Kule nqaku siya kuqwalasela iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo abafazi abazenzayo xa beqhelana nabantu, kwaye siya kuhlaziya umbuzo wendlela yokuziphatha ngayo umfazi xa udibana nendoda kwaye Ziziphi iimpazamo ezifanele zigwenywe. Ngokuphathelele ukubuza imibuzo ngokuqinileyo, ukungaqiniseki okanye ukuziphatha okubi, ukuphazamisa ukufaneleka kwakho, njl. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuzonwabisa kwintlanganiso yokuqala okanye ngomhla wokuqala kuyaqondakala, ngakumbi ukuba unomdla omkhulu kunye nomtsalane kumntu. Kodwa ukubonakaliswa okugqithisileyo kunempembelelo enkulu kwiintsebenziswano. Amadoda ayithandi abafazi abancinci abancinci kwaye bazame ukuwaphepha. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuba nezizathu ezixhalabileyo zokuxhalabisa, kodwa akusiyo isizathu sokukhathaza ngeminwe yakho iminwe, ukuguqula unyawo lwakho, okanye ukuguqula inwele entanyeni yakho.
Kwakungafanelekanga ukwakha kwintlanganiso yokuqala yezicwangciso zexesha elide, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuphosa ekhanda lakho elitsha. Ngokukodwa ukuba ezi zicwangciso zidibene nomntu othobekileyo. Indoda inokuyikrokra umsebenzi wakho ogqithiseleyo kulo mbandela, ngokukodwa kuba abantu ngokwabo bathanda ukunquma yonke into kunye nokucwangcisa. Makheke ukuba bakholwe ukuba ngabo, kwaye awunayo inxaxheba kwenkqubo kunye nobudlelwane.
Imvakalelo embi kakhulu kumntu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abo bajikelezayo, ivelisa intetho engafanelekanga, ibinzana elibi okanye ukuhleka okungalunganga. Awubonisi kuphela umgangatho ophantsi weengqondo zakho, usenza imvakalelo yomntu osondeleyo onomdla onqabileyo ukuba agqokise ukuba agqoke, agqoke iingubo zoboya, uhlambulule kwaye aphumle kwiiqithi zaselwandle. Umbono oqhelekileyo wokuba amadoda ayithandi abafazi abanobuchule uyintambo. Enyanisweni, amadoda ayamthanda, axabise kwaye ahloniphe abafazi abanobuqilima, ngabafazi abasetyhini kuphela xa ibhinqa libonisa ngokugqithiseleyo ukuphakama kwakhe kwindoda ngokubhekiselele kwi-erudition, ukufunda, njl. Oku kuyaqondakala, uya kuvuma, kunoma yimuphi umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isini, Akumangalisi xa bembeka njengesidenge okanye sisisidenge.
Xa usebenzisana nendoda, ungayisebenzisi umdla kuwe, ungadlala kunye noluntu kwaye unganciphisi isithunzi sakhe somntu - akukho mntu ufuna ukuziva ngathi unodoli ezandleni zabanye. Nangona umnini wezandla unqweneleka kwaye uyakhohlisa.
U-Wit, amahlaya amahle, ukumomotheka kunye nokuhleka ukukrazula kakuhle imeko leyo, kodwa ukutyiwa kwenkwenkwezi yasendle ekusebenzeni kwentombazana encinci ibonakala ingafanelekiyo kwaye iphosa.
Ukuvakalelwa ngokweqile kumcaphukisa umntu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ububele bakho novelwano luya kuhlala ludibanisa, kodwa ukugabisa ngokuxakile malunga nokufa kwenja yakho eyintandokazi kwiminyaka eyi-10 edlulileyo okanye uhlazo olubi phezu komntu luya kumenza umva wokuphazamiseka nokungahambi. Khumbula, iinyembezi zamabhinqa zinamandla kakhulu ukuba zisebenzise kwiimeko ezingabalulekanga. Gcina kubo bhetele kwiimeko ezinzulu, ukuze amadoda angahlakuli ngexesha lexesha lokuzikhusela.
