Kodwa indlela yokugcina uxhulumano kwimibano yomtshato, akasiniki, ngoko masizame ukuziqonda.
Siyavuma ngokukhawuleza ukuba siya kuqwalasela imimiselo yokuvisisana kuphela kwizibini ezibini apho amaqabane omabini athola uthando.
Ubomi obatshatileyo nabatshatileyo akusoloko kulula, zombini umyeni kunye nomtshakazi, nokuba kukho uthando kunye nokuthembela ngokupheleleyo phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Ubomi, umsebenzi, ixesha, yonke into ihlolisisa rhoqo amandla. Kodwa ke sonke siyazi ukuba kukho izibini ezithe zahlala ngoxolo olufanayo kunye nokuvisisana kwiminyaka emininzi yobomi bomtshato.
Kwaye amaninzi amaxesha, isiseko sale ntsapho (ngaphandle koluthando lwenkcazo) inhlonipho omnye komnye njengomntu. Kwaye oku akufanele kuxhomekeke kwiimeko zentlalo, isimo semali kunye nezinye iimpawu. Indoda i-academician imele ihloniphe umfazi wayo umfazi, kwaye umfazi weqabane le-shishini kufuneka ahloniphe indoda yakhe, injini elula. Kule meko kukho ukuvumelana phakathi kwabatshatileyo.
Enye into ebalulekileyo yokuvisisana yimiba edibeneyo yokudibanisa, kunye neengongoma apho iimfuno zabanye abatshatileyo ziyahlukana. Qaphela ukuba ezo ngongoma apho iimfuno zihlukana khona ukuba zingabi lilitye lesiseko; Iminqweno eyahlukileyo yabatshatileyo ayifanele ibangele ukuphikisana okukhulu. Iminqweno eqhelekileyo njengokuba isebenza ngokucacileyo ukuqokelela isibini esithile (isithando kunye nesondo kulo mbandela akufaneleki, njengoko zidibanisa ndawonye ixesha elifutshane), kodwa ezahlukahlukeneyo eziza kubanika abantu ithuba lokwenza okuthile ngokwabo, ngaphandle komlingane. Kungenxa yokuba ukususela nakubantu abasondeleyo maxa wambi banokukhathala. Kwakhona, akuyona into ebalulekileyo, kwimimiselo yokuvisisana kobudlelwane obude kukukwazi ukuxolela.
Emva koko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba abantu bangaphi, kwiminyaka emide yobundlobongela bomtshato baya kuzuza ngokukhawuleza izikhalazo ezincinci. Kulula kakhulu ukungaqapheli ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bomtshato, kodwa oko kunokubulala nayiphi na imvakalelo kunye naluphi na ukuvumelana emva kweminyaka emininzi. Kwaye kubaluleke nakakhulu ukuxolelwa kweempazamo ezincinane zomnye nomnye. Ngokomzekelo, umyeni uhlala ekhohlwa ukuvala umlomo, kwaye umfazi uyakuthanda ukubukela ezo ngqungquthela umyeni wakhe engathandi.
Ukongeza kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, unokongeza ukuba kukho ukuvisisana kwiintsebenziswano zomtshato iimbonakalo ezifanayo kwiimbombo zembombo zobomi abatshatileyo.
Kwizinto ezifana nabantwana kunye nosapho (umnqweno wokuba nabo, bangaphi na baya kuba nabo, ubomi kunye nabazali babo.), Njani umsebenzi kunye nomsebenzi (nokuba ngaba umfazi kufanele asebenze, yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kubantwana okanye emsebenzini, njl. ukwabelana ngembuyekezo kwintsapho, omele ukupheka, njl.). Kuzo zonke le mibuzo umtshato kufuneka ube nemibono efanayo, kungenjalo akukho nto ingabakho nto yokuthetha.
Zonke ezi zikhankanywe apha zibonisa ukuba imeko esemgangathweni yokuvisisana ubudlelwane bomtshato yinto eninzi yomsebenzi wokugcina isilinganiselo sokuthula kobunye. Ukuba bobabini abatshatileyo bayazi oku kwaye bazama ukugcina lo mlinganiso, ke lo mtshato ungomnye wabonwabileyo apho abatshatileyo behlala ngokuvisisana iminyaka emininzi. Njengomthetho, abaninzi abantu baphupha malunga nolwalamano olunjalo.
Apha, mhlawumbi, iimeko zokubambisana, kodwa ndifuna ukongeza ngaphezulu. Kodwa kunjalo, akusikho indawo ukukhumbuza imeko ephambili kunye ebaluleke kakhulu yokuvisisana kwimibano yomtshato, ngokuqinisekileyo lo thando. Njengoko bathi, ngaphandle kwayo naphi na. Kwaye zonke ezinye izimo zisebenza kuphela phambi kobubele phakathi kwabatshatileyo.