Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngantoni yeloli yokuthabatha kunye neendlela zokubamba umntu zisetyenziswe ngabameli abalungileyo bentuntu.
Ukukhutshwa (ukusuka kwisiNgesi ukuthabatha - "uthabathe") - inzululiso yokukhohlisa. Isekelwe kwiindlela zobudala zengqondo: i-NLP, ukukholisa, impawu yokudlala, njl njl. Ekubeni ukubonakala kweli qhe lekiso kwamadoda amaninzi akubanga nje umdla kunye nokuzonwabisa, kodwa nefilosofi yobomi.Ingundoqo yomdlalo wonke ilula nje njengosuku olucacileyo. Ukwahlukana nentombi ngeentlobano zesini, kwaye ngokukhawuleza nangokwemvelo kunokwenzeka, ujabule kunye naye ebusuku, kwaye ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza yanyamalala. Ngokwemvelo, i-pickpockets ayibonakali kwimiba yokuziphatha yenkalo - ngaphezu koko, abaninzi babo bayenza ukuphindiselela kwizesini zesini ngenxa yezikhalazo ezide ... Kodwa oku akunjalo namhlanje.
Kanye kunye nefowuni, ibhinqa yazalwa kwi-intanethi. Zonke zaqala ngeesayithi ezincinane malunga neloli lokuthabatha amadoda, ngoko ke izibonelelo ezizimeleyo kubasetyhini. Ngokwe siseko sale bhizinisi boshishino abasondeleyo baququzelele ngokukhawuleza ukuqeqesha, iikhosi kunye neemfundiso zokukhohlisa.
Injongo yeloli yowesifazane ihluke kancinci kumntu womntu: ukunyenga umntu owajonga ngayo. Emva koko, kunokukhethwa kwinto enokuzikhethela yona.
- ukudukisa ngesondo, uze uyeke
- uhende ukuba uthandane nawe, uze ushiye
- ukutshata ukutshata
Ngoko ziphi iingxaki eziphakama phambi komfazi kwinkqubo yokukhetha, ukukhohlisa ixhoba?
Enyanisweni, ibhinqa kwisigaba sokuqala sokuthandana sinokungaphezu kwamadoda. Emva kwakho konke, inyathelo lokuqala lihlala lenziwa ngumntu, kwaye xa liyindoda-cinga indlela okungaqhelekanga nokuthoba ngayo oku.
Kwaye nangona akazange akuthande, akukho mntu uya kukhangela ngokukhawuleza - uya kumnxusa umfana wakhe.
Phantse umfanekiso ofanayo ngesondo. Emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo indoda iya kuqala iya kwizinto ezikhohlakeleyo kunye neengcebiso kwikhobe yekhofi endlwini yakhe. Kwaye ke umfazi sele ulungele ukulala ngesondo lokuqala. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu angakukhanyela. Unomdla, eqinisweni, unokubanjwa okanye abo bazinzulu, baya kumangaliswa ngokunyamezela kwakho kwaye banokunqatshwa. Kodwa enjalo, ngenhlanhla okanye, ngelanga, kuncinci kakhulu, ukuze uhambe ngesondo ngaphandle kweengxaki.
Ingomnye umba ukuba unesicwangciso esibi kakhulu-ukufumana umntu ukuba akunike umnikelo. Kuza kufuneka kuthukuze, kuba ukwazi nokukhohlisa kulula kakhulu kunokugcina nokunikela.
Kukho nawuphi na, kuya kufuneka usebenzise lonke ulwazi lwakho nezakhono, khangela amanyathelo amabini ngaphambili, ubuqili kwaye wenze ukubonakala komdla wakho olula kule nto. Kwaye indoda kufuneka icinge ukuba le yinkqubo ekhokelayo kwaye ingenguwe.
Ngoko ke, masihambe ngokuthe ngqo kwiingcambu zepikethi yabasetyhini, okuqinisekileyo, eyongezelela kwisixhobo sakho sokukhohlisa.
