Inyaniso yokuba ibhinqa kufuneka lihlale libukeka lihle, akukho mntu uyathandabuza. Kufana ne-axiom engafuni iimpikiswano kunye nobungqina, kuba umntu "uyamthanda ngamehlo akhe," kwaye kunjalo. Ngexesha elifanayo, kukholelwa ukuba indoda "kufuneka ibe ngcono kangcono kunesilwanyana", kwaye oku kukuphela komcimbi. Okokuthi, indoda eqhelekileyo ebonakalayo ifana nendoda enhle kunye neqela elifanelekileyo. Enyanisweni, ukubonakala komntu, kunye nokubonakala komfazi, kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekukhetheni iqabane. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukujonga kwethu kokuqala siqwalasela ukubonakala komntu: ebusweni bakhe, umzimba kunye nokuvumba ... Akusiyo imfihlelo yokuba abantu abahle bahlala be "mfuneko enkulu" phakathi kwamantombazana. Iintsikelelo ezinjalo zintlonelo zifuna ngokwenene, emva kwazo "zigijime" zonke iintombazana ezivela kwiklasi, ngokufanelekileyo, ngenxa yoko, le nto iphanga intsha kwaye iyabonakala. Ukusebenzisa "imfuno" enjalo ubuhle babo, aba bantu bahlala bengakhange baxhomekeke kulwalamano oluqinileyo, kuba kubo kukhetho olukhulu kwaye balisebenzisa. Ngokwemvelo, ukuqala kwasebusheni, ubume bendoda enokuza kuvela.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kwaziwa ukuba umfana ukhangeleke kakuhle, akusoloko ehlambulukileyo kwaye enomoya. Kufumanisa ukuba ezintle ziyakwazi ulwalamano oluqinileyo kwaye ziyaziwa ngokusemgangathweni kwemigaqo yokuziphatha, ngeli xesha, njengabanye "ubuhenyukazi", badumiwe ngendima yeCasanova.
Ewe, yintoni inyaniso ukufihla, thina ngandlela-thile sibe "abangenamandla" emehlweni omntu ovelele, ngakumbi ukuba lo mva uqala ukusiphulaphula. Kodwa, njengoko bethetha, bahlangana kwiingubo, kwaye bayazibona engqondweni. Xa i-"prelude" igqityiwe, ngaba malunga nolwazi lokuqala, ulwazi luqala. Kwaye ukuba umntu engabonakali nto kuye njengomntu kwaye njengomntu, ngoko ndicinga ukuba "ukupakishwa okuhle" kungekudala kuya kukhupha yonke into. Kuyafana okufanayo nentombazana enhle. Ukuba ngaba ngokwenene nje "yindoda", ngoko umntu onxulumene nolwalamano olunzulu akanakwenzeka ukuba akhethe umntu onjalo. Kwaye, njengoko besithi, bebulumko kwaye bantle kubi, kodwa ngaba ngaba bafazi basemalini. Umntu, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokubhekiselele kulo mbandela kulula. Kuba umntu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ngumphefumlo omhle, ukuba akwazi ukuthetha kakuhle kwaye abe nomdla kwaye aphumelele, kwakhona ndixinezelekile, ndiphumelele. Ngokufanayo, ukuvumelana nokuphumelela, ingqondo iyakwazi ukunqoba ibhinqa ininzi.
Ukuba umntu uphinde ucinge ngombuzo othi "Ngaba ukubonakala komntu kubalulekile kumfazi", ngoko ndicinga ukuba umfazi owazi kakuhle impendulo yalo mbuzo. Yaye impendulo yile ilandelayo: "Kubalulekile, kodwa akunjalo." Ukuba ubeka phambili, ubuhle obungaphandle buza kuhlala kwindawo ethile kwindawo ye-4-5 phakathi kweempawu zobuntu kunye nobuchule.
"Ngoku ndidibana nomntu ongenasiphelo ongenandaba nokuba ukhangeleka njani kwaye akakhathaleli ukuba ngaba ngaphandle bacinga ngani. Ngexesha elifanayo, ungumntu onomdla kwaye unzulu. Kuyo - indoda eyinyani kwaye yomeleleyo, engemva kwam andiyiki kwaye ikhululekile. Yiyo yonke into yokuba mna, ingonyamakazi kwi-horoscope, ndibukeka kakuhle, ndigqoke kakuhle kwaye ubukele ukubukeka kwam. Ukuhlobisa kwakhe - ndiyam ... Ndiza kwisigqibo sokuba ezichaseneyo ziyatsalwa. Kwaye, into ephambili kukuba umntu uyangithanda kwaye uyandithanda, "uRita uxela. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha udibana nomntu omncinci, obonakala ngathi akayiyo yonke into ebambini, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo abantu bayonwabile kwaye bahlala kunye. Umkhwa wangaphakathi wendoda yilekhadi lexilongo elingakwazi ukunqoba ibhinqa elingaphezulu nje kwedatha yangaphandle.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuba umfazi udibana nomntu omhle, onobuhle kunye nomntu onomtsalane, akasathethi ukuba uya kumkhetha ukuba abe ngumlingane wobomi, ngenxa yokuba ubomi bentsapho buzinzile, iimpawu ezifaniyo zifunekayo. Kubalulekile kakade ukuba indoda ithande abantwana, ithembeke, ithembekile kwaye ihlakaniphile. Njengomnye wabantu bamdala ababaziyo bathi: "Kwindoda ebini ibalulekileyo ibalulekileyo: iphunga kunye nenyaniso yokuba ufuna ukuba nabantwana kuye. Ukuba ngaba "ababini" bekhona - ngesibindi phantsi kwesithsaba. "
Yiyiphi indoda yamaphupha akho, wazi kuphela wena. Yiyiphi into ebalulekileyo yokhetho lwakho, ubuhle okanye ingqondo, kwaye mhlawumbi zombini iinqununu eziphambili ezithethwa intliziyo yakho. Ukuxhomekeka entliziyweni yakho, uya kuhlala ukhetha ngokufanelekileyo. Abahle, abahlakaniphile nabanomdla kuwe, bafazi abathandekayo!