Ukuze uphendule lo mbuzo: "kutheni bonke abafana bezithembele", masizame ukufumana ukuqala-yintoni ukuzithemba nokuzithemba. Ngaba kukho ukumahluko phakathi kwezi zinto ezimbini.
Ukuzithemba yipropati yomntu, ebonisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, ngokwamakhono akhe nezenzo zakhe. Ngelo xesha, onke amandla akhe ayaphawulwa nguye kuphela, kodwa ngabanye. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ucacisa ngokulula, ngoko ukuzithemba kuthi xa ukuhlolwa komntu ngamandla akhe kuhambelana nenyaniso.
Kodwa, ukuba ukuzithemba komntu kukuphakamileyo okanye kunesiqhelo kunesiqhelo, ke le ngqungquthela ibizwa ngokuba yithemba okanye ukuzithemba.
Oku kulandela ukuba umntu ozikhukhumezayo uyakuthanda kakhulu, ukholelwa ukuba zonke izenzo zakhe zichanekile kwaye amathuba akhe ayinasiphelo. Kodwa, ukuze agwetywe ngabanye okanye angamkeli imbono yakhe yonke into ngenxa yokungavumelani namakhono akhe-umntu onokuzithemba akanandaba.
Uthini umahluko phakathi kokuziphatha komntu onokuzithemba nozithembayo.
Nazi imimiselo embalwa echaza ukungafani phakathi kwabantu abanokuzithemba nokuzithemba:
- Umntu onokuzithemba uyaphatha ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uyaziqonda iimpumelelo zakhe ebomini, xa ukuzithemba kuthatha yonke into njengento.
- umntu othembekileyo uyazi iinxalenye zakhe ezinamandla nezibuthathaka. Ngelo xesha, ukuba into ayisebenziyo ebomini bakhe, akayi kudlala intlekele kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo.
- umntu othembekileyo uhlala eyazi kakuhle oko akwaziyo. Iinjongo ezibekwayo zihlala zihambelana nobuchule bakhe bokwenene. Abantu abazithembayo bahlala bebeka umgomo wokufezekisa.
- Abantu abathembekileyo, xa kukho into eyenziwa ebomini, iyavuya kakhulu. Ukuba ubomi babo buyiphumeleliso okanye ukungaphumeleli, abayicingi njengesizathu sokukhungatheka. Umntu othembekileyo uya kubonisa amandla, ahlaziye zonke iimpazamo zakhe, ukuze agweme ukulahleka okunjalo kwixesha elizayo. Abantu abanokuzithemba, ngokuchasene noko, bengaphumeleli, baqonde yonke into njengento yokuhlambalaza. Zivame ukukhubeka kwaye zihoxiswe ngokwazo, ngelixa zizingathathi zecala lokungaphumeleli.
Kutheni bonke abafana bekholose ngokwabo .
Ukudibana nexesha lethu kumfana osenene ngokwenene uye waba yinyani. Ngelishwa, ukuzithemba kwamadoda kubonakala kudala, xa sele sele ufezekisile into ethile ebomini kwaye uzinzile kwiinyawo zakhe.
Kwaye, into yokuba abafana abaselula banokuzithemba. Oku kubonakaliswa kukubonakalisa ukunyaniseka, izikhundla eziphezulu, ezingagqithwanga nantoni na.
Akuyinto engathandabuzekiyo, kodwa abantu abazithembekileyo, ukuba uhlalutya ngokunyanisekileyo kwiimeko zabo zengqondo, bahlala befihla ukuzithemba ngokuziphatha okunjalo. Ukuzithemba ngokusoloko kuvela ngesiseko sokuphulwa kweentsilelo apho umfana omdala ngenxa yobudala bakhe abakwazanga ukujamelana nokuzeyisa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana ngokuziphatha kwabo kunye nothando olugqithiseleyo banikela umfana ithuba lokuhlamba ukuzithemba-inkolelo yokuba akayi kuphinda aphinde angcono kunokuba engekho kwaye akayi kuba sehlabathini lonke. Abantu abazithembayo bazinzima ekuboneni ukugxekwa okubakhayo, okusemngciphekweni kwaye bavaliwe kuluntu.
Ukuba umntu wakho ungumntu onokuzithemba. Kwaye, oku kumvimbela, kwaye wena kunye nokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane bakho, ngoko, kulolu hlobo, ungakhetha iindlela ezimbini eziphuma kwimeko yangoku.
Indlela yokuqala kukuzama ukunceda loo mfana ufumane ukuzithemba. Zama ukumbuyisela emhlabeni uze umfundise ukuba athathe amathuba akhe ngokufanelekileyo. Kule meko, kufuneka siqwalasele ukuba amanyathelo amaninzi - njengokugxeka okuqhubekayo-kunokukhubekisa umntu. Ngoko ke, zama ukunyamekela, ukunyaniseka, ubonise ingqalelo enkulu kunye nothando.
Indlela yesibini yokuphuma, njengoko usenokuba uqikelele, yintlupheko yobudlelwane. Inyaniso kukuba akusiyo yonke intombazana eya kuqhubeka nokuziphatha komntu othembekileyo.