Ngethuba lethu, kubekho umkhanyo obonakalayo xa iindwendwe eziphambili kwiindawo zokuthandana ngabantu abatshatileyo.
Umbuzo oqikelelweyo ngokupasa: Yintoni indoda enokutshata enokuyibona kwindawo yokuthandana? Okokuqala kwaye okuphambili, oku, oku kunjalo, kudibaniswa nekhono lomntu kunye nomnqweno wokusebenzisa amandla abo "abafazi". Okokuthi, ukuzama ngokucacileyo, ngasese kumfazi wakhe ukuba anqobe aze anqobe nayiphi intombazana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokubudala, nokuba mncinane kunakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, le ndoda, ngokukhawuleza, ngaloo ndlela ihlawula ngenxa yokungabikho kwenkosikazi ebomini bokwenene okanye, ixesha elimnandi nje, lihlola ukuba lilahlekile ubugcisa bakhe bokukhohlisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuqhelana nolwazi olunjalo alufikeli intlanganiso elandelayo. Le ndoda iyayeka ngexesha, ukuqinisekisa ukuba uphumelele injongo yakhe kwaye iqalisa ukukhangela "ixhoba" elitsha sesicwangciso sayo sokukhohlisa. Amantombazana amaninzi angena kumnxibelelwano wakhe ongekhohlakeleyo, ngokugqithiseleyo wabeka kwincwadana yakhe ebizwa ngokuthi "I", yikiti. Kwaye ke, kunokuba awukho umdlalo wekhompyutha. Unentsebenzo yakhe apha, iqhinga lokuphumelela kunye neendlela zakhe ezizodwa. Kukho iimeko apho umyeni ezinikela kule micimbi, nokuba ngumfazi wakhe. Ukwabelana ngeempumelelo zakhe kwaye ngaloo ndlela ufumana intengo emehlweni akhe. Kukho, ewe, iimeko xa umntu otshatileyo efuna nje ukudlala ngothando okanye ufana ngesondo esifanayo. Mxhaphaze ukwenza oku, ngokuqhelekileyo izizathu ezibini. Ingundoqo yeyokuqala isekelwe kwinto yokuba unxunguphekile ukuba aphile kwaye yena, ngokukhawuleza, ukhangele enye into ekhethekileyo ebomini bakhe. Isizathu sesibini, sisondele nakwabaseTyhini - ayikho into nje yeliso. Ngokumalunga nokugqibela, inqwenela yindoda ayikho ngaphantsi kwekhono labesetyhini. Esi sinengqondo esomeleleyo nesishukumisayo, esichukumisa loo mntu, simmqubise ngezinto ezingaqondakaliyo kwaye ngezinye izihlandlo, malunga nokuba ngowunyaka owedlule, yena ngokwakhe wayengenakukwazi ukucinga. Ngoko, masibuyele kwintlalontle yakhe ebonakalayo kunye neengxaki zesini. Yena, ngenxa yolwazi lwakhe, weva malunga nale migaqo emitsha, kubahlobo bakhe okanye oogxa bakhe. Kwaye, ngokuthe ngqo, ndagqiba isigqibo sokuthatha inxaxheba kum, ngokwenza isandla sam kwi mouse. Ngenxa yoko, othembekileyo wakho, wakhetha intombazana enye kwaye loo nto ihamba yodwa. Kodwa le meko, ayibhekiseli ukuba kukho ukuba konke okuphelayo kunye nentlanganiso yobomi bokwenene, kwaye isondo sabo sesigxina siya kukhula sibe yinyani. Kodwa, ukukhangela intombazana okanye ibhinqa enendima yenkosikazi yinyani, oku sele kubangela ukukhathazeka. Nantsi indoda sele ihamba isinyathelo esithile kunye nesingenabulungisa, siqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo sokuba kutheni na esi sizathu siza kutyelela le ndawo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, masithi inxibelelwano eqhelekileyo neyingozi kwi-intanethi. Amadoda amaninzi akakwazi ukufumana umntu ophulaphulayo okanye abone ukungaqondi kakuhle kumfazi wakhe, ekhetha ukuzifumana kunye nabahlobo abaqinileyo abaya kuhlala bemphulaphule, baqonde okanye baze bamncede ngeengcebiso zobomi. Esinye isizathu esihle sokufumana umhlobo ngokubhaliweyo mhlawumbi kukuba udinwe yiyo yonke indawo engqonge kuyo, ngohlobo lwabahlobo. Okanye yena, ngokukhawuleza, akaxolisi ukuthetha ngomntu obuhlungu, ngokuchanekileyo nomntu engazange abone ebomini bakhe. Ngendlela, oku kudla ngokuqhubekayo kwindlela yethu yengqondo, kwaye akunandaba nokuba ungumfazi okanye umntu. Ngoko safumanisa izizathu ezicacileyo zento umntu otshatileyo efuna kwiwebhusayithi apho abantu bazana khona.
