Umtshakazi wanamhlanje unzima kakhulu kwaye ukuziphatha komyeni omhle akukhawulelwanga kwintlalo yebhola. Kodwa, njengangaphambili, umtshakazi, ephosakeleyo ngothando kwaye ephantsi kweempembelelo zokungapheli komkhiqizo, ujonge umthandi ngeqhwa elibomvu lomtshato aze aqonde iimpazamo zomyeni njengempawu zalo. Ukuvavanya ngokucokisekileyo ukuziphatha komyeni kunokwakhe umama kamasipala kuphela. Uyabona intombi yakhe njengengqungquthela yakhe kwaye inqwenela, njengaye, yinto engcono kakhulu nakuyo yonke into. Umtshato wentombi unika umkhwekazi ithuba lokuphila ubomi obunye bentsapho sele sele eqwalasele zonke iimpazamo. Ngoko ke, emva kokumisela imeko yenkwenkwezana ngokuthi "umlingane", uwela phantsi kweliso elilindileyo lokuba umkhwekazi wakhe ozayo ukuba abe yinto efanelekileyo yintombi yakhe kwaye agqoke isiqhelo sokuziqhenya "somfazi opheleleyo", okanye " ".
Ixesha ngaphambi kokuba umtshato lube ngumqhubi wendiza, oya kuphelisa kwintlekele ngenxa yecala lomnye wabaqhubi okanye ngokuphambuka kwe-dispatcher evamile.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umama kamva ubiza umyeni wakhe unina, uya kuqala ukuvavanya isimo sengqondo salo mfana kumtshakazi. Ngokungaqhelekanga kuya kuba ukungabikho komnqweno womyeni ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo zentombazana kwaye kubonakala ngokubonakalayo ukubonakalisa ukukhanga kwakhe. Umyeni ofanelekileyo makangayi kuba ngumsebenzi kuphela kumtshakazi, kodwa nakwabazali bakhe. Uninazala onokuqonda uya kubona ukuba umntu omncinci uthetha intombi yakhe njengomntu ozimeleyo okanye ukuba uya kuphazamisa ubuntu bakhe njengomtyholi kunye nomdaka, mhlawumbi yena uya kuba "phantsi kwesithende somtshakazi." Kumyeni osemgangathweni, bobabili uyise kunye nomntwana kufuneka badibanisane. Indoda kufuneka ibe ilungele ukukhusela "intombazana" yakhe, ukuba ibe yindonga ethembekileyo yamatye kuye, ukukhusela wonke umntu kwiintlungu, kodwa kwanomntu onamandla, njengomntwana, ufuna i-caress nokunyamekela.
Uninazala, njengabo bonke abesifazana, amaphupha okukhumbuza indoda, nangona ukuba uyintombi yakhe, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi umntu akafuni ukwenza oku ngaphantsi kwengcinezelo kwaye uthando kuphela, nokuba luyamthanda uninazala, lunokukhuthaza umntu ukuba abe ngcono, utshintshe iimpawu zakhe , ukuyeka imikhwa emibi. Ukudibanisa kuya kwengeza amaphuzu kungekhona kwamehlo kamamazala.
Kuphela iziganeko zokuziphatha komyeni olungileyo kuya kuba nesimo sakhe sengqondo sokuxhaswa ngemali kunye nobubele bakhe. Nangona ukuphikisana komnye, umyeni ofanelekileyo kufuneka akwazi ukulawula imali engenayo kunye neendleko zakhe, kodwa ngezikhathi ezithile unokukwazi ukulahlekelwa imali. Ukuba, umyeni uphenduka ube ngumntu onzima, ngoko ulwalamano lwakhe luya kuba lomelele kwaye lube lukhuni, kwimeko yokungabikho kwemali kunye nokuchithwa okungekho sikweni, umyeni uba ngumntu omoya kunye nokunyaniseka. Kuba umkhwekazi, njengomtshakazi, intetho yegolide ibalulekile.
Imvakalelo enomntu womntu, ithemba lakhe elijongene neengxaki, isimo sengqondo esiluncedo ebomini sisisitshixo sokuphumelela kwishishini kunye nobudlelwane obude kunye nomfazi othandekayo. Ukuba kunye nokuhlala uhlala ethembekileyo ngumgangatho obalulekileyo kumntu, ingakumbi kumntu othi "ungumyeni ococekileyo". Ukongezelela, loo myeni, nangona zonke iifolthi ezikhoyo, ubudlelwane nonina abuyi kuba nzima kwaye bude.
Umlingane onokuthi uyintombi kufuneka abe nomfanekiso ocacileyo wekamva. Amazwi akhe akufanele ahluke kunye nalo mbandela. Umyeni olungeleyo akayi kunika izithembiso zokukhawuleza, kwaye izimvo zakhe zisekelwe kuphela kwizinto ezingobomi. Umama-mkhwenkwe, ukuziphatha komyeni kufuneka uthethe ngokuqinisekileyo oko akufunayo ebomini, ukuba unesicwangciso sosuku, ngeveki, unyaka kunye nayo yonke iminyaka ezayo. Izicwangciso zokuphuhliswa kwabathethi besikhathi esizayo mazibe kwicala elinye, kwaye zingabi zihambelane.
Ukuba ngumyeni ococekileyo emehlweni omama-mkhwenkwe ngokuqinisekileyo awuyiyona nto ephambili, abantu abanjalo abanakukwazi ukukhokelela kwimvelo, kwaye abaphathi abanjalo abanako ukusetyenziswa kwifama, kodwa nangona emva kokuhamba nomfazi omncinane kwelinye isiphelo sehlabathi, khumbula ukuba i-imeyile kunye nomnxeba we-mother- Intanethi, akukho mntu ukhansekile, umkhwekazi uya kuhlala enxibelelana.