Inkqubo yokukhwabanisa amadoda iyahluke kwaye ayikho ngaphantsi kweyethu, ibhinqa. Nawuphi na umfana omiyo kwaye ozinzileyo unokukwazi ukungaziphenduli lula, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ngexesha elifutshane (ukuba sifanele sifumane ukuba njani?) Ukuzibonakalisa njengomviwa ofanelekileyo ukuzalisa iinqanaba zethu. Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba lolu hlobo lommeleli wesondo oluqinileyo luya kubonakala lufana neepesenti ezilikhulu, okanye iipesenti ezingamakhulu amabini, kwaye ngenxa yale nto, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuba ngowokuqala ukuphuma kwisihlwele kwaye ubone amehlo ensimini. Unokumhlangabeza ngokupheleleyo nakwiyiphi iklabhu, ibha, i-cafe, ngenxa yokuba isakhi sakhe siyancipha kwaye ngexesha elifanayo likwazi ukuqonda. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngokuqinisekileyo, ingaba yintlanganiso engalindelekanga epakini okanye mhlawumbi nje. Into eyona nto kukuba uya kuqiniseka ukuba awukho msinya kwaye le mizuzu emihlanu, uya kuchitha, efumana impendulo enokuthi, ngecandelo lakho. Masihambe, ngokuthe ngqo, kumhlobo wethu. Umzekelo wemeko: nanku iiveki ezilinde ixesha elide kwaye wena kunye nentombazana-nabahlobo bakho (kunye nam ngokwam), ndagqiba ukutyelela enye yezi zikhankanywe apha ngasentla maziko kwaye niphumule emva kwesimiso esibuhlungu. Kwaye ke, wambona, ukhangelekile, ulungele kakuhle kwaye, ekuqalekeni, umfana onesibindi owakubona. Ngokuqinisekileyo uza kuzijonga. Buza kuphi kwaye kutheni? Ulibale ukuba yintoni intukuthelo yesifazane, ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kukuvumela. Mhlawumbi wena, ngaphandle kokuqaphela oko nangoko, uya kudlula amaxesha ambalwa kunye naye ngeenyawo, qaphela ukumncoma kwakhe, kodwa, mhlawumbi, unganamathele naluphi na ukubaluleka kuwo. Kodwa, yena, undikholelwe, sele sele ude ude uqaphele kwaye, nanjalo, ufunde kakuhle. Indoda, isoloko ikhetha into yakhe yovelwano - ibhinqa, ixesha elide kwaye ngaphandle kokukhawuleza naphi na, lingayibona, lijonge ngokuziphatha kwayo, imilinganiselo kunye nempawu. Kwaye kwinto ayekhetha ukuyilungisa kwimenyu. Sekunjalo, ulinde umzuzu olungeleyo, uya kufudukela kumendo wakho, ngelixa uthabatha uhlobo lwesithuluzi: ibhotile ye-champagne, iintyatyambo okanye i-cocktail. Kodwa sele usuqale isiqalo, esiza kuthiwa ngu-PR ngokobubele bakhe nangokwakheka. Inkqubo iya ngqo. Ngoko, unakho konke, yonke into, kukho ezinye, kungekho ngaphezulu, ngaphantsi, kodwa imizuzu emihlanu kukukholisa, intombi yentliziyo yakhe. Yintoni emaminithini emizuzu amadoda angayenza ukuze athabathe abafazi? Ngeli xesha, i-chevalier yakho entsha kufuneka ishiye imbonakalo yakhe, ihambelane neendlela ezisisiseko zokuthandana ngokuchanekileyo. Kwaye okokuqala, okokuqala, inkumbulo ekhunjulwayo kunye neyodwa (okwangoku ingafumaneka ngokukhuselekileyo), kunye nokuguqulwa ngokukhawuleza, ngokuthe ngqo, kwingxoxo ngokwayo kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukudibanisa ukuba uyazi malunga nezenzo ezilandelayo kunye nezigqibo.
Ngethuba lemizuzu emihlanu "yokuthandana," unokuthi ngokuqinisekileyo uyakuthanda. Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo, bonke bazibonakalisa ngokwabo, kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo, ukuba banomdla kumfazi kwaye bamnakekele yena ngokwakhe, ukuba uya kuvelelwa nje. Mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi, ukuphindaphinda. Ukuba engakutshilo, unokukwenza ngayo yonke indlela, ngeendlela ezinconywayo ezinamandla kwidilesi yakho okanye kwindlela yokuthetha ngokuqhubekayo. Kodwa, enye indlela okanye enye, kufuneka ihambelane ngokucacileyo nenjongo ebekelwe yona. Ndagqiba kwelokuba ndinqobe, ngoko makwenze oko. Ubungakanani na ongenakukuchitha kuyo, ubuhle bakhe kunye nokuthakazelisa. Yaye ndikholwa, uya kwenza konke oku, kuba ukuzibonakalisa kwakhona ukuba yena, ngokwenene, umqoqo ophumeleleyo weentliziyo zabasetyhini ngumntu oyintloko. Kwaye, ngokusekelwe kuyo, indoda leyo kwaye ithatha isinyathelo sokuqala ekuqhelaneni nayo.
Ukukuthobela imizuzu emihlanu, umntu uya kufuneka enze kakuhle. Ukwenza oku, unokukujonga ngothando olusondeleyo, ezama ukuxubusha amabali ahlukeneyo kunye namabali ngaye, egxininisa isidima sakhe nempumelelo yakhe ebomini, kunye nokubonakalisa i-erudition. Ukuba akayithandi kakhulu, kwaye uyazi malunga nayo, ngoko ingxoxo eyakhiwe kakuhle kunye nawe iya kuba yikhadi layo. Kwakhona, uya kubonisa ukuhleka kweentlanzi ekuphakameni kwayo, kuba ngamnye umntu uyazi indlela esiyixabisa ngayo le nto. Ngelizwi, emizuzwini emihlanu indoda ayifanele ibonise kuphela, kodwa iphinde ibonise ubungqina bayo, ubuqu kunye nobuntu. Ukuba wena, ngokuthe ngqo, uqinisekisile oku, ngaphandle kwehla encinci lokungabaza kwaye awubuyelanga kulezi ziqinisekiso nangaphezulu. Kule miba ephambili, sibona ukubonakaliswa kwalo mviwa kumagumbi. Ngoko, ukuba uqaphele ngelo xesha ukuba wayekwazi ngokupheleleyo ukuzityhila ngokwakhe, wayengekho into ekhohlisayo kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ngokuqhubekayo, ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye wakhulela, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, uzive usondele kuye kwaye ukhululekile. Ngoko, emva koko, wayephethe emizuzu emihlanu, njengawe.
Impendulo yombuzo othi: "Yintoni into eyenziwa ngumfana kwimimiselo embalwa ukukholisa intombazana eyayibambelela" ihluke kakhulu, kodwa kukho enye inqaku eliphambili. Khumbula ukuba xa umntu ekwazi ukuxelela ngaye yonke into efunwa nguye kule meko, ukubonisa iimpawu zakhe ezintle ngexesha elifutshane ngaphandle kokusebenzisa amabali apheleleyo kunye neengcamango ezingapheli ngokuhlwa, ungokoqobo ndoda. Kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, kuya kuba yanele imizuzu emihlanu ukuqonda kakuhle.