Khawucinge, kusemandleni ukuba ubeke ithemba elihle kuyo yonke insizwa odibana nayo, ngoko ke ulindela kakhulu kuye. Nangona kunjalo, akubona wonke umntu ulungele ngokukhawuleza ukumelana noxinzelelo, ukucinga malunga nokunyaniseka kweenjongo zabo, ukuqala ukubonisa into enzulu ngokwenenekazi, kunye nokubonisa isinyathelo.
Zama ngokukhawuleza "uzenzele" ngaphakathi, ukuba "iphupha" elilandelayo likhangeleka. Ukuba umntu olungileyo ubonakale, oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele uthathe izandla kunye neenyawo kwaye uzame ukugcina kuyo yonke indlela. Cinga ngokubhekiselele ekubeni le yindoda enezinto ezithandayo, iingcamango, iinjongo kunye neenjongo zakhe, kwaye i-50% yendlela yakho yekamva iya kuxhomekeka ngayo kuye. Awudingi ukuqhuba phambi kweenjini, vumela ukuba iziganeko zikhule kancane - vumela zonke izinto ziqhubeke njengesiqhelo, vumela yonke into ibume, akudingeki ukuba ubonise isinyathelo. Kwezinye iimeko, iingcali zengqondo zeluleka "ukukhulula imeko engxaki" - apha nakhona unokuzama ukwenza into efanayo. Akufanele uziphephe - "yiloo nto endiyifunayo-iphupha lam, kufuneka ndibeke yonke into enokwenzeka, le yithuba lam kuphela." Cinga nje - "hmm ... intombazana enomdla, ake sibone oko kwenzeka ntoni kule" - kwaye umise kule ngcamango.
1. Vumela indoda ngokwayo ukuba ibonise ubuncinane iqhinga elithile, jonga indlela akwenza ngayo, yintoni kanye elilawulayo ngeli xesha, kwaye uhlaziye indlela yakhe yokuziphatha: uqhubeka kwaye usebenza, unamahloni kwaye unamahloni, okanye akazi yena ngokwakhe, oko akufunayo kuwe, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo ubonisa umdla wakhe. Ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela aziphatha ngayo, unokwakha kunye nokuziphatha kwazo.
Ukuba yena ngokwakhe usebenza, unokwamkela ngokuzithandana ukutshatana kwakhe, kodwa ungagxumi kumanyathelo akho - mhlawumbi uya kuthanda ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo intombazana.
Xa kungekho nanyathelo elivela kumfana oselula, uvale onke amandla akhe kunye nobuthathaka kakuhle, uze wenze isigqibo sokuba unomdla kangakanani kumntu. Mhlawumbi, kuyimfuneko ukulinda encinci, kwaye uya "kujoyina" inkqubo ngokwayo, athathe ukhangeleliso olusondeleyo, kwaye kubudlelwane bokwenene nenkqubela iya kuboniswa. Kwaye mhlawumbi akafuni ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane, akahlose ukuguqulela kwizinga elibi, kwaye kuya kuba ngcono ukugqiba yonke into ngokukhawuleza, ngelixa ulungiselela indawo entsha, kwaye uthabathe ixesha elide.
2. Ukuba indoda ingabonakali kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano - ayibhali, alubizi, alubizi, linyamalale, ngoko likwazisa ukuba ayikho inomdla kuwe. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba uyihlasele ngemilayezo yombhalo kunye neefowuni, cinga ngamashumi amahlanu ukuba ngaba ufuna le siqendu, kwaye nokuba kungcono ukuphazamisa konke oku, ukuze kungabikho buhlungu emva kokulindela okungazange kwenzeke.
3. Funda ukudibana "ukunqotshwa": akayibizi, iimbumbulu, azibonakali - ngoko, ayithethi, akayithandi, ithetha, ayifuni, ayifumanekanga, ayinomdla. ... Hayi, unokwenza ntoni? Khumbula, kodwa ngaba uhlala ulungelelanisa abalandeli bakho? Awudingi ukuzisa le meko kwindawo ochaze ngokuthe ngqo ngayo "otoshyut" okanye uqale ukungahoywa ngokuthe ngqo. Ewe, ewe, unokuzinqabisa, ufumene "u-" "ohlukile", kodwa unokukholelwa ukuba awuyi kuba ngcono entliziyweni, ngokuchaseneyo, uya kuziva ukuba "utyhafile" kwaye "uhlaziswa" emva kwemizamo eminingi yokuseka ubudlelwane obuhle. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukubuyela emva kwaye unqume, ngelixa ungazenzeli intlungu kwaye ungayi kuthatha inyathelo. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba umntu ufuna ngokwenene ukuqhubela ubudlelwane, uya kukukhupha emhlabathini.
4. Jonga ngokubhekisele ebomini nobomi bonyulwe wakho, qaphela kakuhle iziganeko kunye nezinto ezincinci. Kwezinye iimeko, i-initiative yakho ingaphandle kwendawo kwaye iya kubangela ukuba indoda ingavumi ngamandla, kodwa "i-otmashku" kunye nokucaphuka. Emva kwakho konke, kunokuthi kwenzeke ukuba ukucinga kwakho malunga nentlanganiso, malunga neziganeko eziqhelekileyo, njl. baya kukhubeka ngenxa yokungabi lula kwemali okanye ubunzima kwiinkalo zabo, umsebenzi, kwaye kungekhona ukungabi nomnqweno wokuqhubeka nobudlelwane. Ukuthatha ikhefu, le ncinane iya kukwazi ukubuyela kuwe kwaye iqalise ukunyamekela kunye nokuthatha inyathelo. Kodwa ukuba ngelo xesha intombazana iqala ukumngqinga ngqalelo yakhe, akukho nto iya kuhlala kuyo, indlela yokumkhupha ebomini bakhe.
5. Ngelishwa, akukho "iresiphi" enokukunceda bonke abantombazana ukuba bahumushe amanoveli kunye namadoda anomdla ekubudlelwaneni bexesha elide - "bakhetha thina, sikhetha", njengoko bathethayo. Ngenxa yeso sizathu, kuya kulungelelanisa ebomini bethu bobuqu ukuze sikwazi ukuzibandakanya nje kuphela kumandla kunye neminqweno yamanye, kodwa kunye nokuhambelana okuqhelekileyo, abalinganiswa abafanelekileyo kunye nabalinganiswa, iimpazamo kunye nezilingo, iimeko zeentlanganiso kunye ekugqibeleni. Oku kuya kunceda ukulinganisela ngokufanelekileyo engqondweni yakho umsebenzi wakho ekukhangekeni kwesiqingatha sesibini, kwakunye nezihlandlo ezizimeleyo zobomi.