Indlela yokusebenza xa uhlala uzibuza: kuthekani ukuba andiyazi indlela yokunxibelelana nabafana, ndinamahloni? Okokuqala, yeka ukwesaba ingxaki yakho kunye neentloni phambi kwabanye. Enyanisweni, kukho intombazana enokuthobekileyo ehamba phambili ekuziphatheni ngendlela engabikho mntu unenkcazelo malunga nokuziphatha kwabo kunye nehlabathi. Ungakwazi nokuba njalo, ucinga nje ukuba uphinde ucinge ngeminye imilinganiselo yakho kwaye ujonge.
Ngoko, akufanele uloyike abantu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ungabesabi abantu. Enyanisweni, thina bantu asikude neenja. Xa umntu evakalelwa ukwesaba kwezilwanyana zabantu abangalibalekiyo, siqala ukuziva ngathi njengabo ookumkani, kwaye ngokuphantse sihlazisa okanye sihlambalaza umntu, ukuze aqhubeke esenza esi sivakalelo. Ngoko ke, ungaze uvumele abantu ukuba baziveze baze bazibonele ngeendleko zakho. Awukho mbi kunabo bonke, kwaye, mhlawumbi, nokuba ngcono. Cinga ukuba kutheni umntu engakuthandi kwaye ufuna ukucaphukisa, mhlawumbi umona.
Khumbula ukuba abantu abaselula bathanda ukuzithemba, kodwa abanokuzithemba. Ngoko ke, vele uziphathe ngokwemvelo kwiinkampani zabahlobo abatsha. Akufuneki ukulungelelanisa nento abangayithandiyo, ukuba abayi kuba nomdla ekuphulaphuleni. Ngokuchaseneyo, qhagamshelana nabo njengokungathi uyazi ukuba kwiiyure ezimbalwa baya kuba seenyaweni ezinamathele okanye bebize umhlobo.
Umntu ngamnye unomdla wokuzilibazisa, okhethekileyo "ip", eyinceda ukunqoba abantu. Kumntu othile, lo mdlalo wokuhlekisa, kwabanye iingqondo, kunye nobubele besithathu. Akukho nto ebaluleke kakhulu kwiyiphi impawu eya kuba nayo. Cinga ngokucokisekileyo malunga nabahlobo kunye nezihlobo ezikuthandayo kakhulu, kuba ziphi izici zobuntu ezidunyiswayo kwaye zihlala zichongwa. Yiloo nto kwaye kufuneka ukuba isetyenziswe njengesixhobo sangempela. Misela lo mgangatho kubahlobo abatsha kunye nabafana, phuhlisa, kwaye, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uya kuqonda ukuba uye waba yi-skate yakho.
Izizathu zokuthi intombazana iyabuza imibuzo enje into endiyenzayo, ukuba andiyazi indlela yokuthetha kunye nabafana abanamahloni, ngokuqhelekileyo kubakho ukungabikho kwemfundo yowesilisa, eyathi yathintela ukukwazi ukunxibelelana namadoda. Amantombazana amancinci amaninzi awakhulela kwiintsapho ezinomzali ongabodwa kwaye akhuliswa ngoomama nogogo awazi nje ukuba yintoni okumele athethe ngayo kunye nabafana, indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Abaqondi ngokupheleleyo abameli besilisa, abahlazo, besaba ukuthetha into engalunganga. Ukongezelela, banokuba neendawo ezinqabileyo kwimiphefumlo yabo ukususela ebuntwaneni nasebuntwaneni, xa abafana bebacaphukisa baze bahlazisa.
Konke oku kufuneka kukhunjulwe kanye kunye. Izingane zikhohlakele, ngoko azama ukuqonda abo ontanga. Kodwa ezo zihlandlo zide ziphele. Umntu oqhelekileyo akayi kubuhlungu intombazana. Ukuba wenza okufanayo, kuthetha ukuba loo ndoda kunye nendoda akufanele ibizwe, kwaye, ngaphezu koko, qhubeka uxoxisana naye.
