Amadoda ... ezi zidalwa ezintle! Kubonakala ngathi sonke sivela kwiplanethi efanayo, kunye nabantu ngabanye bohlobo (uhlobo), kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi bahluke ngokupheleleyo. Kwakungekho malunga nesondo: eziprayimari okanye ezisekondari. Kuthetha ngeengcinga, izenzo, iiminqweno. Into ebonakala iyimangalisa kubasetyhini, ngamanye amaxesha angenakwenzeka, into emangalisayo, engaqondakaliyo, kuba amadoda aqhelekileyo kwaye aqhelekileyo. Ngenxa yintoni eyenzekayo? Kutheni sihluke kakhulu kwimbonakalo yethu?
Hayi, njengoko sifuna, mhlawumbi, abafazi, ubuncinane bafunde iingcamango zabantu, baveze oko bacinga, oko bafuna ngokwenene entliziyweni. Mhlawumbi, ufunde olu lwazi kubasetyhini, oku kuya kucacisa ngokubanzi ubudlelwane obungasondelanga besini. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ngokuchasene noko, kuya kwenza amadoda angabonakali nakakhulu kubo. Kodwa, ekubeni kungenakwenzeka ngokwenene ukungena kwingqondo yabani na, kuya kubakho ukubonakalisa encinci.
Yintoni umntu ayifunayo ngokwenene? Yintoni abayiphuphayo? Ucinga ukuba ungumhlobo onjani kunye nobomi bakho? Kuzo zonke nezinye izinto ezininzi kufuneka sijongane nawe.
Ndifuna nje ukubalumkisa abanye abantu phantsi: oku akusiyo inzame yokuhlambalaza amadoda ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga ngesimo sabo sesondo, ngumnqweno wokuncedisa abafazi ubuncinci ukuba baqonde iinjongo zethu kunye neminqweno.
Ngoko, masiqale ngokulandelelana.
1. Njengoko siyazi, bonke abantu baneemfuno zesigaba sokuqala (ukutya, ukulala, ukuqhubeka kwentsapho) kunye neemfuno zesigaba sesibini (ukuziqonda, uthando, ubuhlobo). Amadoda avela kulo mgaqo ayenzi okwehlukile, kwaye okokuqala okokuqala ukuba ubukho obuqhelekileyo, amadoda ayadinga ukutya, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isandi sivakala njani. Xa umntu ebuyela ekhaya evela emsebenzini ekhathele kwaye elambileyo, into kuphela apho zonke iingcamango zakhe zihla phantsi ngumhlwa wokutya othakazelisayo. Kwaye kungcono ukubonelela ngomntu othandekayo, kuba ukuba iimfuno zesigaba sokuqala ziyaneliseka, ungaqhubeka nokufezekiswa kweyesibini, kwaye kukho imvakalelo yomntu kuwe iya kusetyenziswa ngokupheleleyo.
2. Amadoda ngohlobo lwawo ngabamagagasi abangunaphakade, ababenzi-ntliziyo, i-getters. Bafumana imali, bathathe uxanduva lokuxazulula imiba enzima, ukulawula imeko kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi. Ubomi babo buhamba ngesigqi esinomsindo. Kodwa, naphezu kwayo yonke into ebonakalayo ebonakalayo, bafuna ukuba babe nekhaya apho bangahlala bebuya khona, kwaye baya kuhlala bahlala khona. Endlwini yakhe, indoda ifuna ukubalekela kwihlabathi lehlabathi kwaye iyanandipha uxolo lobomi bentsapho. Yingakho isibalo sabantu beseplanethi sibaxabisa abafazi abakwaziyo ukugcina umoya ococekileyo endlwini.
3. Omnye umnqweno oyintloko, nangona kunjalo abafazi bayaziqonda, unomnqweno wokushiya umkhondo emva. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba bafana kangakanani na abafana, bafuna (nangona bengayifumani le nto kwi-akhawunti yabo kude kube yiminyaka ethile) yokuba banabantwana. Kwaye, bekuyi-WILL, umba wemfundo awufanelekanga.
4. Ukuze babe nabantwana, kufuneka baqale ngandlela-thile, ngoko enye iminqweno esemqoka-imvelo yamadoda iyimfuneko yokwabelana ngesondo (kwimeko yabasetyhini le nto ibonakala ibona yodwa). Yaye iyimfuneko imfama, i-biological. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuyimfuneko kumntu, njengomoya, amanzi okanye ukutya. Ukuba indoda ingazange ilalane ixesha elide, iyaba nomsindo, inomsindo, inobundlobongela, ngoko kungcono ukuba akukho nqongophala.
5. Indoda ngumntu oqhelekileyo ongeyena mntu uhlala kuyo. Yena, kunye nomfazi, ufuna ukulinganisa indima yakhe kweli hlabathi, i E. ufuna ukubonakala enamandla kwaye emangalisayo. Ngokwenene, abantu besilisa bazama ukulandelelana nomfanekiso wabo ngokukhula kwemisipha. Abanye bahlala kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo zomzabalazo. Konke oku kuvela kwiminqweno yokuzimela.
6. Ukususela kumandulo, ngokucacileyo ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, umzabalazo womzabalazo wabekwa kulo mntu. Ekuqaleni kwakuwumzabalazo kwintsimi, ngoko kumfazi, kamva ngamandla kunye nokunye. Kwiifom ezincinci, oku kubonakala kwizinto eziqhelekileyo zokulwa, kwizicwangciso ezinkulu kunye nezicwangciso kunye nezigqibo eziyinkimbinkimbi. Kodwa intsingiselo yale nto ayitshintshi: umnqweno wokulwa, ngokuqhelekileyo ngoncedo lobundlobongela.
