Ngokomzekelo, ingaba isipho. Wena ngokwenene uyazi, ukuba uyakuthanda kunye noko umfana wakho ephuphayo. Akuyimfuneko ukuba le nto iyabiza kakhulu. Into ephambili kukuba kufuneka ibe yinqwenelekayo. Iqhumiso elithandayo, i-edition ekhethekileyo, isiqhekeza esibushushu kunye negama lakhe liyingxenye encinci yento onokuyenza. Zama ukuthatha uhlobo oluthile lwenkohlakalo, oya kuba nolonwabo ngokusemntwaneni. Mnike kwaye uthi nje: Ndiphosakele, ndixolise, ndikuthanda ngokwenene. Ukuba uyayithanda, ngoko uya kwamkela kwaye akuqonde, ukuguquka kwakho.
Ukuba unetalente, ungambhalela ivesi, uvakalise zonke iimvakalelo, kwaye ubeke iingcamango zakho uxolo. Bonke abantu baxabisa izipho ezenziwe ngezandla zabo. Kungaba nayiphi na into, into eyona nto kukuba ithwala ngokwakho imvakalelo yakho, uthando lwakho. Ungakwazi nje ukubhala incwadi enhle ngesandla uze uyithumele kuye ngomntu. Kodwa akufanele kubonakale ngathi kukhwankqisayo ukujonga emehlweni akhe. Zama ukubetha yonke into ukuze ibonakale yothando. Abantu ngokwenene banothando, nangona bengabonakali njalo, ngoko ke kuya kuba mnandi u-100 ukubona umsebenzi onjalo kwimpumelelo yakho.
Olunye ulungelelaniso, kodwa indlela ephumelelayo yidlo yokuthanda. Sekunjalo, akuyikho nto abayithethayo ukuba indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ilele esiswini. Lungisa yonke into enomdla kunye nentandazana yintombazana yakho, ugqoke ngokufanelekileyo kwaye umxelele ngeemvakalelo zakho, malunga nendlela oyibuhlungu ngayo. Ukuba intliziyo yakhe iyancibilika, ngoko ngokuhlwa kuya kuba yintando yothando. Xa ulala embhedeni, unokuvumela into ayithandayo kakhulu, kodwa uyayisombulula kakhulu. Makuvuyiswe ukuba awuhambisani nemigaqo yakho. Sekunjalo, ukuba uxolelwe, musa ukuhlaziswa kwaye udlwengule ubuntu bakho.
Ukuba ukuxabana kwakho kungenxa yokuziphatha kwakho, isimo sengqondo kunye nesimo sengqondo ebomini kwaye uthi ufuna ukutshintsha, ucinge ukuba ngaba ulungile. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abantu baqale ukutshintsha nokuphula umntu "phantsi kwabo." Ngokuqhelekileyo, bayayenza ngeenjongo ezilungileyo, bangaqapheli ukuba bayonakalisa umntu kwaye xa batshintsha, baya kuqonda ukuba kuyinyaniso, kwaye kunzima ukuthanda inkohliso. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyazi ukuba yonke into iyafana nale, cinga malunga nokuba ucele ukuxolelwa ngokubanzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyamthanda kakhulu, kodwa uyakuthanda ukuba akayi kwamkela. Mhlawumbi kuloo meko kungcono ukushiya, kuba ukulwa okunjalo kubangela intlungu kwaye ihlala isonakalisa ubudlelwane.