Abantu abaqhelekileyo banakoloko bakuxabisa ngobulumko babo kunye neentloni. Ngoko musa ukulibala malunga nale mpawu xa uqala ukuthetha nomnye umntu. Ukuba intombazana ibheka phantsi kwaye ifuna ukuthetha into ethile, nokuba abantu abanomdla kunye nabanomdla abakwazi ukumelana nenkampani ende. Abantu abangakwaziyo ukugcina intetho bavutha nje, kuba kubonakala ngathi abahlali bexhamla kwinkampani, kwaye baphatha abanye ngokungabongi.
Ngoko ke, zama ukulibala ngoloyiko. Ewe, ekuqaleni akuyi kuba lula, kodwa kufuneka uqokelele yonke into ibe yintonga kwaye uziphophe ukuba uvumele ukuhamba kuzo zonke iinkxalabo nokungathandabuzeki. Yiba yedwa, njengokuba unabo abasondeleyo. Ungalokothi udibanise, unganciphisi intloko yakho, ngokuqhelekileyo, ungakhethi indima yentsholongwane engonwabileyo, ngubani omele, xa isikhala siwela entanyeni yakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akudingeki ukuba uzivelele kwaye uziqhenye, ngakumbi ukuba lo mfanekiso awuhambisani nawe. Zama ukulinganisela kuyo yonke into kwaye ufumane ngokwaneleyo into eyiyo. Kwiinkampani ezininzi apho azikho izinto ezintle ezinokuthi zikhubekise igama. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba zonke ezinye ziya kuba zifanayo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uqale, ubuncinane uzame ngesidima ukuba ungamnaki umoni. Kuya kuthatha ixesha elincinane, kwaye uya kufunda indlela yokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo kunye nemveli. Kufuneka nje ukukholelwa kuwe. Olu kholo luya kuqala ukunika abantu abaza kuqhuba, qalisa ukuthetha kunye nokuba ngabahlobo kunye nawe. Ukuba ulawula ukutsala abahlobo abatsha, kungekudala, baya kuba ngabahlobo bakho. Kodwa ngenxa yale nto akudingeki ukuba udlale indima, kodwa ukuba ube yinyani kunye nemvelo.
Kwakhona, amaninzi amantombazana agqityiwe ngenxa yokubonakala kwawo. Oku kuya kulungiswa kwakhona. Abafazi abasweleyo abakho, abanye bengazi njani ukugxininisa zabo iimayini. Ukuze uzive ungoyena mkhulu, zama ukutshintsha ikhabethe yakho, iinwele kunye nephunga. Thatha isitala esingafihla yonke into ongayithandiyo kwaye ugxininise imiba emihle. Ukongeza, unokwenza imidlalo, ubhalise kwimidanso, ngokubanzi, cinga isifundo esiya kuba nefuthe elifanelekileyo kwiinkcukacha zakho zangaphandle kunye nezakhono, kwaye uzisa uvuyo.
Impendulo yombuzo: "Yintoni oyenzayo. Ukuba andiyazi indlela yokunxibelelana nabafana: unamahloni "ufihlwe ngqo kuwe. Wonke umfazi unento enokuyenza namadoda. Omnye uhlekisayo, umntu onengqondo, umntu onoplastiki. Musa ukujonga isisombululo esifanelekileyo kwaye wenze enye ibhinqa ibe ngumqondiso wakho. Khumbula ukuba ungumntu, ngoko ukuziphatha kwakho kufuneka kube yinto ekhethekileyo kunye nomntu ngamnye. Ukuba ukopisha umntu, uya kwenza ukuba uhlekise kwaye udideke. Akufanele uzesabe. Unomntu onobuqili, onomusa, onomdla, onomdla. Kuwe, kukho nantoni na into enokuthandwa ngabanye, kwaye ngokukodwa, abafana. Mane ufunde ukubonisa, ngaphandle kokungabaza okanye ukwesaba. Kwaye, ngokukhawuleza, ukwesaba nokuhlazeka kuya kulibala, kwaye abantu baya kubona kuwe intombazana enomdla neyithemba.