Ungabona njani ukuba umntu ulindele ntoni kumhlobo wakhe we-intanethi? ukuba indoda ingabelani nawe malunga noko akwenzayo kweli ndawo, kwaye imibuzo yakho ayiphenduli nhlobo, uvumele ukuba badlule ngeendlebe zakho. Waba lula kakhulu kuwe. Ingxabano yakhe yexhala yaqala ukuziva, ngqo, kunye nawe. Kwaye ngesicelo sakho ukuba ungasayi kubuya kwiindawo ze-Intanethi kwakhona, uyaphendula ngesityholo. Kwaye ngokubanzi, uya khona kuphela, ngasese, evela kuwe. Le yimiqondiso ephazamisayo efunekayo yokubeka ubomi bayo obunzima kwindawo efanelekileyo. Ngcokola kakhulu naye, kwaye bhetele ujongane nezo nkampani ezingabonakaliyo njengoko uhambela indawo ekhankanywe ngasentla. Ndikholelwe, apha uya kucinga. Nangona kulungele ukukhumbula ukuba ukuba umyeni wakho uzame ukukuguqula ngale ndlela, akuyiyo yonke into yokuba uya kukwenza kungekudala okanye kamva ngaphandle koluncedo kwisiza sokuthandana. Ngoko, okokuqala, qwa lasela ulwalamano lwakho kwaye ufumanise oko kukuphosakeleyo kuwe kunye noko kukunyanzela ukuthembeka kwakho kwisenzo esinjalo. Mhlawumbi ithetha ukuba incwadi yakho, ebizwa ngokuthi "Intsapho", sele ifundwe nguye ixesha elide. Ukuba ufuna ukulondoloza idyll yakho yentsapho, uthando lomyeni wakho nomdla wakho, qalisa ukwenza. Okokuqala, qaphela ukuguqulwa kweembonakalo zakho, kwaye emva kokuphucula umhlaba wakho wangaphakathi. Zama, zifumene uhlobo oluthile lokuzonwabisa okuthakazelisayo. Zibonise indlela engakubonanga ngayo. Into ephambili ayize ibenze ivila ukuba ibangele umdla kumyeni wakho. Kwaye ke, kungekhona ukukhohlisa, kodwa nayiphi na intombazana kwindawo yokuthandana, awuyi kuba lula kangakanani.
Yaye njengesiphetho, ndifuna ukudibanisa, kunika isiqingatha sakho sesibini, ncokola naye, zama ukucombulula iingxaki zakhe, kwaye ungesabi ukumnika icebiso lakho kwakhona. Makhe achithe ixesha lakhe lamahhala kungekho ikhomputha, kodwa nawe. Kule nto, cwangcisa uninzi ngangokunokwenzeka okuthiwa iholide "yomphefumlo nomzimba." Kwaye ke, egcwele unxibelelwano ebomini bokwenene, akayi kubuya e tyelela indawo yokuthandana. Emva koko, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba, uhlala kwiindawo ezinjalo, ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yecandelo lonwabo kunye nokungahambelani. Ewe, ukuba nje ngenxa yelukuluko, ke ungamxineli, mvumele anelise imfuno yakhe, into ephambili ehlala naye isoloko isondele.