Kubafazi abaninzi, ingcamango yenkosikazi ithetha ingozi kwintsapho. Enyanisweni, ukuba unako ukuba ngumfazi oyindoda kumyeni wakho, oku kuya kubomeleza kakhulu intsapho kunye nokunciphisa ingozi yokuba indoda yakho iya kuthi, "njengokuba abantu bathi," hambani ukuya ngasekhohlo. " Kodwa ingaba njani inkosikazi engumyeni wayo?
Inkosikazi efanelekileyo kukuba, ngowokuqala kuyo yonke into eyindoda ehlakaniphile efuna kwaye ikwazi ukulala kumntu oyifunayo. Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa isondo ngobudlelwane obusondeleyo akuyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu. Unokwenza ngekhanda i-Kama Sutra ngentliziyo, usebenzise ngobuchule ubuchule bokusebenzisa zonke izinto, kodwa awukwazi ukuba ngumyeni wakho oza kuwufuna. Akunandaba nokuba ibhinqa linembonakalo emangalisayo okanye i-African temperament, into eyona nto kukuba wayesazi indlela yokutshata. Njengomphumo we-poll eyenziwe yi-VTsIOM, ama-55% amadoda ahloliselwe bakhetha ukuziphatha ngokwesini njengomgangatho ophezulu, kwaye kuphela umgangatho wesibini obaluleke kakhulu ukubonakala - kukhethwe ngamashumi ama-49% amadoda. Kodwa ingqondo kule poll yayingekho kwindawo yokuqala.
Indlela yokwenza isondo? Ngokwemininzi yamadoda edliwano-ndlebe, omnye umfazi onomdla ongowomntu ongathandabuzekiyo ukubonisa umnqweno wakhe kwaye unako ukuwuphumeza. Ukuba uhamba nomfazi onjalo, indoda ifanele ive i-aru yomnqweno ovela kuye. Umfazi wesondo kufuneka athande ubulili aze athabatheke kuyo, kwaye angabi nje ukubandakanya kuyo. Kumele asebenze ngesondo.
Ukuze ube yinto efanelekileyo kwaye uyintanda kumntu, okokuqala kufuneka uzithande, ziqiniseke uze wazi ngokwakho intengo. Kodwa ungazakheli ngaphandle kokuthintela. Ngombono ocacileyo wendoda eyithembekileyo yintombi ayinayo iimeko ezinzima. Ukuba ufunda ukuqonda kwaye uzithande ngendlela oyiyo, kungakhathaliseki ubunzima bakho, ukuphakama, isifuba esincinci okanye iinqabetho ezininzi, kuya kwenza abantu abazungezile. Kusemandleni okuzithanda wena kwaye ukwahlukana phakathi komfazi othakazelisayo kunye nomfazi omnandi kuzo zonke iziganeko. Yintoni enokutshintsha ukugqibela ngokutshintsha, kodwa oko akunakwenzeka kwaye kuyafaneleka. Kungenxa yesi sizathu ukuba amantombazana, ngokomzekelo, abanesisindo esingaphezu komzimba abangcangcazelayo kwisibuko kwaye bahambelana nomgaqo wokuba kufuneka kubekho abantu abalungileyo, akukho ukungahambi kwabamangalisayo. Ukuba ibhinqa liyakuthanda, ngoko lihamba nomntu kunye nomntu, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba kuyimfuneko, kodwa kuba uyayifuna. Akahlali ngesondo ukugcina indoda ecaleni kwayo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uyayithanda. Loo mfazi uhlala ehleli kwaye uhlala engummangaliso kumntu. Yaye yintoni enokuqinelela kunomnqweno wokusombulula esi siqwenga.
Ukuze uzonwabele ngesondo ngokwawo kwaye uyithumele kumlingane, ibhinqa mayingabinakunqandwa. Ubugcisa bokudlala ngothando kumfazi ngamnye egazini. Kodwa kutheni abaninzi belibale ukuba ungeyonyani nje kuphela, kodwa ngexesha lesini. Ukuphoqa kunye nokukloloda iqabane lakho ebhedini, unokukrazula ukuxhatshaza okubophelela iimpembelelo zakho kwaye kuvuyisa umlingane wakho kunye nawe. Musa ukulibala ukuba isondo sinxalenye yendalo yothando lwakho. Funda ukunandipha okwenzekayo kwaye ke kuya kukunika unonwabo olungenakufaniswa. Ukuba wena, umzekelo, uqhekeza isithende, yenza njengentombazana evela kwintengiso-yephula okwesibili uze uqhubeke (ukuya kwisitolo seesitampu esiseduze okanye kumhlobo). Ibhinqa elingathandabuziyo kwaye lingenakuvinjelwa kwiimeko ezinjalo, kwiimeko ezingama-90%, amadoda ayibona njengowesifazane, angenakuvinjelwa ebhedini.
Ukuthanda ukukholisa umlingane wakho. Abafazi abaninzi banamhlanje balala ngesicinga malunga nokuba umntu uya kukwazi ukukholisa IM. Inkosikazi epheleleyo kufuneka ikhumbule ukuba kuncike kakhulu kuye. Umgaqo osisiseko wobudlelwane obuhle besondo kukuba ufuna ukunikela ngaphezu kokuba ufumene.
Enye yeentshaba eziyingozi kakhulu zobudlelwane obuhle ziphantsi kunye nesicatshulwa kwiibhedi. Kuye kwaziwa ixesha elide ukuba indoda iya kuthatha umnqweno wakho ngakumbi xa uxelela ngaye ngokuthe ngqo, ngaphandle kweengcebiso, ngakumbi ebhedini. Unganqikazi ukuxelela iqabane lakho malunga nendlela othanda ngayo. Yaye ukuba uqinisekisa amagama akho ngokudanduluka nokububula, ngoko undikholelwe, ngexesha elizayo awuyi kubuza. I-reflex engqinelanayo kwindoda iveliswa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye into enjalo elula nje ngokuba "i-caresses enomdla-uyavuya" bayakhumbula ngokukhawuleza.
Njengoko uyazi, amadoda ayamthanda xa ayanconywa, kakhulu kunabesifazane. Umfazi ohlakaniphile uya kuhlala ekwazi ukudumisa indoda yakhe ngendlela evakalelwa ngayo njengenkosi yehlabathi, kodwa ngelo xesha, ngaphandle kokumcaphukisa, khankanya ukuba, ukunikela ingqwalasela ngakumbi kwixesha elimnandi, unokuyenza ibe nolonwabo.
Ulwalamano olusondeza ngokwesondo, njengomthetho, luchaphazela ngokuqinisekileyo zombini kunye nezinto eziphathekayo zoluntu. Kwaye njengoko kuyaziwa ngomntu ophumeleleyo uhlala ngumfazi. Yaye ukuba lo mfazi naye ungumthandi wakhe kumyeni wakhe, uya kuphumelela kabini.