Indlela yokuba ngumfazi ococekileyo?

Kungekudala okanye kamva, nawuphi na umfazi uyazibuza ukuba ungumfazi ofanelekayo. Umyeni wakhe naye uyazijonga zakhe ezintle, ezithandekayo kwaye ezikhangayo, njengaphambili, xa beqala ukudibana? Le yimibuzo ephakamileyo kwintombi xa evakalelwa kukuba intsapho yakhe isondele ekupheleni kwayo, okanye nokuba umyeni wakhe akayikuyinyamekela into efanayo nangaphambili. Nabani na amabhinqa amaphupha enentsapho apho kuvumelana khona, ukuqonda kunye kunye nothando kubusa. Wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe malunga nomfazi ofanelekayo. Kwaye kufuneka ukuba babelane nabo kunye neqabane lawo, ukuze abe ngumfazi nomfazi. Kodwa kukho imigaqo emininzi indlela umntu angayilungele ngayo, ngaphandle kokuthetha kwakhe kunye nezicelo.

1.Ngekho ebomini, akukho mfazi omele agqithe isibuko. Kufuneka ukuba ahlale ehle, ehlambuluke kakuhle, egqoke kakuhle, nakwikhaya. Ukuba uhlala ekhaya uzama ukusebenzisa i-makeup, ke oku kulungile. Ukufumba okuncinci akuyi kukulimaza. Musa ukugqithisa umququzelelo kunye nokuhamba ngeenyawo, nangona iiminwe zakho nezandla zihlala zihle kakuhle kwaye zilungele kakuhle. Izinwele zakho kufuneka zihlale zibekiwe, kwanaye makube yincinjana encinane. Umyeni wakho akufanele akubone ekhaya kwikhepheli, engagqithwanga kwaye enganeliseki. Ngoko usengozini yokulahlekelwa ngumdla kumntu wakho.

2.Zonke ziyazi ukuba isondo kwintsapho yakho ibalulekile. Kubalulekile nje kuphela kumyeni wakho, kodwa kuwe. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza uziva kakubi kwaye udikibala kwisini, kunokukhokelela ekungavumelani okanye ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsapho. Ukwabelana ngesondo kubantu kubalulekile. Ukuba naliphi na ixesha xa umkhanyela, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba unokufumana ukhuphiswano.

3. Ukuba unomona omkhulu, zama ukungaqhubi umona. Kwakhona, musa ukuzingca. Musa ukuxhaphaza umyeni wakho, musa ukumphoqa ukuba enze into angayifunayo. Musa ukuwukhawulela nantoni na, njengoko oku kungakhokelela ekubeni uya kuqala ukufumana iindlela zokubuya kunye nokukhangela ukuphuma.

4. Musa ukuhlazisa kunye nokuthuka umyeni wakho nganoma iyiphi indlela. Bafuna ukuba ufuna uthando, uthando kunye nokuncoma. Nakuphi na ukugxekwa kwidilesi yakhe kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo engapheliyo. Ukuba wenza nayiphi na impazamo, ngoko nje ungagcinwa kwaye ubekezele naye, unokuzilungisa.

5. Ungaze uzame ukuyilungisa, ufundise. Ukufunda kwakhona umyeni wakho kuya kubangela ukuxabana kwintsapho. Ngomnene nje ncedise ukuba atshintshe, kodwa angabi nantoni.

6. Ibhinqa elisendlwini kufuneka ihlale isilumko kwaye isilumko. Kumele aqonde umgca, apho ungathetha nento oyithethayo, kwaye apho ungafanele uvule umlomo wakho. Ungaze ucele imibuzo eyokubonisa ukuba uyakwazi kwaye awukwazi.

7. Ngamanye amaxesha uzibonakalisa ungazi kwaye unganeliseki, zibonise isilumko. Kubonakala ngathi indoda yakho isisithulu. Amadoda ayayithanda xa ubonakala unjengomntwana. Ziba njengomntwana. Ukuba awukhohlisi.

Ukuba ulandela ezinye zezi ngcebiso, ngoko unokuba ngumfazi ofanelekileyo kunoma yimuphi umntu. Emva kwakho konke, kungekhona wonke umntu uphelele, sonke senza iimpazamo. Hlalani nifuna ukuvisisana nokuqonda kwintsapho.