Ngoko, isihloko sethu samanje sendlela yokunyenga umntu: ubugcisa bokukhohlisa.
Ubugcisa bokukhwabanisa indlela yokufumana umntu olala naye ngoncedo lweempahla, izenzo, iziphakamiso kunye nokuthinta.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukukhohlisa umntu, khumbula ukuba oku akunakulungele ukuyenza, ukuba yintombi yomhlobo wakho, ukuba awunayo indlela yokukhusela nawe xa unxila.
Ukuba sele sele udibana nomfana osemncinane, kwaye akasenakuzama ukukunika ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, ukuba ukhathele ukulinda kwaye sele sele ukulungele ukulala ngesondo, okanye ukuba ufuna ukuzama ukutshutshisa umfana wakho oyifunayo, ngoko unokufaka isicelo sakho uze umkhonze.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uvumelane, kufuneka ube nexesha lokulungiselela ngokucokisekileyo ukukhohlisa. Kubalulekile ukuba uqwalasele ezininzi ezininzi, ukucinga ngesicwangciso senkqubo esilinganiselweyo. Ukudukisa umntu ofuna iimeko ezifanelekileyo, ukuze yonke into ihambe kakuhle kwaye ingenazo iingxaki.
Akunandaba nokuba uphila nobani: yedwa, nabazali, kunye nabahlobo. Into ephambili kukuba "kucacise" indawo ephilayo ngexesha elifanelekileyo ukuze kungabikho mntu ongaphazamisa izicwangciso zakho ngokungazi. Cinga ukuba into yokukhohlisa ayifanele ikhonkcekise nayiphi na into, kubandakanywa ukuba akafanele azi ukuba kufuneka uhlale wodwa.
Okulandelayo - ubugcisa bekhnoloji yokukhohlisa kunye nengcamango yakho. Inketho egqibeleleyo - ukuvula umnyango kuye kwilinen kwaye, njengoko kunjalo, "uhlazekile", ukucacisa ukuba uvele ushiye ibhafu. Enye inketho: lungiselela isidlo sakusihlwa, uze umemele umntu ukuba abukele ifilimu yothando. Ngexesha le-movie, thula igalazi yewayini ekhanyayo. Ukongeza, ukhangele indlela awasabela ngayo, unokuqhuba ngokunyanisekileyo, mhlawumbi yena uya kufuna ukuthatha inyathelo. Nanku umzuzu onenhlanhla ukumxelela ukuba uya kuba yedwa, kwaye akukho mntu uya kukuphazamisa. Kwaye kunokwenzeka kwaye ukhetho olunjalo lokuba emva kokubukela ibhayisikobho ocela ukuba uhlale kuyo, kuba awukwazi ukuma wedwa kwaye uloyiko lobumnyama.
Ukuba uhlala endlwini yakhe kwaye ufanele umcekise kwintsimi yakhe, fumana ukuba uya kuba yedwa namhlanje. Emva koko unokuhlala ngokukhuselekileyo. Ubuqhetseba apha kukungalindeli ixesha lokulahleka kwaye uphelelwe umzuzu xa i-trams kunye neebhasi zihamba. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uquke umfana osemsebenzini othile wokuthakazelisa, ukwenjenjalo ukulibaleka ixesha. Into eyona nto kukunyamekela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba awuzange ube nexesha lokugqibela kwetram kwaye uzenzele ukuba ucinga kanzima malunga nokuba uza kufika njani ekhaya. Ukuba iqabane lakho libukhali, akayi kukugxotha ebusuku ekhangela isitalato. Musa ukucaphukisa kakhulu, ngaphandle koko unobungozi bokuchitha ubusuku ubodwa, njengoko umneneli uya kulala ngokulala ngokulala phantsi kwelinye igumbi.
Ukuba umhlobo osondeleyo awukwazi ukulungiswa kwindlu yakho okanye kwindawo yakhe, ngoko kuya kufuneka ucele umntu kumhlobo okanye omaziyo ukuba akuncede. Ngenxa yoko, qwa lasela onke amaqela azayo kunye neeholide. Inketho efanelekileyo kuwe - iholide kumntu othile, apho uya kukhetha khona. Kungcono, ewe, ukuba imozulu sele ishushu. Ngaphambi koko, thetha nabahlobo, nokuba baya kuba nako ukuninika igumbi elibaluleke kakhulu kwisiganeko esibalulekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo iintombi zihlala zivuyisa ukuncedana kwimicimbi yeekhabhi. Ukuba awukho ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nabanikazi be-dacha, ngoko uyazi ukuba unako ukuhlala unobungozi ngeyure ngexesha leqela. Into ephambili kukuba nenkikhi egumbini.
Ukuba ulwalamano lwakho sele selusezingeni lokuqhubela phambili, kwaye iqabane lakho alinakuzama ukukunika isondo, okanye ngaphambili, umcelile ukuba angakuchukumisi ngalolu hlobo, ngoko kufuneka ukhawuleze.
Ubugcisa bokukhwabanisa kukuba ibhinqa isebenzisa onke amaqhinga amabhinqa kunye namaqhinga: ukwakha amehlo, isebenzise impawu yokunciphisa kunye nokwehlisa ukutshintshisa, ikhangele ingqalelo ngezwi, ukujonga kunye neengcamango. Kodwa kuyo yonke into kufuneka ukwazi umlinganiselo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ekukhohliseni umntu, indima ebaluleke kakhulu idlalwe yiimeko eziyimpumelelo kunye nokuchaneka, ukusetyenzwa kwintlalontle, imeko. Kodwa akukho konke. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukuba umfana akuqonde kakuhle. Ukwenza oku, kubalulekile ukufumanisa indlela aphatha ngayo iimpawu zothando, indlela akhetha ngayo ukuchitha ixesha, into ayithandayo. Kubalulekile ukucinga ngazo zonke izinto ezincinci: iindlela zokukhusela, umzekelo.
Imeko ebalulekileyo yokukhohlisa yindawo yamahhala, imnandi kwaye akukho mthethweni. Umfana kufuneka abe ngowokuqala kwaye ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye unomdla ukuthetha nawe, ngoko unokuqalisa imisebenzi enomsebenzi.
Ukuba ubuhlobo bakho obusondeleyo buyingqabane, ungadikibali kwaye uphazamiseke ngayo. Khangela kule meko kwimeko ukusuka kwelinye icala - emva kwakho konke, usanqobile, kwaye le nkqubela ingaba yincinci, kodwa iyamnandi!