1. Yiba nomdla, kodwa uzimelele. Makhe akubone, makabone ukumomotheka kunye nento enomdla kwabanye. Akukho zenzo zokukhathazeka (izibonda zifakwe kwisifuba, iminwe edibeneyo, njl.) Lapha ukunyamezela kudlala indima enkulu - amahlombe abuyele ngqo kwaye aqondiswe aya kuthetha kakhulu.
2. Uxolo, nje uzola. Abasetyhini abaninzi, xa bethanda umntu ukulibale iileta kunye namazwi aseRashiya, baleka kwi-stupor kwaye ngokubanzi baziphatha njengabantwana. Oku akuvumelekanga. Hlalani nizolile. Kwenzeka ukuba unemizuzu embalwa ukuphosa i-lasso engabonakaliyo kwinto, ayiyi kuba nelithuba lesibini, ukuba uyothuka, uphazamiseke, okanye uphindele. Ugalelo-gazi ngumhlobo wakho.
3. Thumela uphawu. Nangona uhle, uthakazelisayo, u-sexy, njl "Wayeza kukwazi njani ukuba akabonanga?" Thumela ukukhanya kokuma. Into elula kukubamba iso kunye nokumomotheka. Ungayilahla into ecaleni kwayo, ukuze incede ukuphakamisa, njl. Kodwa ungagqithisi ukuba imizamo yakho yokutsala ingqalelo ayiyi kuba yinyamezelo.
4. Khangela 100%! Wonke umntu uyazi kakuhle ukuba impahla eyenza amadoda kwimeko nayiphi na ingqalelo kuwe: iingubo eziqinileyo, iibhola ezikhanyayo kunye nomsila othakazelisayo, izithende eziphezulu, njl njl. Musa ukuthobela i-makeup kunye neenwele. Kodwa! Yonke into imele ihambelane kwaye ifanelekile kwimeko. Khangela ubuchule kunye nefanelekileyo! Kule meko, akusiyo kuphela ixhoba lakho, kodwa bonke abanye baya kukunaka - kwaye oku kuya kuluququzelela loo nto!
5. Intetho yokuqala. Xa ukwazi ukutsala ingqalelo, ikhefu phakathi kwalo mzuzu kunye nencoko yokuqala akufanele ibe mkhulu! Thetha ngokukhululekileyo, ngokukhawuleza nangokucacileyo! Kubalulekile ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwingxoxo encinane kunako. Ngethuba elihle xa uhleka ekuphenduleni uhlazo lwakhe, unokuthinta ngenyameko isandla sakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ungalibali ngokuthinta.
6. Cinga oko utshoyo. Ungaze utshele umntu ngomhla wokuqala, ngakumbi ukuba ufuna nje ngesondo, ungaphi abantwana owufunayo, ungaphi na amadoda onayo, khumbula - amadoda ayenzidalwa ezinamahloni, kwaye nokuba "Hayi, uhambe uye kum?" soyike kwaye ushiye!
7. Yithi iincoma. Khumbula ukuba umntu ongaphantsi uyamncoma ukudlula umfazi. Kubalulekile ukuba bazive bekhethekileyo, ezizodwa. Nangona kunjalo, ungadluli. Faka ingqondo kwaye uthethe into afuna ukuyiva, ngokwesihlandlo, indawo kunye nendawo.
Ukunconywa yindlela ebaluleke kakhulu yokubamba indoda kunye neloli yowesifazane. Ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuyenza njani?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ukunconywa kwamadoda nabasetyhini kunentsingiselo ebalulekileyo kunye nokubaluleka. Ukuba kumabhinqa kuba isabelo sokuqala sokuzonwabisa kunye nenduduzo yamadoda isikhokelo esithile sokwenza okuthile. Ngamazwi akho makungekho nto engenanto kunye nencazelo engacacanga. Gxi ninisa kwi nkcukacha.