7. Ukulwa, kunjalo, kulungile, njengenkqubo, kodwa umphumo ubalulekile kumntu. Kufuneka akhuphe kuyo nayiphi na umzabalazo njengomqoqo, uzive njengeqhawe, umsindisi wemiphefumlo kunye neenjongo. Ngako oko, ngokuqhelekileyo makuthande umthandi wakho njengomhlanguli wakho kuzo zonke iintlobo zeengxaki kunye neengxaki. Uya kuziziva ekwazi ukuguqula iintaba, kwaye ukuba nomntu onjalo kufuphi nawe kuya kuba mnandi ngokwenene, bafazi.
8. Inqaku elihlukile ndifuna ukuqaphela umnqweno womntu ukugqithisa ingqondo yowesifazane. Yingakho umntu obathandayo ehlala enesidingo sokuqonda iteknoloji ephambili, ukuqhubeka kunye nenkqubela, ukuba akwazi ukuqonda kuphela into emnandi, kodwa ukuchazela ... kumfazi.
9. Olunye ubuthakathaka obuncinci bamadoda ngumnqweno, ngeendlela zonke, ukuchaphazela ikhosi yeziganeko, ukuba kube yinto ebalulekileyo yeenguqu ezahlukeneyo. Naluphi na: usapho, uthando, abasebenzi, ezopolitiko kunye ... nakwimbali. Wonke umntu uziva njengento encinane, kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu kwindalo enkulu. Ngoko baziva indima yabo ebalulekileyo kuyo yonke into.
10. Ukuba kuluntu okanye ngaphezu koluntu. Kuba bendoda, umba wobunkokeli unzima ukusuka ebuntwaneni. Ukuba le nkwenkwe ayamkelekanga ngontanga yakhe, makungacingi nje ukubacaphukisa ngabo, akanakunelungelo elingenammiselo. Ebudeni babo bafuna ukuba ngumphefumlo wenkampani, ebusheni - umphathi, kunye nokunjalo kwi-ad infinitum. Bambalwa kubo bayazi oku, kodwa oko kubalulekile ukuguquka. Ukuba umntu unomntu onjengaye, uyaziva ukuba yinxalenye yoluntu, kwaye oku kumxelela ukuba kwiminqweno yakhe akayedwa.
11. Imfuno yothando lomfazi, isisa, ukunakekela. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba isilwanyana esingabonakala sinobukeka njani, ngaphakathi kungumfana omncinci ofuna ukukhwela kwibele yowesifazane kwaye azive efanelekileyo kwaye uyathandwa. Amadoda nakwabesetyhini badinga i-caress nokunyamekela. Ngaphandle koko, baya kubuya ntoni emva kweemfazwe zabo eziphazamisayo ezingunaphakade kunye nehlabathi elingenamsebenzi?
12. Ukuthetha ngothando lwabesetyhini / umama, umntu akanakukunyanzela igunya likayise. Le nkwenkwe kufuneka ivela ebuntwaneni ibone phambi kwayo inamandla yesoba, isikhundla sayo esiqinileyo, ukulungelelanisa, ukwenzela ukuba ucinge ukuba yintoni indoda eyinyani kufuneka ibe, ukulingana nayo, ukuzama ukulungelelanisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubukho bamandla kubaluleke kakhulu kumntu, nangona oku kudlalwa yinto encinane.
13. Njengoko ebomini kwanoma yimuphi umntu, ukuphila kakuhle kwemali kubaluleke kakhulu kumntu. Yaye kungekhona ngokwemigangatho yobuncinane, kodwa ngakumbi, bhetele. Oku kuqondakalayo, kuba ukuba umntu unemali enhle, azifumana yona, uzijonga njengomntu ophethwe ngokupheleleyo.
14. Umnqweno wokwenza i-adventure ungomnye weminqweno yamadoda. Akunandaba nokuba yiyiphi indlela yokuzonwabisa - wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe malunga nale nto, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukudlala igazi, ukuphazamisa i-adrenaline.
15. Ngokusekelwe kwiminqweno yangaphambilini, umntu unokuphinda aphumelele umnqweno wokutshintsha, ukufumana izinto kunye nezinye iziganeko ezifanayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngelitye, abaphazamisi ngendlela eqhelekileyo yobomi.
Ngama-Middle Ages, ii-knights zinesidingo sokukhonza indawo ephezulu. Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, le nzekayo iyenzeka kwakhona. Umntu ngamnye unomnqophiso othile ophezulu, apho aphelisa khona ngameva ebomi.
17. Naphezu kweengcamango eziphakamileyo kunye nomzabalazo ongunaphakade, ngamanye amaxesha umntu ufuna ubomi obuzolileyo, obunzima: ukuze kungabikho iingxaki eziphazamisayo, akukho nto ixhalabisa ukuze umntu aphile njengeparadesi ngaphandle kokusebenzisa imizamo ekhethekileyo.
18. Ukuthetha ngobomi obungenasiphako, unokongeza ukuba wonke umntu amaphupha omshini we-chic. Chic - ekuqondeni kwakhe, kunjalo. Ukululela kuyo i-expanses yendalo yonke kwaye ngokukrakra ukuguqula abaphikisanayo, ukubethela ikhwelo: "Wow, yintoni imoto enqabileyo, inhlanhla kuba umntu!"
19. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, okugqibela kwoluhlu, kodwa kungeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu-ngumnqweno wokuthandwa! Amadoda, angaphantsi kwabesetyhini, afuna ukuthandwa, ukuba alindelwe kwaye adingekayo. Yaye ngubani na, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngabafazi, banokubanceda njani ekuzalisekeni komnqweno wabo oyintloko?