubhekiselele kwimeko yokungafuneki kwintsapho. Kodwa isondo esomeleleyo sinokwesaba kwabo malunga nokuhlukana kobudlelwane, emva kolwalamano oluhlukileyo, balahlekelwa ngumnqweno wokuba nomfazi. Amadoda anjalo kwiimeko ezininzi ahlala e-bachelors.
Iimbono ezahlukeneyo malunga nonqulo . Abantu abanemibono eyahlukeneyo yonqulo abaqhelananga ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa ukuba oko kwenzeka, ke kukho ithuba eliphezulu lokuqhawula umtshato kwiintlobo ezinjalo. Indoda efanelekileyo ingaba ngumntu ofanayo unqulo olufanayo, inkcubeko yesizwe, isimo senhlalakahle njengomfazi wakhe. Izibalo zinikezela ngolu datha ukuba abantu abalingana nobuzwe kunye nemfundo, kunye nesimo sezemali, baqhawuleza bahlukana. Uninzi lweenkolo alinaso isimo sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kumatyala omtshato, ngoko banika isizathu sokugcina ubudlelwane beentsapho kunye nokuphepha umtshato. Abantu abanezizwe ezahlukeneyo abanqume ukudala intsapho ngokubalwa banokukwazi ukuyigcina kunokuba batshata ngothando. Ngokwezibalo, iintsapho ezihlala ndawonye iminyaka emihlanu, amathuba okuqhawula umtshato ngowama-10%, kunye neentsapho zothando-50%.
Ukungakwazi ukulawula . Amadoda amaninzi, kunye nabasetyhini ngokubanzi, nabo, bayeke ukulawula ihlabathi elibangqongileyo, bayeke ukuba ngabaphathi bempilo yabo, nayiphi na inxaxheba kunye neentlanganiso kunye nabahlobo. Amantombazana, ukwesaba ukuba ngumantombazana omdala, ukukhawuleza ukuya kumanye amaxesha ukutshatyalaliswa kwemitshato, ngelixa amadoda athile - ngenxa yeendlela ezinokubakhoyo kunye netyala elenziwe phantsi kwefuthe loluntu. Kule meko, ukwenzela ukuba ugweme isizathu sokuqhawula umtshato, umfazi kufuneka athathe yonke into ezandleni zakhe, oko kukuthi, ukubonisa ukunyamezela, ukuzinza emoyeni, ukuhlalisana, kufuneka abe nomnqweno wokuseka ulwalamano oluthile.
Ukusetyenziswa kwamagama enkonzo . Ngokombono we-psychologist owaziwayo, ulandelelana ukuba umntu unokukwazi ukubona umlinganiselo womtshato. Xa usebenzisa amagama asemthethweni, ubude bentsapho bufutshane. Iintetho ezingalunganga sinye yezizathu zokuqhawula izibini ezitshatileyo. La magama angabandakanya ukusebenzisana, kunye neengqungquthela, kunye neziphakamiso kunye namanqaku. Ezinye izifundo zichaze ngokucacileyo ubudlelwane phakathi kokusetyenziswa rhoqo kwamazwi aseburhulumenteni kunye nomtshato. Ababini abasebenzisa amagama anjalo bafika kwisigqibo sokuthi ubudlelwane babo buphule ngaphakathi kweenyanga ezintathu. Eli liva linxulumene nokucacisa ukuxhomekeka kweelwimi.
Ukutshintsha rhoqo. Esinye isazi senzululwazi kunye nesathematika siye sachithwa indlela ethile apho umntu angakubeka khona ixesha elide lomanyano weentsapho. Imodeli yenziwe iqhubana neengxabano ngaphakathi kwebini, ezinika ukuchaneka kwangaphambili malunga nama-95%. Izibini ezide kunye nezovuyo zingabizwa ngokuba zathi abo baxabana nabo bahleka. Kwaye izibini ezenza ngokungafaniyo, ezinokuthi zithukuthele nayiphi na ingxelo, ngelixa zixhaphaza kwaye zisetyenziselwa ukuhlambalaza, zaziqeshwe ukuqhawula umtshato.
Isizathu sisegeni . Kukho uluvo lokuba ukuziphatha okubi nokungafani nemikhwa yabantu kubanxulumene nokubonakala kwawo, kunye nemvelaphi evela kwimvelaphi yembewu. Ngokweengcamango ezininzi zenzululwazi ezenza iimvavanyo kwiinkwenkwezi (inzala enokwenzeka yabantu), imikhwa engavumelekanga kuluntu ivela kule mihla yamandulo. Ngokwezinto ezinjalo zivezwe ukuba yindoda kuphela eyasinda, eyengesabi ukubeka ingozi. Amandla kunye neetalente ayenayo kunye nokuhamba kwexesha phantsi kwefuthe kwinkqubo yokuzingela. Nangona ezinye iimpawu zobuntu kunye nokuziphatha zidluliselwa kuthi ngelifa. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba iimpawu ezinjalo ziphazamisa ubomi bomntu obuqhelekileyo kwaye zibe esinye sezizathu zokuqhawula umtshato? Emva koko kuya kuba ngcono ukuzama ukulahla okanye ubuncinane ukunciphisa amandla abo ukuze kugcinwe ulwalamano olufanelekileyo. Akunakulungile, iimpawu ezinjalo zingazibonakalisa kubo bobabini abasetyhini namadoda. Ufuna nje ukufumana indlela yokuphuma, kwaye ngokubalulekileyo, imikhosi yokuqeda.
Ukungcatsha komnye wabatshatileyo . Amadoda athambekele ekukholweni ukuba ukunyaniseka kungasona sizathu esibalulekileyo sokuqhawula umtshato. Bayiqonda nje nje ngexeshana, i-trifle encinci, kwaye aboni nto ephosakeleyo ngokunyaniseka. Nangona oku kungabandakanyekanga kwihafu yabo yonke, kwaye lo uluvo lwawo onke amadoda afanayo. Ibhinqa eliye lagqiba kwisigqibo esinjalo njengolugwenxa, ngokuziqonda kakuhle indlela efunwa ngayo. Oko kukuthi, ngaphandle kwemvakalelo akanakwenzeka ukuba athathe isigqibo malunga nomntu othandana naye kwicala. Kwaye nabesifazana, kwaye phantse bonke, abanakuphila kwimida emibini.
Ngokwemvelo, izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato kwiintsapho zingabaninzi, kwaye kungekhona ukuba ziya kuba zivela apha ngasentla, kuba nganye intsapho iyodwa. Into ephambili ukuyiqonda ngexesha kwaye ukuyikhuphela.