Sekude kwaziwa ukuba abafazi bathanda ngeendlebe, kunye namadoda anamehlo. Oku kunjalo ngokwenene. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ilizwi labesifazane libaluleke kakhulu kumbono wesilisa. Indlela yokuthetha kunye nesigxina sezwi kuya kuncedisa umfanekiso wesibini kwintsebenzo yesilisa. Makhe siqwalasele ukuba zeziphi iintlobo zezwi zikhangele ingqalelo kwaye zenze uphulaphule uze uphulaphule, kwaye uluphi uhlobo oluphambene nalo.
Omnye wabalobi, ngomnye wemisebenzi yakhe, waphetha ukuba ilizwi, i-low-tonality, enika igama elibizwa ngokuba yi-velvety voice, lithandeka kwaye litshatileyo. Amadoda aqhuba uhlobo olunjalo lwezwi ekuhlwithweni, kuba njani akunakunceda ukukholiswa kwezwi elipheleleyo lokuzithemba nokuzineliseka. Umnini walolu hlobo, udala umfanekiso ongenakufikeleleka kwaye ungakhuselekanga, obangele imbangela yokwandisa inzala esuka kwicala lesilisa.
Izwi eliphefumlelweyo libalwe kwizwi elimnandi. Olu hlobo lwelizwi luyabakhuthaza abantu, kuba umoya okhoyo kwizwi awuwucacisi umqondiso wokuthi indoda inomdla kuye ngesondo.
Kodwa ilizwi elinemilinganiselo ephakamileyo elibangela ubudlelwane besilisa kunye nentsha, ibhinqa elinesimo esifanayo libonakala lihlambulukile kwaye liphikisana. Kodwa ukuba, ngendlela yomnikazi walelizwi, kuya kuba nomntu onoxanduva kwaye onesibindi, okwazi ukulwa nobudlelwane bawo ukuze athathe indima kayise, ngoko umanyano wabo uya kuba namandla kwaye angonakali.
Kwakhona indima ephindayo kwizwi lelizwi lidlalwa ngokukhawuleza kokunquma. Inyaniso kukuba le ntoni ikhuluma malunga nobukho bamandla kunye nokuqina kwisimo salo mfazi. Loo mfazi ubonakaliswe ngeempawu ezinjengeenkokheli, igunya, ukulawula rhoqo. Njengomthetho, amadoda ayithandi xa umntu ezama ukulawula. Kodwa, enye into, ukuba kwindlela yommeleli wololu hlobo, kuya kuba nomntu ongenakunyanisekileyo, kunye nemfuno kwinkokeli, ngoko ke, baya kuba ne-union edibeneyo.
Umhla wo kuqala
Ukudukisa umntu ngezwi, elibonakaliswa yimpawu zobuntu obuqinileyo, kufuneka ufumane intetho enokulinganiswa noxolo. Ifom efana nezwi iya kukuxelela malunga nendoda enesimo esifanayo esifuna kumfazi. Oku kungakhuselekanga, isidingo sokunyamekela nokugcinwa, umfuno womlamli. Ibhinqa enentetho enjalo inesimo esichaphazelekayo nesingakhuselekanga esingamkhuthazi ngomlomo umntu ukuba amnyamekele aze amnyamekele. Inkulumo enjalo kufuneka ilinganiswe ukuzola. Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa izichazi kunye nokujika okuthelekisayo, ngelixa zonke iintshukumo ezisetyenziswayo ziphantsi kolawulo.
Ukuba kwakukho intlanganiso kunye nomfana osisithambileyo othobelekileyo, kuyimfuneko, ngokuchaseneyo, ukubonisa amandla kunye nokuzithemba ngelizwi lakhe. Intetho ekhutshwe ngohlobo kufuneka ithunyelwe kwaye icaciswe. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko yokuba nomoya. Ukujonga ngexesha lokuthetha kwimiba, kufuneka ihambelane nentetho kuyo yonke into. Imbono kufuneka ibe nethemba kwaye icace.
Unomntu umntu wamaphupha akho uya kukunceda intetho ekhulileyo. Inkulumo "ngaphandle kokuyeka" akunakwenzeka kukunceda. Kubalulekile ukunyamezela ikhefu, kuba kukholwa ukuba umntu uyayibona ingcaciso evezwe emlonyeni womfazi iminyaka engamashumi amabini, yonke into engaphaya komdla, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuhlula intetho yakho. Kwakhona, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba akubalulekanga ukuba bakwazi ukuphulaphula kunokukwazi ukuthetha. Qinisa ingxoxo yakho ngendlela enokuthi indoda leyo inethuba lokubonisa uluvo lwakhe, omele ululaphule kwaye luvavanye. Ukuncoma kumadoda akuze kuphazamise.
Intetho ehlaziyiweyo
Umfazi onokuthula, onokungaqiniseki, kunzima ukukhangela umdla. Enye kwaye ayibalulekanga nto leyo kubangelwa ukungabikho kwentetho echanekileyo. Inkulumo engabonakaliyo kunye engaqinisekiyo iyayicima inzhchin.
Kuyafana nakwabaseTyhini, abathi ngamazwi bavukela ukuba ubuncinane bathanda ukuphulaphula amadoda. Ezi zikhalazo ngobomi babo, iingxaki eziqhubekayo nezingaguqukiyo.
Kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele ukuba intetho enokuzithemba kunye nokunyaniseka kuya kubangela ukuba abantu bacaphuke. Kwaye yonke into yokuba kwiqabane elinesondo eliqinileyo, njengomthetho, lifuna ukuthoba kunye nokuthoba. Kwaye yonke into ihamba ngokuthe ngqo.
Indoda iya kuhlala iqhotyoshelweyo ngonomfazi onobuso obuhle kunye nokuthetha okuthobileyo. Yaye ukuba ukuba kukho konke oku kunayo ilizwi eliphantsi, umfazi onjalo unenhlanhla.