Kuthekani ukuba abantwana bahlala bexabana?

Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuphikisana kuyaqala ukuba kwenzeke nangaphambi kokuba umntwana wesibini azalwe aze aqhubeke aze akhule abantwana, kunye nabo bonke ubomi. Bakhuphisana nayo yonke into esuka kwidonti entsha ukuya kuthando lwabazali babo. Xa omnye umntwana ekhula kwelinye iqondo lophuhliso, iimfuno zabo ziqala ukuchaphazela kakhulu ubudlelwane babo.

Abantwana banokubonana kumdlali kumchasi onjalo kangangokuba akunakwenzeka ukukhangela i-crook yabo rhoqo. Kule meko wonke umntu uyabuhlungu. Njani lekhefu? Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ngaba ndifuna ukungenelela kwabazali? Unokubanceda abantwana ukuba baqhagamshelane ngezenzo ezithile.

Kutheni abantwana bexabana?

Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zezi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazalwana kunye noodade baziva bexhatshazwa kunye / okanye ubundlobongela, kwaye oku kubangela ukuxabana kunye neentlanzi. Kodwa kukho ezinye izizathu zokuxabana kwabantwana.

1. Iimfuno eziqhubekayo zikhula. Xa uneminyaka yobudala, umntu ngamnye uguquka, kuquka umntwana omncinci, ngaphezu koko, ukwesaba ukuguquka kwaye umntwana ukhula njengomntu - konke kukuchaphazela ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantwana. Umzekelo, abantwana abaselula phakathi kweminyaka eyi-1 no-3 bazama rhoqo ukukhusela iimidlalo zabo kunye nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo ezivela kubantu abangaziwayo, bafunda ukuzinzela bona. Ngoko ke, ukuba udade womntwana okanye umzalwana uthatha umdlalo, incwadi okanye enye into, iphendula ngokuphendula ngokuqhubekayo. Abantwana abasele esikolweni bavikela ukulingana kobulungisa, ngoko abayiqondi isizathu sokuba abazali kunye nabanye abantu bahluke ngokumalunga nomzalwana okanye udade wabo omdala, ngaphandle koko, unokuziva ukuba kubalulekile. Kodwa abatsha, ngokuchaseneyo, balawulwa ngumntu wobuqu kunye nokuzimela, ngenxa yoko banqwenela ukuncedisa indlu, bachithe ixesha kunye nosapho okanye banakekele abantwana abaselula. Konke oku kuchaphazela ubuhlobo babantwana nomhlobo.
2. Umntu. Umntwana ngamnye unomlinganiso kunye nomoya, iimpawu zobuntu, ukukwazi ukuzivumelanisa neemeko ezahlukeneyo, uhlobo - lukwadlala indima ebalulekileyo ekubudlelaneni kwabantwana. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba omnye umntwana usebenza kwaye unomsindo, kwaye enye iphelile, ngoko ayiyi kuba yinto engqubanayo. Umntwana ohlala ejikelezwe ngabazali kunye nokunyamekela akakwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nodade osekhulile ofuna ukuthanda nokuthuthuzela.
3. Iimfuno ezizodwa. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yokugula, iingxaki zokufunda okanye ukuphuhliswa ngokomzwelo, umntwana ufuna iimfuno ezizodwa kunye nokuqwalaselwa kwabazali. Abanye abantwana abanakho ukuqonda ukungalingani okunjalo kwaye banokuziphatha ngokugqithisileyo kwaye bacaphuke, ukuze abazali bawuqwalasele.
4. Umzekelo wokuziphatha. Indlela abazali abasombulula ngayo iingxabano phakathi kwabo ngokwabo uba ngumzekelo oqaqambileyo kubantwana. Ngoko ke, ukuba unengxaki yamadoda ngaphandle kokugwenxa kunye nentlonipho, ngoko, baninzi, baya kuziphatha ngendlela efanayo ngokumalunga nomnye. Yaye ukuba ngaba, ngokuchaseneyo, bahlala bebukela ukukrokra, ukulwa nokubetha iingcango, balungiselele ukuba baya kuziphatha ngendlela efanayo.
   

Yintoni enokuyenza xa kuxabana?

Iingqungquthela phakathi kwabazalwana noodade-into eqhelekileyo, nangona ayithandi. Ukongeza, bonke abantu banokunyamezela oku kuphela ixesha. Ungaba njani kule meko? Yintoni yokwenza xa kuvela ingxabano?

