Njengoko izazi zeengqondo zincoma kubazali bomntwana ongenalutho, kuyafaneleka ukubeka ingqalelo kwiimpawu ezithile zobundlobongela ekuziphatheni komntwana wakho, umzekelo: ukungaqhubi komsindo kunye nomsindo, ingxaki yokuziphatha, ukunyamezela kunye nokunyaniseka kwengqondo yomntu, ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka kwezilwanyana kunye nobuthathaka izidalwa, ukulangazelela ukuchithwa kwezinto-konke oku akukho uluhlu olupheleleyo lwezenzo ezinobudlova ezingabonakaliswa kuyo.
Ukuba kwenzeka ukuba umntwana usongela utitshala, ngoko kufuneka uhlawule ingqwalasela enzulu kwimpembelelo yomntwana wakho, enokubangela nokuba uya kukhutshwa esikolweni. Ngokomzekelo, eMelika, ootitshala abayizigidi eziyi-1.3 baba ngamaxhoba okuziphatha kwabafundi be-hooligan. Le ngxaki ebalulekileyo kwaye inobungozi efuna isigqibo kwinqanaba likarhulumente. I-VKanade, ngokwemali engavumelekanga, ngaphezulu kwama-40% wabasebenzi bezemfundo belizwe lonke baba ngamaxhoba olwahlulo lwabafundi. Ayikho indlela engcono kakhulu kwezinye izinto, ngokomzekelo, e-Finland ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokusongelwa ngabafundi kunye neentambo, kunye nabazali babo, sele sele ifunyenwe ngamnye utitshala wesine kunye nomlawuli wesikolo. Izibalo e-UK zibonise umphumo malunga ne-61%, oko kukuthi, ipesenteji yalaba titshala kufuneka iphulaphule izihlazo kunye nosongelo ngokumelene nabo, ama-34% ayephantsi kobugwenxa. Ewe, uya kuvuma ukuba abazali abakwazi ukugxothwa xa beva ukuba umntwana wabo ubonisa ubugwenxa, okanye nokuba banokwenza oko.
Ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana: indlela yokusombulula ingxaki
Zama ukuqaphela iimfuno zomntwana malunga neembono zeenkqubo zethelevishini kunye neziza apho kubonakala khona izinto ezinobungqina bentloni, oku kusebenza kwimidlalo yekhompyutha.
Kukho ubungqina obuqinileyo bokuba beqhagamshelana nobuqhetseba, oko kukuthi bebukele ividiyo okanye imidlalo yekhompyutheni, umntu ulahlekelwa uvakalelo ekubandezelekeni kwabanye. Ukuba umntwana udlala ixesha elide kumaphungululi ahlukeneyo, kunokubakho ukuphambuka oku:
- Ukwandisa ukunyaniseka
- Ingxabano eyandisiweyo, ukulwa ngokukhawuleza kunye nabafundi abafunda nabo kunye nabadala
- Ukuvela komnqweno ngokuvavanya kwamandla abo kubuthathaka
- Ukungaphumeleli kokusebenza kwezemfundo
- Ukubonakaliswa kobugwenxa, obamkelwa kwimidlalo yekhomputha, apho iinyani zobukhohlakali ziphindaphindiwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Umntwana uqala ukutshintshwa kuzo zonke iindawo ezibuhlungu, ngokuba ngaphandle kokuphinda, ezi zenzo zobundlobongela zichanekile ngokucacileyo kwizicwangciso zakhe zokucinga.
Iimpawu zemidlalo enjalo zinika intshukumo yokukhuthaza ulwaphulo, njengoko umntwana wesibini uba nxaxheba kwiintlobo zelizwe elibonakalayo. Akunakutsholwa ngeenkqubo zethelevishini kunye neefilimu zevidyo, apho ebonakala khona njengombonisi kwaye engenalo ithuba lokuchaphazela ikhosi yeziganeko. Kwaye ukuba umsebenzi womdlali uquka ukunqoba okunyanzelekileyo, endleleni eyafuneka ukuba enze ngayo inkohlakalo enyathelo elilandelayo (inqanaba), lenze kube lusizi, lukulungele ukunika yonke into ngenxa yokunqoba.
Ukuphuculwa kweendlela zokukhulisa
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abaxhatshazi ngokwabo bawunendima yexhoba lobundlobongela nobundlobongela, ngoko ulwaphulo lwabo luphela yindlela yokuzimela. Kwaye kwimiba emininzi imvelaphi yentshutshiso yintsapho. Mhlawumbi wena okanye umntu ovela kwintsapho yakho unqongqo kakhulu ngomntwana? Okanye, mhlawumbi, uhlala ubonisa ukunganeliseki nokugxeka izenzo zakhe nezenzo zakhe? Ngaba uyamsola ngokwenyama? Okanye mhlawumbi umntwana akayixhoba, kodwa ingqina ngogonyamelo? Unamaxesha amaninzi unamahlazo okanye uhlekisayo kwikhaya lakho? Ngaba unakho ukusetyenziswa kakubi ekhaya lakho nxamnye nomntu? Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba sele sisetyenzisiwe kwisimo esingavamile sezinto kwaye siyayeka ukuwabona. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba ukulungiswa kokuziphatha kuqalise ngokulungiswa kwindlela yokukhulisa umntwana.
Ukuqinisa ukulawula
Ulawulo oluninzi lwenziwa kumntwana wakho? Ngaba uyazi oko akwenza ngexesha lokukhulula? Okanye mhlawumbi uyedwa kunye nekhompyutheni ixesha elide? Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba abantwana abaxhomekekanga ngabazali babo, ngoko bangena kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo kwiimeko ezimbi ukususela kwiinyanga ezintathu ukuya kweyesithandathu kusihlwa, eziza kulezi zixa ezivela esikolweni kwaye zihlala endlwini ngaphandle kwabazali. Zama ukunciphisa iiyure zamahhala zomntwana, ulayishe izinto ezungeze indlu okanye uyihlobise ngesangqa. Zama ukudlulisa ixesha elingakumbi kuyo.
Kubalulekile ukusebenzisana nesikolo, kodwa kungekhona ukulwa ne-sney
Zama ukutyelela isikolo uze udibane nootitshala kunye nenqununu yesikolo. Qonda ukuba ubugwenxa ekuphatheni komntwana wakho kunokuba ngumkhwa, kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuxhalaba kwemiphumo kuyingozi. Konke oku kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba, ngokubambisana nesikolo, akusayi kusala nayiphi na imiqobo yokufuna izinto eziyingozi kumntwana.
Bazali, jongani ukulungiselela umntwana wakho uvavanyo olunzima, olupheleleyo lobomi bomntu omdala, uxanduva oluya kuba luqhelekileyo ebomini. Ukuba uyamkhusela rhoqo, uhlale unomkhuseli, ngaphandle kokuba wazi nokuba ulungile okanye angalunganga, uya kuqonda ukuvunyelwa kwakhe, kwaye oku kungakhokelela kwiinkqubo ezingenakwenzeka kwixesha elizayo.