Enyanisweni, kutheni kungekho mntu ulahla indoda eneminyaka engama-40 enomfazi oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala, kodwa isichotho sokuhlambalala siwela kumfazi ohlawula umcimbi kunye nomntwana wakhe omncinci kumdala? Okanye ngaba umgaqo wemigangatho emibili ibusa ibhola ngaphezulu?
Imfashini yamadoda amancinci athuliswa ngeenkwenkwezi zase-Hollywood. Imimiselo eyakhayo imitshato emnandi phakathi komdlali kunye nombhali uJoan Collins noPerse Gibson (u-32 ubudala ubudala), abalingisi uGoldie Hawn noKurt Russell (iminyaka engama-6 ubudala kunye nabantwana abathathu abaqhelekileyo), umlingisi uSusan Sarandon kunye nomqondisi uTim Robbins (iminyaka engama-12 ubudala, abathathu abantwana), umlingisi uJuliana Moore kunye nomqondisi uBart Freundlich (iminyaka engama-9 ehlukeneyo, abantwana abathathu abaqhelekileyo), umlingisi womdlali uRaquel Welch kunye nomnini wezorhwebo yokurhweba uRichard Palmer (iminyaka engama-20 ubudala), umlingisi uDemi Moore kunye nomlingisi uAshton Kutcher (iminyaka engama-15). Abantu abakholelwa ukuba amantombazana amantombazana abancinci abathanda ukunyaniseka kwamadoda, sincoma ukuba sikhumbule ii-biographies zikaJoseph Bogarne, uCleopatra, uMadame de Pompadour, uCarla Bruni Sarkozy - aba bafazi baseklasini beBalzac, kwaye bengengowona mhle kakhulu, babethandwa ngabantu babo. Ubuthathaka kwabasetyhini abadala bondliwa yiNkosi yesiNgesi uHenry VIII, uJulius Caesar noBenjamin Franklin.
Izizathu zokuba kutheni amadoda amantombazana athathwe kwabasetyhini abadala. Kungaba ngathi iimvakalelo ezinzulu, kunye nesifiso sokwenyuka kwindleko yomnye umntu. Nangona kunjalo, imeko efanayo ibonakala kwintsebenziswano yamadoda amakhulu kunye namantombazana amancinci. Ngoko, asiyi kugweba ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa masifike kwindawo. Ngokufanayo, kwindawo yokumazi.
Ngoko ke, kuphi na umfazi okhulileyo kunye nomfana osemncinci?
Ukuqwalasela iziphakamiso zeeforamu ze-intanethi, indawo engcono kakhulu yokuba abahlobo abafanayo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo. Iinkonzo zicacile-ithuba lokuzilana ngolwazi kunye nobuncinci bembopheleleko. Ngendlela, ngoko uyazi, bafazi, abaninzi abaselula abaneminyaka eli-18 nangaphezulu bavutha ngomnqweno wokuvuyisa ngokushisa komphefumlo wabo oshushu kunye nomzimba wabasetyhini abaneminyaka engama-30-40 ubudala. Kwiimeko ezininzi ezo zihlobo zithetha, nangona kunjalo, kuphela ngokwesondo, kodwa oko esihogweni asiyikuhleka. Kungenzeka ukuba emva kwexesha, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ngokwesini buya kukhula lube yinkxalabo enzulu. Ukongeza kwimihlaba yokuthandana, asifanele sikhohlwe malunga neendawo zokubutha ngokubambisana kwabameli bezesini ezahlukeneyo - iindidi, iiklabhu ezahlukeneyo (ubusuku, ezemidlalo, njl njl.), Iibhankini, njl. Ngokubanzi, umbuzo - indlela umfazi okhulileyo ozaziyo ngayo umfana omncinci , akufanelekanga ngokukodwa. Ukuqhelana nomntu onobuhle kunokwenzeka nakumsebenzi okanye kwintlanganiso yeseshishini, kodwa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabathandana nabo xa kwenzeka esinye isithuba kunye nezinye iziganeko zisongela intshutshiso, ukungangqinelani kwimeko kunye nezinye izinto eziphazamisayo. Ngoko kungcono ukulandela umgaqo wokungaqiniseki kwezobugcisa - akukho ziveli ezisebenzayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, amadoda amaninzi adlala ibhola, ahlala ehamba kwimidlalo kunye nemidlalo yezemidlalo, ngaphandle kokuba ukujonga kwabo ngexesha lomdlalo okanye i-duel lijoliswe ngakumbi kwinqanaba lokulwa kunelo mfazi ohleli phantsi kwabo. Kodwa akukho nto. Konke okufanayo, banokuhlukana okuhlukeneyo, ukuphuma kwexesha, kufuneka basebenzise ngabo. Unokubuza le nsizwa enomdla ukuba uncede ukuvula ijusi okanye uhlobo oluthile lwebhokisi, iinkundla zentsebenziswano (amadoda anjengamanconywa, nangona aphika le nyaniso engenakuguquguquka), ubonise intshiseko yabo ngomdlalo womdlali, owokugqibela uya kuwunqoba njengomntu osondeleyo emoyeni !!
