Ngaba kuyimfuneko ukunyanzela inkwenkwe kwimeko echanekileyo okanye ingumngceli wakhe okhethekileyo, ukuba akayithobeli imigaqo yakhe, iya kuba yindoda eninzi. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, indlela yokuziphatha ukuze ungadumisi?
Zama ukungenzi ngakumbi
Amantombazana amaninzi acinga ukuba umntu olungileyo akafanelekanga kuluntu. Ngoko ke, baqala ukumxelela ukuba ukusela kwakhe utywala, ugwayi kunye nokunye akuqhelekanga, kuba umntu ngamnye kufuneka abe nomkhuba omubi. Enyanisweni, izicelo ezinjalo ziyiziphukuphuku kwaye ziyingane. Umntu ofanelekileyo akakwazi ukubonakala kwi-15 ubudala, xa abafana beqala ukukhula nokuphuhlisa igunya labo ngeendlela ezingalunganga. Kule minyaka, aba bantu baqiqa kwaye baqonda ukuba imikhwa emibi kunye nehlazo ayikho izibonakaliso zamandla nobunkokeli. Ngoko ke, kwiinkampani eziqhelekileyo, umntu ochanekileyo uya kunyangwa ngokungenani ngokuqonda, kwaye nangenhlonipho. Ukuba bakho abahlobo kunye nabahlobo bakho abazange baphume kwixesha leengqondo zentsholongwane, ngoko ingxaki ayisekho kumntu, kodwa kuzo. Ngoko ke, akufanele uzame ukwenza umntu abe njengomntu wakho. Inyaniso yokuba ulungile kakhulu ayiyikuyenza ibe yimbi ngakumbi kwaye iyinkohlakalo, nangona kunjalo.
Mhlawumbi into ekhethekileyo kule meko ingaba yimeko xa loo nto ingelula, ilungile, ikhukhumeze, ikhangele zonke-vouching. Ngamafutshane, nje uhanahanisi. Loo mntu unzima kakhulu ukwenza. Inokwenzeka ukuba, wakhuliswa kwintsapho eqinile kwaye echanekileyo, apho nayiphi na ihlazo elincinci, nokuba yinto engcolileyo, ibonwa njengesono sokufa, kwaye abantu abaye bavuma ukusela iglasi yebhiya babengavunyelwe ukuba baphumelele. Umntu onokukhuleliswa okunjalo kunye nabanye kubalulekile. Akasoze amkela kwaye akayi kwamkela abantu abahluke kuye kwaye akatshintshi ngombono wakhe, ekubeni ufumene imibono kunye nemigqaliselo esuka kwi-milkmaid. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uluntu sele seluzama ukumpembelela kuye, mhlawumbi kwanokuba lukhuni kwaye ngenxa yoko, ekugqibeleni waqiniseka ukuba unamandla onke, ububi kunye nenkohlakalo, kodwa uhlala ngokufanelekileyo kwaye akayi kutshintsha. Ngoko ke, ukuba udibana ngqo nomntu onjalo, kufuneka ulungele ukuba akayi kuthatha izinto ezininzi eziqhelekileyo kwabanye abantu. Kwaye uza kufuneka ubeke oku, unikezele kakhulu kwaye ubekezele ukuziphatha kwakhe. Ngoko, kule meko, kukuya kuwe ukuba unqume ukuba uhlale nomntu onjalo okanye nokuba kukulungele wena.
Kodwa ukuba ukuchaneka kwakhe akunakucatshulwa kwaye uyamkela ngokubanzi ebomini, yena akwenzi oko ngokwakhe, ngoko kufuneka ukhumbule imigaqo ethile malunga nawe.