Ukuba uqonda ukuba ulungile, zigqiba isigqibo sokuba uya kutshintsha. Unganikeli izithembiso ezingenanto, kuba ziya kubakho ukuxabana nokungaqondani. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akufanele ukhulume kakhulu, zingqina ngezenzo zakho. Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba awunayo injongo ekujoliswe kuyo kwaye awuzuzi nantoni na ebomini, qalisa ubuncinane into oyenzayo. Makuqonde ukuba oku kubalulekile kuwe, kwaye ufuna ukutshintsha yonke into. Kodwa khumbula nje ukuba konke oku kungenjalo kuye kuphela, kodwa kuwe. Kwinqanaba elingakumbi kum. Emva koko, akafuni ukuba wenze njengebhobhothi, ngaphandle kokucinga, ukwenza konke akutshoyo. Injongo yenkwenkwana yakho kukuchazela ukuba uyiphutha, kwaye uncedise ukwenza ngcono impilo yakhe, kodwa eyakho. Ukuba ubona ukuba ufezekisa nje imisebenzi yakhe ngaphandle kokuzama ukuqonda nokuqonda - ixakeke kakhulu kwaye ididekile. Umntu onothando akaze avumele ukuba aphulwe ngumntu kwaye olu hlobo lokuziphatha luya kubangela ukuxabana okungakumbi. Ngoko uzama ukukwenza ukuze aqonde ukuba uzama, ngokuzithoba kwaye ngokuzithemba uye kwiinjongo, kwaye amazwi akhe akuyiyo izandi ezingenanto, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, sele yinto ebalulekileyo, kubalulekile njengoko ebomini bakho .
Indlela yokucela ukuxolelwa kumfana othandekayo? Mhlawumbi, kangangokuthi wayekholelwa ukuba uyabuhlungu ngokwenene kwaye wenzakalisa ukuba uyamlimaza, uyalimaza, wonakalisa indlela yokuziva, mhlawumbi uhlazeke. Ngethuba lokuxabana ngamanye amaxesha sithetha izinto ezinzima kwaye zingathandeki ukubamba nokubamba. Ngaloo ndlela kuphela, xa umsindo uxhaswa, kuza ukuqonda ukuba izenzo zethu zibuhlungu kakhulu kwaye kwindlela yazo ithetha. Inyani kukuba abantu abasondelene nabo banobuhlungu kunabo bonke. Oku akumangalisi, kuba bayazi zonke iimfihlelo, zonke iingxaki kunye noloyiko. Nguye onokuthi into enokuthi iqhutywe entliziyweni ayikho into ebhetele ngaphezu kwesandla esibukhali. Ukuthetha ilizwi elibuhlungu, ukubonisa iimpazamo umntu azizondayo kulula kakhulu kwaye zilula. Intukuthelo kuthi kuthi isenza ukuba senze oku ngobugcisa obukhethekileyo kunye nokuzonwabisa. Sibonakala sikhohlwa ukuba abantu abathandekayo bayabandezeleka kule nto kwaye banenkxalabo. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uhlale uzama ukuzikhusela, nokuba ufuna ukucaphukisa nokukhubekisa. Ungakulibali ukuba ukugquma kwengqumbo kuya kudlulayo, kodwa i-sediment esuka kumazwi anjalo aya kuhlala ixesha elide. Kwaye nangona xa umntu exolela wena, sele sele ekhulile entloko yakhe ukuba awukwazi ukuthenjwa, kuba uya kuwugubungela. Kungoko, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukucela ukuxolelwa, akukho zipho okanye imibongo encedayo. Kungokuthi kwiimeko ezinjalo sithetha ngokuqinisekileyo, singakhange siphawule kwaye singafuni, ngokwenene, ukulimaza. Kwaye ukuze sikhululwe, kufuneka sithembeke kwakhona. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka kusetshenziswe ngaphezu kweveki enye, ukwenzela ukuba loo mntu aphinde aphinde aphinde abuye ahambe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abanothando basoloko bebaxolela, kodwa ezintliziyweni zabo zihlala zibuhlungu. Ngoko zama ukungalokothi ukhulume ngamazwi okukhawuleza, ngoko ungafuni ukuxolelwa kumntu othandayo, kwaye ukuba kwenzeka ntoni - yenza izigqibo uze ungaphindi iimpazamo, ngenxa yoko unokulahlekelwa yintando yakho yangempela.