Kukholelwa ukuba ukudlala ngothando kuyindlela yokuxoxisana, ukususela kumzuzu wokutsala ingqalelo yomntu wesini esahlukileyo. Umtsalane wokuqwalasela kwenzeka ngenxa yezenzo ezithile, ukubonakalisa ubuso, ukunyakaza, owaziwayo kwingqondo njengelwimi lomzimba. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kuvelisa iziphumo ezingaphezu kweengxoxo ezilula.
Ngoko, makhe sihlolisise ezo zakhono ngokubanzi.
Ngoko intombazana inomtsalane njani le nkwenkwana?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uchaze ngokucacileyo ukuba yeyiphi intlobo yamadoda intombazana eyakhayo. Bafuna ukugxila ingqalelo kunye nemigudu yabo. Kufuneka uziqonde ngokucacileyo oko kumkhangela ngakumbi: ukubukeka okanye ihlabathi lakhe elingaphakathi. Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana, njengamadoda ngokwawo, abukeka kuphela kwiimpawu zangaphandle, ukulibala ngomphefumlo womntu kunye neempawu zakhe. Kwaye oku kubalulekile. Ngoko ke, umntu akafanele akhangele kuphela iimpawu zangaphandle, kuba amadoda okwenene ahlale efihliwe kungekhona phantsi kweemask ebonakalayo. Njengoko bethetha, indoda kufuneka ibe yinto encinci ngakumbi kunesilwanyana. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akudingeki ukuba udlulele kwaye ukhangele kanye loo nto. Ngokulula, abaninzi abasetyhini bakholelwa ukuba ukuba novelwano lomntu, uya kuchitha ubomi bakhe ngokukhethiweyo. Nangona kukho ukungafani. Ngenkcazelo echanekileyo yohlobo lomntu, izazi zengqondo zikwacebisa ukuba uthathe iphepha kunye nokurekhoda kuzo iimpawu zomntu, ezahlula ngaphambili zibe ngamaqela amathathu. Iqela lokuqala kufuneka libandakanye kwezo mpawu ayenako umfazi angenakwenza ngaphandle, okwesibini iimpawu ezinqwenelekayo, kwaye okwesithathu iyamkeleka ... Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba zisoloko zibhekisela kuloluhlu xa umviwa ebonakalayo nesandla ebonakala ebomini bakho.
Okwesibini, kuyimfuneko ukudibanisa nolwazi kunye nendoda, kwaye emva koko uzame ukutsala ingqalelo kwindoda eselula. Awudingi ukuhlala utsho ukuba yi-pier, lixesha lokunciphisa umzimba kwaye ulusu lukhuni .... ngoko awuyi kukhawulela. Ukutsala ingqalelo kumntu osemncinci, umntu akafuneki ukunamathela kwixesha elidlulileyo, uzive uxolo okanye unentloni ngento ethile. Kubalulekile ukukholelwa ukuba ebomini bakho ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba ngumntu oza kuhambisana nawe kuwo onke amaqela avela kuloluhlu. Kwaye kukho, kholwa kwam. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ingxaki kukuba asiyikubaluleka ngokufanelekileyo kwaye asijongi abantu abafika endleleni yethu. Gxotha zonke iingcamango ezingcolileyo kunye neemvakalelo. Lo ngumsebenzi wakho oyintloko ukutsala ingqalelo yomntu omtsha. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ubeke iphepha elipheleleyo leengcamango ezimbi, uze uphonsa emlilweni, njengokungathi ubatsho kubo. Oku kuya kukuvuselela, kuba ngexesha lokunxibelelana nomntu ongenakuthethelelwa ukuba ube lusizi kwaye udimazeke. Yiba nomonde kwaye ukhululeke. Lo ngumncedisi ongcono kakhulu ekutsaleni ingqalelo yamadoda.
Okwesithathu, khumbula ukuba ukuzithoba kukutshaba lwakho, okuthintela intombazana ekutsaleni ingqalelo yomntu omncinci, imqhube ... Ukuqhayisa kubangela ukwesaba, ukwesaba ukukhishwa, kwaye akuyi kubakho nantoni na into enhle! Ukuba umhlobo wakho omtsha engazange aye kumnxeba, akuthethi ukuba ungendawo okanye uyatshitshisa, hayi, akunjalo nje. Emva kwakho konke, akubona bonke abantu babonakala bekhangele kuwe. Ngoko kutheni uzigwebe? Yiba nawe kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo umfana wakho uza kuza kuwe. Qhubeka uphando. Thatha ingozi kwaye ungesabi!
Emva kwakho konke oku ngasentla, ungashiya indawo yakho yokukhusela uze ufune ukukhangela kwakho. Ingaba nayiphi na indawo, isitalato ukuya nasiphi na isiganeko. Kuwusizo kuzo zonke iindawo zokuya kwiiklabhu zemidlalo, apho zihlala zingekho namadoda. Ukutyelela rhoqo kwaye u tyelele amaqela. Vumela abahlobo bakho bazi ukuba ukhululekile kwaye ulungele iintlanganiso ezintsha. Kwaye mhlawumbi baviwa?
Okwesine, kukhangeleke, ukuhlala uphakathi kwendawo. Kodwa khumbula umyalelo wegolide wokudlala ngothando - umbala obalaseleyo.
Amadoda ayengavumi ukuba avume, kwaye abafazi abazi ukuba bathandwa ngophunga oluthile lwabasetyhini, apho baya khona, njengamagundane ashizi. Yaye umomotheka. Ewe, ewe! Khumbula enye inyaniso: ukumamatheka kwakho kuyamangalisa. Smile ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye ihlabathi liya kumncoma ngokubuya.