Ude usondelele ixesha elide okanye uhlala ndawonye ixesha elide, kwaye isikhulu sakho ngehashe elimhlophe ngesizathu esithile asinakugqiba ukukwenza isithembiso sesandla kunye nentliziyo. Masibone-kutheni le ndoda yatshintsha ingqondo yakhe ngokutshata?
Wonke umntu ngowokuqala kwaye ngowona wesilisa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba thina, thina besifazane, sasingakuvuyela ukuva oku, kodwa abantu, ngokwemvelo yabo, isithembu. Emva kokuzibopha ngomtshato, umntu uyamoyika ukulahlekelwa yintlelelo enqabileyo, ukuba umoya ophefumlelweyo womoya, ukuba intambo yomnwe uya kumvimba bonke ukungena kwe-oxygen. Zama ukuthetha nomntu okhethiweyo, cacisa ukuba umtshato awukho inkokhelo, luhlobo lwensebenziswano ngenjongo yentsapho kunye nemfundo efanelekileyo yabantwana besikhathi esizayo. Umtshato kukuncedana, ukuxhasa, ukuvisisana nokuqonda, kodwa nomsebenzi ofuna imizamo engaqhelekanga.
Kwakhona, indoda ingaqinisekanga ngawe. Mhlawumbi kwakukho izizathu zokungathembeki. Okwesabayo, ngokukhawuleza wena ngomzuzu wokugqibela, ekunikezela ukuba utshatile, nawe uya kutshintsha ingqondo yakho kwaye akafuni ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yakho, ubalekele kuyo ukuya kwinkululeko.
Thetha ngakumbi kwaye uxoxe nomntu ubuhlobo bakho. Mnike esinye isizathu sokukuthemba.
Kodwa uThixo akakwenqabe ukuba ubeke imvo yakhe yomtshato kwisidlo sasekuseni, isidlo sasemini nesidlo sakusihlwa! Ukunyamezela kwimeko enokubaluleka yamadoda ayimfuneko. Uya kubaleka nje kuwe xa uthembela kuye ngokubambelela kwenkomo yenkomo, kwaye uya kumhudulela kwiofisi yokurejista efuphi.
Enye imbangela ebalulekileyo yengxaki ingaba yimpikiswano yeembono, ezikhokelela emva kokungavumelani nokulwa phakathi kwakho. Akukho mtshato ohambelanayo. Okokuqala kufuneka ulungise ukungaqondani konke okukhoyo.
Zama ukwabelana ngeminqweno yomntu wakho. Ngoko uya kuba sisondele kuye. Uya kuchitha ixesha elide kunye kunye, kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba unesondele kangakanani kwaye uyimfuneko kuye. Akayi kufuna ukulahlekelwa nguwe kwaye uya kucinga ngendlela yokukubopha ngonaphakade ngeembophe zomtshato.
Mhlawumbi ngoku ungumhlobo wakhe, kwaye ukwenzela ukuba wenze isibonelelo afuna ixesha lokugaya, ukukuqonda kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi. Kwaye kukuhle kunokuba kubi. Oku kuthetha ukuba okhethiweyo wakho uthatha umfazi wakho ukhethe kakhulu kwaye ukuba wenza i-offer, kuya kuba yinto engaphezu kwengqiqo kwaye uyaqonda kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kukushiya kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala zomtshato.
Ngokukhawuleza okanye ekuhambeni kwakho ukunganeliseki kunye nobomi, ubomi kunye nomlingane uza kukuguqulela ube ngumfazi-"ubonayo". Oku akuyi kugcina indoda yakho kunye nawe kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi kumzisa iingcinga zomtshato. Zama ukutshintsha ngendlela efanelekileyo. Khangela izibonelelo zakho kuyo yonke into. Oku kuya kwenza ubomi kube lula kuwe kunye nekamva lakho (masithembele) kumyeni wakho.
Enye ingongoma ebalulekileyo ingakho ukugqithisa ngokweqile kohlahlo lwabiwo-mali. Ukugqithisa imali. Le ndoda isele ifuna inkosikazi kunye nomgcini wentsapho.
Okhe ukhethiweyo wakho unzima kangangokuthi ucinga ukuba umtshato uyinkunkuma yemali. Cinga, ngaba ufuna iPlushkin enjalo ubomi? Kwaye ngokubanzi, mhlawumbi akafuni ukuyichitha imali ethembekileyo kuwe kunye nentsapho, kungekhona kuye.
Kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo somntu ukugqiba umtshato osemthethweni kunye nawe unokuba nempembelelo kunye namava amaninzi ngaphambili. Mhlawumbi umfazi wakhe wangaphambili wamngcatsha, wamshiya okanye akazange amhlonele, njengentloko yentsapho. Ngoku ke uyaxhala ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuphindaphinda intlungu ayenayo ngaphambili kwaye akafuni ukuva kwakhona nawe. Imibuzo enonophelo uzama ukufunda ngobomi bakhe obudlulileyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyamqinisekisa ukuba uya kuba nenkxaso yakhe eqinile, ungamshiyi kwaye uxhase ngobabini novuyo.
Mhlawumbi usele utshatile, unomntwana kwaye umntu akafuni ukuvelisa isiqhamo saloo ndoda ngaphambili kunye nomyeni wakho wangaphambili. Kule meko kungcono ukutyelela isifo sengqondo seentsapho ndawonye.
Isizathu sokugatya umtshato sinokuba ngabazali bakhe kunye nokukhuliswa kwakhe kwintsapho engonwabileyo emtshatweni. Kufanelekile ukuchaza ukuba yonke imitshato ayiyiyo. Abanye abantu banomsebenzi omangalisayo wokuphila ngokuvuyisa ubomi babo bonke, ukunika abantwana babo uthando nokuba bahambe epakini ngepeni ekudala.
Khangela ubuhlobo bakho nomama kunye nezihlobo zakhe. Mhlawumbi awuthandi? Mhlawumbi umntu uphenjelelwa nguye kwaye ukhokelwa nguye ekwenzeni izigqibo ngomtshato. Kwimeko enjalo, ukuba usasafuna ukuba kunye nokhethiweyo wakho, uya kuthi, awuyi ku funeka uqinise ubudlelwane obufudumele nentsapho yakhe.
Ukuba uye wahlala ndawonye ixesha elide, ngoko indoda sele iyancipha. Awusoze ubaleke kuyo naphi na. Kutheni uzixhalabele kwaye ushade? Ngoko ke konke kulungile! Kule meko, unokwakheka iimbilini zakho. Yiya kubahlobo bakho kwi-cinema, kwi-cafe kwengubo entsha uze uqiniseke ukuba ubuya ekuhambeni ngeentyatyambo. Umyeni wakho wekamva ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kushiya le nyaniso ngaphandle kokuqwalasela kwaye uya kucinga nzima malunga nezenzo ezingaphezulu.
Isizathu sisimo sakhe esivela kwintlanzi enhle, ekhupha inye apho ayenokuthandana khona, uya kuba ngumfazi ogqabileyo, onamafutha, egqoke isambatho egqobileyo, ene-pin edibeneyo embulisayo yonke imihla emini emva komsebenzi. Le meko i-anecdotal, kodwa amadoda amaninzi ayesaba ukuguqulwa kwamabhinqa.
Ukungahambelani komzimba okanye ukwehla okubukhali kwimisebenzi yesondo, naye, akukhuthazi umntu ukuba anikezele ukuhamba nawe phantsi kwesithsaba. Kukho isidingo sokwenza okusebenzayo kwinqanaba lakho. Mhlawumbi, izicumbiso, ingubo entsha kunye neengubo zangaphantsi ezithandwayo aziyi kuba yinto engaphaya kwinqwelo yakho?
Ukuba akukho nanye ingxaki apha ngasentla ixazulula ingxaki kwaye awuyazi ukuba kutheni umntu utshintshile ingqondo yakhe ukutshata nawe, ngoko siyakuvuyisana! Unomntu ofanayo owaziwayo kwindalo njengokuba "u-bachelor convinced"! Kukho uluhlu lwamadoda angatshatanga mntu kwaye akalokothi athathe. Akunamsebenzi ukubanyanzelisa ukuba batshade nawe. Nangona uphumelele, kwaye uya kukumema ukuba uhambe kwi-ofisi yokubhalisa yesithili, ngoko loo ndoda, i-alas, ayiyi kumthanda umfazi okanye abantwana.
Zikhathalele! Inhlanhla kunye nempumelelo kuwe ebomini bakho!