Xa "indoda" ebudlelwaneni yintombazana

Kwakubhalwe amanqaku amaninzi ngesihloko esithi: "I-Podkabluchniki." Ubuncinane inani lempapasho apho imeko kunye nokulawulwa kwabasetyhini kubudlelwane bachazwe njengengxaki. Kwaye sizame ukujonga yonke into ukusuka kwinqanaba elihluke ngokupheleleyo: ukuba le nto ayinayo ingxaki, abantu babini kuphela banelisekile kwimeko yeemeko.


Ibhinqa alilona lucala

Ngoko ke kuluntu lwethu ukuba impawu zesondo zenziwa ngokwahlukileyo kwaye zibuthathaka. Le ngqungquthela ibinzulu kakhulu kwiingqondo zethu ukuba nayiphi na ukuphambuka kokuziphatha "okuqhelekileyo" kubonakala kungenanto. Kodwa ngaba kukho nawuphi na umqulu ekufuneka siphile ngawo? Kutheni kufuneka ukuba lwethu ulonwabo luxhomekeke kwiyiphi na abantu, abaphambuke ngokupheleleyo kuthi, bacinga ukuba kuchanekile.

Ibhinqa le-21 leminyaka lidalwa ngokukhululeka. Akayidingi imfesane okanye idibanise. I-Onasama inokunika ingxaki kumntu. Bonke abantombazana bafuna ukukhululeka kunye nokuzimelela, ngexesha elinye bavakalisa ukuba "abayinyani" abantu bafile. Ewe, amaxesha e-Hussars sele adlulile, kodwa namhlanje umntu unokufumana "umntu" wakhe. Masijongane nalo, asikho abafazi be-muslin. Kwimibuzo yethu ayikwazi ukuhambelana nayo yonke into, kwaye eqinisweni kubo kuthi nabo kukho imibuzo.

Indoda kufuneka ibe nentonga! Owu, ndixolele ngenxa yobuncwane, kodwa umntu kufuneka abe nentonga kuphela. Kwaye konke okunye-kuluhlu olusondeleyo. Ufuna umntu wakho abe mnene kwaye athobe, ukuba kufuneka azinikeze ixesha lakhe kuwe kwaye "azinyathele" kubahlobo. Kodwa zeziphi iimpawu ezibonakalayo, ezibizwa ngokuba, intonga? Akukho bantu abafanelekileyo. Sonke - isethi sepros and cons, kufuneka ubeke i-skotory.

Namhlanje, bambalwa abantu babonwa njengababuthathaka nabangenakukhuseleka, ngoko kutheni abafazi bebathatyathwa njengabantu? Njengoko ubujonge "... kunye nehashe kwindawo yokuma iya kumisa, kwaye indlu yokutshisa iya kungena ..." loo mntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba phambi kwakhe ngumsindisi okhuselekileyo kunye nosengozini? Abasetyhini banesisusa - abo bantu basenza. Amanga, ubuxoki, ubuxoki! Abazali bethu benza oku kuthi (kwaye babonge ngabo ngenxa yoko), bebekulungele ubomi bomdala, basinika imithwalo yolwazi nezakhono ezisinceda siphila kweli hlabathi. Baye basifundisa ukuba siphikelele kwaye sinamandla, sincike kulobu bomi kuphela. Ngoko oku kusengumbuzo omkhulu, ngubani na obuthathaka apha apha.

Wena - "oqinileyo", mna - "obuthathaka"

Ewe, oku akusiyo amandla aseburhulumenteni. Umfazi onqabileyo kwaye oqinileyo uhlala efuna ukuthobela umyeni wakhe. Kunokwenzeka ukuxoxa ixesha elide ukuba yintoni isizathu: nokuba ngumntu ongenakubekezelela, okanye ukwesaba ukutshatyalaliswa kunye neqabane eliqinileyo. Umgca wokugqibela kukuba ukhetho lomviwa obuthakathaka ukuphumeza isigxina sakhe sesibini lunokuvuyisa umfazi.

Ewe, kule meko, kuya kufuneka batshintshe indawo: iya kuba ngumnikezeli, kwaye uya kuba ngumgcini wendawo. Kodwa ngubani othe oku kubi? Sithetha nge-gigolo, ephazamisa ngeendleko zamantombazana amahle, sithetha ngesibini apho umfazi efumana ngaphezulu kwaye uthatha isikhundla esiphakeme kunomntu.

Khumbula umfanekiso weSoviet "Office Romance." Nanku kuwe umzekelo obalaseleyo wendlela ubuhlobo phakathi komfazi weshishini kunye nomsebenzi osemgangathweni oqhelekileyo ongazivula. Kwaye oku akukwenzeka kuphela kuma-movie.

Ibhinqa eliphumelele kakhulu ebomini lifuna ukuba ikhaya lakhe lilinde umntu oya kumthanda, ukuxabisa nokuxabisa. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo le nxaxheba ibhetele kakhulu yenziwe ngumntu othe tye-onobubele kunye nohle-"ophakathi", kwaye akayena omehlo okanye umntu oshishino ophumelelayo. Okugqibela, naporiviv, ukhethe abesifazana, ababethekisayo ukuba baphumelele kwaye baphumelele, kodwa unokumangalisa ngokwenene le ntokazi.

Nwabile kunye

Ndikholelwe, indoda esecaleni kwowesifazane oqinileyo nayo inzima. Nantoni na into ongayithethayo, imvelo ithatha inkambo yayo, kwaye ukuqonda ukuba umntu ufuna ukuba ngumngcipheko emehlweni abo bahlobo, abamelwane kunye nezihlobo akumniki uxolo. Kodwa umntu onjalo, uluvo lwalo mfazi lubaluleke kakhulu. Unentsingiselo yobomi, yidwala lakhe, emva kwakhe apho ekhululekile kwaye ezolile. Akudingeki ukuba athathe uxanduva lokwenza izigqibo ezinzulu, kuba igama lokugqibela lihlala lilo mfazi.

Kuthiwani ngomfazi? Kuye, yonke into iyacaca kakhulu. Ngenxa yesimo sakhe, sele esenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo, imiyalelo kunye nemithetho. Akanomdla ebomini, kwaye mhlawumbi kanye kanye. Kodwa unokuhlala encike kulo mbandela kumntu wakhe. Kwaye baninzi bethu banokuziqhayisa ngale nto?

Ukuzisa umgca

Akunakutsholwa ukuba kukho abaninzi abantu abasetyhini abanokuma phambi kwerg-man (akukho senzo kwisini esinobuqili). Vumela aba bafazi bambalwa kakhulu, kodwa bafana bonke kwaye banelungelo lonwabo. Ukuba banelisekile ngobomi obunjalo, ukuba bangaxhalabeleki kunye ne "nedomuzhchinami" yabo, ngoko sinokumona. Kwaye akukho nto yokunyuka kobudlelwane babo kunye neengcebiso "ukuphosa", "ufanelwe ngaphezulu", "uzakufumana ngcono". Mhlawumbi into ebhetele ebomini bakhe. Lonwabo kubo!