Uvakalelo oluthathekayo lubangela ukuba umntu akhuphe ngokukhawuleza, ukwesaba, ukuphosa amaqhosha, njl njl njl.
Awufanele udibanise nayo yonke indoda kwaye uvumelane nazo zonke iingcamango zakhe - ukungabikho kwengqondo yakho siqu kuthetha ngawe njengomntu omdala kwaye unciphise umdla wabantu. Kule meko, uya kubonakala ngathi unodoli omuhle kuye, kungekhona umntu obone imibono ngobomi kunye nenkqubo yokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha. Kodwa, xa ubonisa uluvo lwakho, thintela ukuyibeka kwabanye abantu. Khumbula ukuba bangaphi abantu - ezininzi iingcamango.
Ungalokothi uphinde ukhumbule nawuphi na umntu omtsha weentombi zakhe ezedlulileyo. Amadoda abanikazi, kwaye ukukhankanywa kwabanye, kubambisana nabo, bebenza kubo, njengombala obomvu kwinkunzi yenkomo yaseSpeyin. Ukuba ucela ngokucacileyo, ungatsho ukuba akubalulekanga, kuba bonke bexesha elidlulileyo. Kwimeko yeminye imibuzo malunga nenani labo, baveze ngokugqithiseleyo ingqiqo efanayo yokuba kwakukho nabalingani bezesondo ezimbalwa ebomini bakho kunokuba babenalo.
Ungaze uphakamise ilizwi lakho kumntu. Itheyiphu yomyalelo ifanelekile kuphela kwiintsebenziswano kunye nabangaphantsi, kwaye kungekhona kumthandi onakho, ngoko ugweme izenzi entetho yakho kwimeko yokubaluleka. Ukuba ucela umntu ukuba enze okuthile kuwe - zisela amanzi, vula i-ventilator, njl. - ungakhohlwa ukongeza igama lomlingo "nceda", kwaye umbulele ngenkonzo enikeziweyo.
Madly besyat amadoda kunye nokufowunelwa rhoqo kwiintombi zeentombi, ukuthetha ngexesha elide kunye nabo kwifowuni ngexesha lomhla, i-powdering spout, njl. Ngalolu hlobo, umntu uqala ukuziva engeyomfuneko kwaye engathandekiyo, kwaye ulahlekelwe ngumnqweno wokuqhubeka eyaziwayo.
Ukuziphatha kakuhle xa umntu eyaziwa ngumntu unomdla wokwenene kumntu wakhe kunye nencoko yobubele, ukukhathalela ngokugqithisileyo apha akukho nto: abaninzi abantu bathi ukunyaniseka okwenkcenkceshe kwintombazana kudla ngokubonakala kubo njengento ekhangayo kunye neyokuvusa isondo, nakuba kuyimfuneko.
Nika ingqalelo kwisithuba sakho ngexesha le ncoko - ukuqhelaniswa komzimba womzimba kumnxibelelwano kubonwa njengomdla, kunye nokutshatyalaliswa - njengentlanzi kunye nokubonakalisa ukuphakama. Ibhinqa isoloko ikhangeleka kumlingane xa ehlala kwindawo yokuzola kunye neengalo ezingenagwele kunye nemilenze. Iziphambano zingabonakali uphawu lokwesaba kwaye ziphepha ukuthintana.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, iingcebiso ezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo malunga nendlela yokuziphatha kwabafazi xa udibana nendoda: uzibeke njengowesifazane onothando nothandekayo ukunandipha ubomi (amadoda abathandi abancinci abasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini abasetyhini), zama ukukhangeleka ngokukhawuleza ngokunokwenzeka (intombazana enhle ngokukhawuleza iphakamisa indoda emehlweni akhe), ungabonakali umnqweno ogqithiseleyo wokutshata, ube nabantwana kunye ukulungiselela ubomi bomntu, ungagxininisi ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane bakho, qaphela ukungafinyeleleki (ukuvumela loo mntu ukuba anqobe), jonga unomdla, kodwa ngokufanelekileyo, jonga intetho yakho kunye nokunyaniseka.