Ukuba awukwazi oko kuthetha ukuthandana ngothando, unokuqonda indlela abaziphatha ngayo abantu abathandanayo ngothando. Emva kwakho konke, ukusuka kwicala liyabonakala ukuba babonisa umdla, kodwa ngelo xesha abachazi nto malunga nemizwa yabo. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi kuthiwa ngabantu ababini abangavamile, abanyathelayo kwindawo enye-ke bahleka ngokukhawuleza, bahlambulule ngokuncoma. Bangaphi abantu, bangaphi imbono malunga nokudlala ngothando, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuzithobela ngothando, kuthetha, olunye uhlobo loqhagamshelwano phakathi kwabantu ababini. Olu hlobo lwanxibelelwano alisoloko luthetha uhlobo oluthile lokuqhubela phambili kwaye lukhokelela ekutshintshelweni kwinqanaba elisondelene nalo, ngokuqhelekileyo liphela ibhanti enobungane.
Umntu ngamnye ophantsi kotywala uthetha into eyahlukileyo. Wonke umntu unombono wakhe ngokwalo mbandela. Apha, umzekelo, intombi yakho ihamba kunye namanye amadoda. Kule nto ayikho into eyoyikisayo, ewe, ukuba ayihambanga ngaphaya kwemida yokuziphatha. Emva koko, intombazana encinci, ukunyana nomdla, inokukwazi ukuzakhela amehlo kunye nokumomotheka, kwaye enye-into eninzi, iziphatha kakuhle kwaye ixhomekeke kubuhlobo obusondeleyo.
Yintoni eyenza intombazana ibe nomnqweno wokudlala ngothando? Uzama ukufezekisa ntoni?
Khawucinge ngolu hlobo. Ubonayo intombi yakho ixesha elide. Uya kuma-movie, ii-cafes, amaqela kumhlobo kunye nokundwendwela. Intombazana yakho ihlala izama ukujonga i-100%. Ukwenza oku, wenza i-styles, i-makeup, ibeka iingubo ezingcono, ilinda umfanekiso wakhe, uya kwi-gym, ukutyelela i-salon beauty. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ufuna ukujonga okulungileyo kuwe. Yonke into ayayiva kuwe, le ncinane "ibonakala ilungile"! Lapha ukhangele la mazwi amahle kwaye amnandi ngokudlala ngothando nabanye abantu. Xa ewava, uya kunelisekisa ukuzithemba kwakhe, uya kuqonda ukuba useyinto enhle kwaye "unamafutha e-flasks". Emva koko uya kuqhubeka ekuthanda, ngenxa yokuba uyakuthanda ngokwenene, ulahlekelwa ingqalelo yakho, amazwi amathenda, ukunyamekela ubuhle bakhe. Bantu abathandekayo, nikhohliwe indlela yokuxelela iintombazana zincoma ukuba zibaluleke kakhulu kuthi, bafazi. Abathandekayo bakho bazama kuphela wena. Banike amazwi anomusa, babonise iimpawu zengqalelo, baya kukwenza konke, kwaye abayi kudlalana nabanye.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana ahluke, kunye nama-quirks abo kunye "namaprosi entloko yam." Ngokomzekelo, intombazana yakho ithi uyayithanda, kwaye iyabelana nabanye abantu ngexesha elinye. Kwaye kwenzeni nangaphambi kwakho. Kubonakala ngathi, kutheni ufuna le nto? Emva kwakho konke, uyamncoma, unika ixesha, uyamgcwalisa ngezipho, ngokuqhelekileyo, uzalisekisa zonke izinto zakhe. Yintoni enye ayifunayo? Yintoni ayenayo? Ngaphezu koko, ngenxa yoko awuhlali ujabule ngemifanekiso yokuba nomona, awuyi kuphulaphula intloko yakho eludongeni okanye ubuso bomntu, kodwa nje udidekile. Ngoko ke oko kuyintloko yenkinga! Kubonakala ukuba akanalo okwaneleyo umona wakho. Kwaye ufuna ukumvusa, udlala ngothando nabanye abantu. Kwaye akanalo nantoni na ukuba ungumntu oqhelekileyo, onokuzithemba, othembekileyo kunye nentembelo. Ufuna isiqhwithi semvakalelo kunye neminqweno. Ewe, uyayithanda. Mhlawumbi, ungomnye wale mantombazana angathandi iimeko eziqhelekileyo, ithenda, ubudlelwane bokwenyama. Udinga ukwenza izitya zibe ngumbhobho, isibalo ebusweni, ukukhala nokukhala, ngoko uya kuvuya. Kodwa wenzani na oku? Kufuneka ukhethe, okanye i-psyche ephilileyo, okanye intombazana evuya. Okanye mhlawumbi kwimeko efanayo, intombazana kuphela ibonisa ukuba nomona, ukuba uyazivumela ukuba uthandane namanye amantombazana. Ngoko uzama ukukubonisa indlela ongayithandi ngayo xa umthandayo, owamthandayo ukuya kwintlanzi, uthanda abanye, nangona uthi uthanda. Oku akuyona into engathandekiyo kuphela, kodwa inokuhlazisa, kuba abantu abaninzi babone uhlobo lobuso ongenakuyidlulela kulo, kwaye ngoko ufumana imeko apho kukho isizathu sokuba "Ndisele kakhulu, ndiyaxolisa".
Ewe, kukho namantombazana anjalo awanakho ukuhlala ngaphandle kokudlala ngothando. Oku kungenxa yabo njenge-balm yomphefumlo. Abawuboni ukuba udlala ngento engalunganga okanye engalunganga. Ziyasetyenziswa kuyo. Bafuna ukudlala nabafana kulo mdlalo, kwaye ukuba babelane ngothando nje ngumdlalo. Ukuba bethandana, oku akuthethi ukuba bakulungele ukukhohlisa okanye bazimisele ukwenza njalo. Ezi ntombi kunye nasemva kokutshata zivumela ukuba zithandane namanye amadoda. Ewe, benza njalo, njengawo nawuphi na intombazana, kwakhona ukwenzela ukuba baqinisekise ukuba basoloko bethanda amadoda, ukuba baselula kwaye banomdla. Andixhomekeke ekubeni ngaba ndibacebisa okanye hayi, nangona bafuna kwaye bayakuthanda. Bonwabela kakhulu inkqubo yokudlala ngothando, kungekhona kumntu abatshatileyo. Emva kokufumana umthamo wokuqwalasela kunye nokuzalisekisa, bayalibala ukuba le meko ngokubanzi yayiyindawo yokuhlala.
Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokudlala ngothando. Yonke into incike kwiinjongo ezisetyenziswayo. Ngaloo ndlela, intombi yakho inokukhetha ngokukhethekileyo umntu omtsha, kakuhle, ukuba intombi yakho iyimfuneko okanye ilahlekelwe ngumdla kuwe. Ebomini, konke kwenzeka, musa ukuphumla, kodwa ungayixinzeli. Okokuqala, khuluma naye ngokucacileyo kwaye ufumene isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo esi sizathu silula kangangokuthi akuyi kubakho imfesane kunye nomkhondo.