Ukuba unako, musa ukuphazamisa. Ukuba ubona nje ukuba kukho ingozi yokusetyenziswa kwamandla, kufuneka ulungelelanise. Ukuba uhlala uhlala, uya kuba neengxaki ezahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Abantwana baya kuhlala bekulindele ukuba uxolelane nabo, kodwa abayi kukwazi ukuyicombulula iingxaki ngokwabo. Ngaphandle koko, abantwana banokucinga ukuba awuyikumkhusela, kodwa uhlangothi lwengxabano, kwaye awuyi kusombulula le ngxaki, kodwa uyayilungisa. Ukongezelela, umntwana osikhuselayo uya kuziva ukuvunyelwa kunye nokufumana isijeziso, kuba abazali baya kumnceda.

Ukuba uqaphela ukuba abantwana bakho bahlala bebizana, kufuneka ufundise ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo ngamagama afanelekileyo. Oku kuya kuzisa umphumo ongaphezu kokuba ubeka abantwana kwikona. Nangona kunjalo, unako ukufundisa abantwana ukuba basombulule ukuxabana ngokuzimeleyo. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokungenelela, uze usombulule ingxaki kubo, kungekhona esikhundleni sabo.

Ziziphi iindlela okumelwe zithathwe ngongenelelo?

1. Ukwahlula abantwana ukuze bafikeleleke baze bahlale bezolile. Kungcono, ukuba ubapha isikhala kunye nexesha, uze uqale ukuxoxa. Ukuba ufuna ukufundisa okuthile kubantwana, ulinde ukuvakalelwa.
2. Akuyimfuneko ukufumana ukuba ngubani ophetheyo. Ukuba bobabini kwi-platoon kwaye bobabini bayaphikisana, kuthetha ukuba banetyala.
3. Zama ukwenza konke ukuze kube luncedo kubo bonke abantu. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba baxabana ngokudlala, bacele ukuba baqale umdlalo odibeneyo.
4. Xa bejamelene neengxaki, bafumana izakhono eziyimfuneko eziya kuba luncedo kwimpilo yabantu abadala. Wonke umntwana makafunde ukuva nokuxabisa uluvo lomnye umntu, akwazi ukuxoxisana, enze ukulungelelanisa nokulawula ulwaphulo.

Unceda njani abantwana ukuba bakhe ubudlelwane?
Ezinye iingcebiso onokuziphepha kuzo iimpikiswano:

1. Kubalulekile ukudala imithetho ethile yokuziphatha. Zama ukwazisa abantwana ukuba awukwazi ukubiza umhlobo wakho, umemeza, ulwe kwaye ubeke umnyango. Chaza ukuba, ngaphandle koko, iziphumo azikwazi ukuphetshwa. Ngoko ufundisa abantwana ukuba banembopheleleko yezenzo zabo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba imeko.
2. Musa ukuvumela abantwana ukuba bacinge ukuba yonke into ifanele ibe. Oku kubi. Kwezinye iimeko, omnye wabantwana ufuna enye into.
3. Zama ukuchitha ixesha ngamnye nomntwana ngamnye ukuhlangabezana neemfuno neemfuno zabo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana omnye uyakuthanda ukuthula, makhe siyenze, kwaye ukuba omnye uthanda ukuhamba, uye naye naye epakini.
4. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana ngamnye unesithuba sakhe somntu siqu - ukudweba, ukufunda okanye ukudlala nabahlobo.
5. Chaza kubantwana ukuba, nangona ubeka imithetho yokuziphatha kwaye ubagxeka ngokuziphatha kakubi, usabathanda kakhulu.
6. Ukuba abantwana bayaphuma ngenxa yento enye (amathoyizi, i-console, iincwadi), wabeka ishedyuli yokusetyenziswa-namhlanje namhlanje, ngomso omnye. Kwaye ukuba oko akuncedi, makhe siwuthathe into, thabathe.
7. Hlanganisa yonke intsapho kwaye ujabule. Jonga amabhayisikobho, imidlalo yebhodi yebhodi, udwebe, ufunde, udlale ibhola. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana bayalwela ukukhathalela abazali, ngoko banike.
8. Ukuba ukuxabana kungavumi, kuthetha njalo ngeveki nganye kunye nabantwana. Phinda ulandele imigaqo yokuziphatha, udumise abantwana malunga noko bakufundileyo ukuphepha iingxabano.
9. Cinga ngomdlalo apho abantwana baya kufumana amanqaku athile ekuziphatheni okuhle, kwakunye nokunqoba iimbambano ngokungqubana.
10. Funda ukubamba ixesha xa abantwana befuna ukuphazamiseka komnye kunye nokuba bodwa. Ngoxa omnye umntwana edlala nabahlobo, udlala nomnye.

Khumbula ukuba ingqwalasela yakho ibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana bakho, ngoko ke bayakukhuphisana. Kwimeko apho, thatha ixesha lakho. Ukuba awuyikunyamekela nabani na. Oku akuyi kukhishwa ngenxa yento.