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukubuyela kumadoda kuncedo kuyimfuneko kwaye luncedo. Ngoko unokubulala ezimbini iintaka kunye nelitye elinye ngexesha - kwaye wenze umhlobo, uze ufumane uncedo. Ngoko, faka ingcamango yakho kwaye ufike ngohlobo oluthile lokunceda "ukuhlangula," kuba njengokwaseklasini malunga nabasetyhini bathi: "Amandla ethu abuthathaka, kodwa ubuthathaka bethu bungenamkhawulo."
Kwaye sele ikhona, njengoko ikhadi lilala phantsi. Xa umntu eba nomdla kwintombazana aze aqale ukuthatha inyathelo ngokwakhe, kulula kakhulu ukuhlakulela umntu omaziyo, ngaphandle koko zonke iindlela zobufazi ziya kufuneka zisetyenziswe. Apha, okubaluleke kakhulu, ungayidluli, ukwenzela ukuba ungasabisi umdlalo ngaphambi kwexesha. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ekudibaneni nabasetyhini abadala, amadoda ngokuyinhloko abandakanyeka kumava ezesondo. Ngoko, ngenxa yokudumala kunye nokuxinezeleka kwengqondo, ibhinqa kufuneka lilungele ukuphuhliswa kweziganeko. Nangona kunjalo, xa umntu ekhulile, umfazi akanakudluli ngokubhekiselele ekuqhekekeni kobudlelwane, kwaye ngokubanzi kubudlelwane ngokwabo. Nangona iimpawu zomntu wesifazane, isimo sengqondo somphakathi, imfundo kunye nembono ebomini akufaneleki ukukhutshwa ngaphandle.
Ngendlela, ngokungafani nemibhangqwana apho indoda endala, njengomthetho, igcina yonke into elawulwayo kwaye ikhokela intsapho, ngobabini kunye nomfazi okhulileyo kaninzi bahlakulela ubudlelwane obuninzi benentando yesininzi, kunye nemilinganiselo engcono yemfuno kunye nokuhanjiswa kweembopheleleko. Ngaphezu koko, iziphumo zophando lwezenzululwazi zifumene ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi, umfana akaqali kuphela ulwalamano, kodwa naye wenza imibingelelo yakhe ngenxa yokubambisana nomfazi omdala kunabo. Ngaphantsi kwempembelelo yomhlobo omdala, intombazana isoloko iba "ngendlela efanelekileyo": ukhetha umsebenzi "oqhelekileyo", uphando kunye nokwenza umsebenzi.
Ngokutsho kwengcali yengqondo kwengqondo uFrank Pittman, indoda eyinyani idinga umfazi waluphi na umdala-ukuba uyamthanda, ulungile naye, kwaye uyamthanda. Yaye ukuba ubomi buyalelwe ukuba umntu oza kuzalwa emva koko, kunye nomntu ngaphambili, kodwa abantu bayakuvuyela ukuhlala emphakathini wolunye, ngaba kufanelekile ukuthobela iingcamango ezide kunye nobuqhetseba, kunye neentlobano ezibuhlungu?