Umzekelo, "into endiyintle ngayo, into onayo inamandla" -ku kuphumelela ngokupheleleyo, kodwa "wow, usebenza ngokukhawuleza". Ngaphezu koko, oku kusebenzayo ngokungafezekiyo: xa uthetha ukuncoma, linciphisa ilizwi lakho ngokukhawuleza - uza kubona, oku kuya kusebenza ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuncoma kufanele kube ngu-MANDATORY othembekileyo, okanye ubuncinci, watsho nge-100% inyaniso. Ukutsho ukuba ukunconywa ebhedeni kunokuba kunyanzelekile.
Kodwa! Ungalokothi ulalele umntu - abayithandi. Awudingi ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza - ngokukhawuleza ufike kwaye ukulinganisa kwakho kwamehlo akhe kuwa ngokukhawuleza. Amanconywa amaninzi ayimbi ngaphezu kokungabikho kwabo. Khumbula oku. Usoloko ufuna ukwazi umlinganiselo. Thetha ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo, akukho nto.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, xa unenene imfesane kunye neemvakalelo ezintle kumlingane wakho. Kule meko, iindlela zokubamba umntu ziya kuba lula ukuba usebenzise.
Yonke into yenzelwe ixesha elidlulileyo ngokwemvelo. Amadoda ezininzi kakhulu zezilwanyana zinkulu kwaye zikhanya ngakumbi kunabesifazane. Kwaye ngexesha leemidlalo zokulinganisa, basasaza iintsiba kwaye bajika enye, enye enye. Khumbula oku. Ngaphambi kokuba nje ummeli weentlobo zethu. Yindoda. Ngako oko, mdumise kwaye umkholise. Ukuhleka nokuvuma. Kodwa! Musa ukuwudlulela - asifuni ngokwenene ukubethelwa ngokucacileyo.
Kukho indlela efana nokubonakalisa isibuko. Ngokuqhelekileyo isetyenziswe ngabathengisi abanekhono ukuthenga izinto. Intsikelelo yalo kukuphindaphinda kwamazwi kunye neengxelo ze-interlocutor. Ngaloo ndlela, unengqondo yenyani nawe. Ngokomzekelo, waxhomeka esihlalweni sakhe-ephilile kwaye wasondela ngakumbi - yenza okufanayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, yenza ezi zenzo ngendlela ehambelanayo.
Musa ukulibala ukuba umculi wokuthabatha, kulo mzekelo, wena, akunjalo. Yaye le meko ikukhokela, nangona kubonakala ngathi uyayilawula inkqubo. Funda kwisibuko-funda ukulawula umgama phakathi kwakho. Khumbula ukuba umnxibelelwano ocolileyo ubaluleke kakhulu.
Inomdla, ngombono wam, ukuphawula - zonke ezi zinto aziyikuhambelana nje ne-pikapersham kuphela, kodwa kunye nabafazi abatshatileyo, kuba ukususa nokwehlisa umyeni wakho - lo msebenzi unzima kakhulu. Uzakufuna umonde obuninzi, umqondo weendlela zobuqili kunye nobuqhetseba, kuba ucinga ukuba yintoni, emva kweminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye kukubuyisela kukubona ekhatyweni, ekhangayo, eshushu. Yaye ngumsebenzi wakho ukwenza indoda yakhe ikubuke ngamehlo ahlukileyo kwaye icinge: "Ngaba lo ngumfazi wam?" Kutheni ndizange ndiyibone oku ngaphambili? ". Ngendlela! Ukusebenza okunjalo ngempumelelo kunceda kakhulu kubomi bakho bentsapho ngokubanzi! Akukho nto ingcono kunomtshato omhle, apho abatshatileyo abahlobo abangcono kunye nabathandekayo!
Uzuko oluhloniphekileyo, ubusuku obusondayo kunye novuko lwabantu!