Akukho mkhwa emibi
Kuba umntu olungileyo, imikhwa emibi, ingakumbi kubasetyhini, yinto ebomvu. Ukholelwa ukuba uluvo lwakhe luchanekile, ukuba umama ozayo akanalo ilungelo lokuchitha umzimba wakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba unqumle ukudibanisa ubomi bakho kunye nomntu ofanelekileyo, zonke izinto eziyingozi ziya kufuneka zishiywe. Ingilazi yebhiya okanye iwayini kwiholide yinto ephezulu enokukwazi ukuyifumana. Kwaye akukho nto ingabakho ncokola ngemigodi. Kakade ke, abaninzi abafazi bazama ukufihla imiphumo yabo embi, ukutshaya nokusela kuze kufike umfana. Kodwa njengoko umkhuba ubonisa, ngokukhawuleza okanye emva koko abantu baya kufumanisa malunga nalo kwaye baqale ama-scandal scandals. Amadoda alungileyo awayekezeli ubuxoki ngaphezu kwemikhwa emibi. Inyaniso yokuba awukwazi nje ukuzinqoba, kodwa uxoke ngamanga, ubacaphukisa. Umntu onjalo unokuzimela ngokukhawuleza ukuba wena, mhlawumbi, ungamthandi, ukuba uzivumela ukuba uziphathe ngendlela enjalo. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubonisa njani ukuphikisa, akayi kwamkela uxolo. Umntu onjalo ukholelwa ukuba imikhwa emibi iyona nto, into enokupheliswa lula. Yaye xa uthanda umntu, unako ukujika iintaba, kwaye ungayeki ukutshaya. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukugcina umntu onjalo kwaye uphendulele ubomi bakho zibe zihlazo eziqhubekayo kunye nokutshatyalaliswa, ngoko ngokwenene ufuna ukuba uthathe isinyathelo esinqumayo kwaye uqale nemikhwa emibi. Ngaphandle koko, le ndoda ididekile kuwe. Abantu abanjalo baneengcamango ezintle kwiimfazana. Basenokuqala ukudibana nentombazana kude neyona nto efanelekileyo (ngokwemigangatho yabo), kodwa baya kulinda ukuba batshintshe ngenxa yothando. Ukuba oku kungenzeki, i-muzhichina izakugqiba ekubeni loo mfazi ayithandi kwaye uya kuphulaphula ubudlelwane, ukukhathazeka okufanayo kufunga amagama. Ibhinqa ekuqondeni kwayo isidalwa sihlambulukile. Ungunkulunkulukazi, unina, ulungile. Yaye ukuba i-etotideal ithumela kuzo zonke iincwadi eziyaziwayo nezingaziwayo, ngoko umntu ochanekileyo ufika ngexesha lokudumala. Ngoko ke, ukuba ungumthandi womntu onzima, kuya kufuneka ulahle le mkhwa ngenxa yobuhlobo bakho nolutsha.
Nciphisa
Kwaye into yokugqibela abantu abayiyiqonda kwaye abayiyithandi yothando. Umfana onjalo akaze akhangele enye intombazana, kodwa akayi kuqonda ukuba unomngcakaza nomfana oselula. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abalungileyo abathandeli ubuhlobo phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini, kuba bakholelwa ukuba akakho. Kodwa ukuba unethamsanqa ukuba abe ngumhlobo kunye namantombazana ngokwakhe, ngoko unako ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kubuhlobo bakho kunye nabafana ade abone into ethile. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngokuqhelekileyo nabantu abancinci ngaphandle kwendoda yakho, libale ngokumamatheka okubalulekileyo, kubukeka njalo njalo. Kufuneka uziphathe njengomhlobo, njengoko abantu beziphatha nabahlobo besini esifanayo. Ngaphandle koko, indoda elungileyo iya kuchaza indlela oziphatha ngayo, njengomnqweno wokutshintsha nokuyeka ukuthemba.
Enyanisweni, umntu othe tye - oku kubini ukudibanisa okukhulu, kunye nokuncinci okukhulu. Unako ukuhlala uthembele kumntu onjalo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uya ku thembeka, kodwa ngenxa yakhe uya kufuneka anikezele kakhulu.